Daddy Destress ideas help?

[Princess Sugarsaurus]

So recently there have been a few days where my Dom has been pretty stressed out, and as a little, obviously I just want to snuggle up to them and make everything better.. but what works for me, doesn't really work for them in the sense of distressing. Sometimes they don't want to hang out or talk or really do much interacting. So I was wondering, what are some ways you help your Daddies de-stress in a way that doesn't come off as annoying? (Sometimes I can be a bit over the top and bratty without meaning to in these situations, so ideas and advice are what I'm looking for please! <3)

[Alaskan Daddy]

You sound like me and want to try to 'save the world'  whenever I had a little that was stressed. Sometimes all she wanted was a loving message to know I was thinking about her and give her some space. As a daddy, normally that is what I want. Do you live with your DOM? 

[Princess Sugarsaurus]

I don't! Right now we have a long distance relationship. I do want to try and be helpful, I can understand they might need space, but I also feel like I want to try and do something to help. 

[PigtailPrincess]

Sometimes it is little things. Instead of wanting long drawn out conversations maybe leave him a message to read when he wakes up telling him how strong he is and how you feel about him. Make it a little mushy lol. I have also found that sometimes he just wants to talk to an adult. So I put my little self on hold to give him the few minutes he needs. Hope this helps!

[Princess Sugarsaurus]

I've recently been trying to put my little self on hold, which is really hard for me. I'm pretty much little as often as I can be. I have tried that, which seems to be helping a bit, but honestly they still seem really stressed, so I was hoping there might be some other way I just hadn't thought of. Thanks though!

[Alaskan Daddy]

If I was your DOM and feeling stress I would want something that would make smile, Maybe color a picture just for him. Send him a loving message telling him how much of a difference he makes in your life. For me it is the little things that make the biggest difference. I hope this helps you

[Princess Sugarsaurus]

Thank you! I might try and share the next picture I color and see if that helps! Hehe. x3

[Guest Looby-Lou]

... but what works for me, doesn't really work for them in the sense of distressing. Sometimes they don't want to hang out or talk or really do much interacting. 

 

It's great that you've realised there's a difference between what he needs and what you would want if you were stressed.

 

If he doesn't want to interact much, then I echo the others - send messages, pictures, inspiring or funny quotes from Pinterest etc. Things he doesn't need to respond to immediately but can look at when he wants to. 

Voice or video messages can create a loving way of being in touch - keep them short n sweet.

Let him know you're ok (so he doesn't worry) but that you're missing him (so he still feels needed).

 

But most importantly, have you asked him how you can help? Have you said something like "I know you're stressed & I don't want to get in the way, but I do so much want to make life nicer for you. What's the best way I could help you?"

 

And finally, it might be tough for you if he's not interacting much (speaking as a clingy person myself, but maybe you're not). Plus it can be hard to accept that we CAN'T help the one we love, so you might just have to swallow that to a certain extent.

So please make sure to look after yourself too.

 

Hoping things improve soon!

 

Looby 

 

 

[LittleGirlEmilia]

My first thought was NSFW

 

 

Sexytimes

 

 

 

Your daddy might need some self care. Put on netflix, play a game, chill out and just relax. Do nothing. Maybe suggest to them that they switch off their communication devices and blank everything out for a bit. Whatever is stressing them they obviously need to work through.

 

As a little, I would do what has been previously suggested and send cute pictures, videos, voice clips, drawings, maybe send some TikTok videos, memes. You could ask if they want an adult to adult discussion about the stress too? 

[Princess Sugarsaurus]

But most importantly, have you asked him how you can help? Have you said something like "I know you're stressed & I don't want to get in the way, but I do so much want to make life nicer for you. What's the best way I could help you?"

 

And finally, it might be tough for you if he's not interacting much (speaking as a clingy person myself, but maybe you're not). Plus it can be hard to accept that we CAN'T help the one we love, so you might just have to swallow that to a certain extent.

So please make sure to look after yourself too.

 

I have asked how I can help, and they have said no, there's nothing I can do. So I think that's the part that hurts me the most. I try my best though as I want them to get better. It doesn't help like I said previously that we are long distance, so it's not like I can be there in their field of vision and just be cute. (This is my typical answer to things. haha) Which usually works for say my husband. He's also a little so typically what makes me feel better, also makes him feel better. So I'll go crawl all over him, ask him to take a bath with me and kinda relax. I can't do that with them.. but they won't open up to what I can do.

 

I have found that dealing with an adult in this situation seems to help, instead of dealing with my little.. but that's also really hard for me to control around them as I am pretty much a little all the time except for when I have to be an adult. So it ends up getting mixed around in there anyway when I am talking to them. It's hard for me to pull out of little space when around them. 

 

I'm really clingy as well, so yes it is really tough for me if they're not interacting with me, so that's why I thought I'd reach out here on the forum to see what suggestions others had. I will try and send some cute videos, some cute messages and I liked the idea to color a picture for them. hehe. Maybe that will work. It will allow me to be little, but it won't be too annoying or anything like that if I just send small things.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

sometimes just being a listening ear, reminding your Daddy that they are your partner and allowed to be a human being with feelings & emotions is enough.

sometimes, extending the same soft care that they give to you on the daily is all they need. 

[LittleLover909]

[LittleLover909]