Why are people so mean?

[SoftDarkKitten]

I just got kicked out of a lesbian pride group I liked for saying DDlg is Not about sexualizing children or illegal activities. They were even saying things about Furries are zoophlies when they aren't technically even kink at all.

A part of why I like this community so much is, because, it feels so soft and safe. I was a victim of the thing they accused me of supporting.

I feel so scared and hurt right now. I would never hurt anyone or anything ever. I'm not bad, right?

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"I'm not a bad girl. I'm a good girl, right?"

-Bubbles, Powerpuff Girls

[RobbieBobbie]

I don't think you're bad I just think some people are too closed minded and suck, don't listen to them they are sucky people ☺

[Little kaiya]

Closed minded people don't really want to have discussions or hear the truth. They've made up their minds and then usually just want to lash out to try and make themselves feel better about their own lives.

 

As a furry, LGBT, sub, pansexual, genderfluid and polyamorous person I get that it sucks when people are judgmental. That said, know it's their issue and not yours. Look at this as an opportunity to go and find open minded people vs the closed minded people that were in that group.

[MasterPhotog]

As Big Panda and Daddy Wolf's little pink champagne fox have rightly said, it has nothing to do with you, it's them who have a huge problem by being closed minded.

You're better off to let them live in their own tiny, closed-minded world, move on and continue to be proud of for what you're.

[Guest PrincessSparkles35]

I just got kicked out of a lesbian pride group I liked for saying DDlg is Not about sexualizing children or illegal activities. They were even saying things about Furries are zoophlies when they aren't technically even kink at all.

A part of why I like this community so much is, because, it feels so soft and safe. I was a victim of the thing they accused me of supporting.

I feel so scared and hurt right now. I would never hurt anyone or anything ever. I'm not bad, right?

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"I'm not a bad girl. I'm a good girl, right?"

-Bubbles, Powerpuff Girls

Pls don't let them get in ur brain like that. I was abused as well and that is a difficult thing to deal with. Ppl don't understand and judge even when they don't want others to judge them. Our community is here and safe. Sending hugs to u.

[chateautal]

I guess "Haters gonna hate" is a saying for a reason. But I think DDLG is fabulous, and I'm sure you're fabulous too, so don't let ignorant people get you down!

[Guardian_Witcher]

I just got kicked out of a lesbian pride group I liked for saying DDlg is Not about sexualizing children or illegal activities. They were even saying things about Furries are zoophlies when they aren't technically even kink at all.

A part of why I like this community so much is, because, it feels so soft and safe. I was a victim of the thing they accused me of supporting. They called me a "nonces"????

I feel so scared and hurt right now. I would never hurt anyone or anything ever. I'm not bad, right?

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"I'm not a bad girl. I'm a good girl, right?"

-Bubbles, Powerpuff Girls

You are a good girl. 

 

DDLG might get a bad rap in people's minds because of the 'younger' connection people have. It's funny to me that people who banded together because they were ostracized would do it to someone else. 

Until I got here and experienced, I wouldn't have understood as much as I do now about DDLG. DDLG isn't about kids. 

 

It's about connecting with your inner self, and finding a safe environment and safe people to explore that with without judgement. 

We aren't here to hurt anyone. And this place by itself helped me wash away any shame I had and let me explore and accept my inner self. I made peace with my inner self and I grew to love it. 

 

Inside of us, there's an energy. We are drawn to in this place to being mommy's and daddy's, caregivers or dom's, or on the opposite side to be little's, middle's, big's, pets, or subs or more. 

And both sides of that energy spectrum aren't wrong. One has a need to take care of, the other has a need to be taken care of. And in return both people often are both taken care of and taking care of the other. 

 

To me its beautiful, and sweet. And while misunderstood, this side of BDSM, because it is still a power exchange, it's a gentler loving side of it. 

 

I love my little girls that I take care of, they are my pride and joy. I get to teach them things and help them grow. And i'm sure many daddy's/mommy's help them feel the same. 

 

So, for you, you have to sit down with yourself and decide. Am I okay being like this? Is this a need I have? Do I want it met? Can I love myself as I really am?

 

And if you can, then embrace being a daddy/mommy/little/etc. 

This is you. If you don't know who / what you are then try and explore, make friends, discover yourself. 

The real you is down there, covered by what society told you it should be. And this place, it's like a waterfall that washes those old preconceptions away. 

It's not up to us to require everyone to accept us, you get to choose who you tell about this. 

 

At a minimum though, you should accept and love yourself. 

Best wishes, and bless you. You, are a good girl, and a blessing to this world.

[Princess Sugarsaurus]

I'm sorry this happened to you, I know it can be tough.

 

I know I haven't been in the DDLG community very long, but I can say that I've felt this in many groups before being a pansexual poly person. People who do not understand, have one way of thinking. I mean, to be fair, I used to think DDLG was only a sexual kink til I found out otherwise and have fully embraced my littleness now. <3 But I was open minded. I was willing to understand and learn. There will always be people out there that are closed minded, who don't understand another group and don't wish to. They can't see past what they have always known. But that doesn't mean you are any less valid, and it doesn't mean you are a bad person because of other people's unwillingness to learn. You are a good bean. <3 

[LittleTeacup]

I'm sorry the people in that group were so mean.  A lot of people don't understand DDLG and think it's about promoting stuff with underage children or incest when that's not the truth at all. Or some people still think BDSM in general is inherently abusive.

 

They were wrong for kicking you out. You were so good being honest about your interests. We good girls sometimes get hurt by others, but it's a victory if we can stay good and soft regardless. It's admirable.

[daddymind]

They're so proud they can't see passed their own arse.

[LilDemonBaby]

personally i dont have time to spend on worrying about poopy-faced jerkasauruses. they can suck a cactus. too busy living! i know it might be too hard for you, but just try to let that stuff go. you know theyre ignorant and that youre a star!

[Guest Ion1234]

I have no reason to be mean to anyone