Little/little relationships?

[Vanna]

Ok so here's my story.

 

A couple of years ago when I was with my last girlfriend, our concept of a "date" was either staying at home watching cartoons (we had our first kiss watching Lazy Town), drawing and painting or playing videogames and board games, or going to arcades and amusement parks; and one time we went to a museum, and there was a free tour for "little paleontologists" and we tried to get in but they wouldn't let us because it was for kids 7 and under, and we started joking about "totally being 7". We were both in our early 20s by the way.

 

We didn't knew anything about DDlg, CGL or anything like that at the time, but in retrospective I now realize that we basically had a little/little relationship. Is that even a thing? Because that's apparently not very common and I don't know how to find other people interested in that kind of dynamics.

[Guardian_Witcher]

The little bit I've heard about it is that these relationships are harder to maintain. Littles often don't just desire a playmate, but also a care taker. Because both partners in your above case would be littles, that need for structure, being taken care of, and everything else makes it harder. As well sometimes one of the partner will try to assume the more dominant role but if that is not their natural state then they are often dissatisfied by being forced to be the dom when they want to be the sub in the relationship.

 

It's not impossible I imagine, just harder. Alternative relationships are where both partners are together but then they have a joint or aelerwte care takers. This might still cause friction. Either way, best of luck. Whatever works for you and your partner is all that matters and these are what I've heard about not experienced myself. Best wishes.

[Guest Yali]

I had a short online relationship with another Little. We never met, we only chatted and sent innocent pictures, and it lasted for a few weeks only. We talked about toys and little clothes etc. and showed pictures of our stuff to each other. The Little said that if we met they could try to be a Caregiver too sometimes, so they had a bit switch traits probably. The problem in the relationship was that we both were mentally ill, and they complained about their problems to me and my mind was too weak to handle ”I want to hurt or kill myself”-rants. I had to end it even though it had been nice. I don’t have energy to worry about two people’s problems. I guess I need a partner who is somewhat healthy mentally, so I wouldn’t have to spend lots of time as the supporter. It felt ok at first that we both were ill, we could somewhat understand each other, but it just couldn’t work in the end. Two sick people is a difficult combination, particularly if neither of them has strength to often be the supporting one.

[RavenclawPrincess]

Whatever works for people as far as relationships go is fine. Little/little relationships are just as valid as any other dynamic as long as everyone is happy. That can be the trick, though, and like other said most littles do prefer to partner with someone that’s more dominant so you don’t see it happen as much. However, such relationships DO exist.

[LittleGirlEmilia]

Personally, I have seen little/little relationships work and thrive, and I've seen it done in a few different ways.

 

One of the ways I can think of from the top of my head is when they're part of a poly relationship. The littles see each other as siblings and usually they'll have a partner they share, or a partner each who is their caregiver.

 

Another way I have seen it work is when two littles are independent, in the sense they don't want, or need, a caregiver. It does happen, and it can work. Every relationship is different so it's entirely up to you and what makes you happy.

[Bubbles_and_Feathers]

I'm currently in a relationship with another little, although it's fairly new and remains to be seen how well it will work out. But I've heard that it can work out okay. (Also, I'm finding out I may be a switch, so that probably helps.)

[Vanna]

Thank you guys for all the answers  I guess it worked for us (we broke up eventually, but for completely unrelated reasons) because we were both independent people who weren't into the whole "being taken care of", just two adults who enjoyed doing "kids'" stuff. Ideally, the perfect relationship for me would resemble that of two friends playing together

Edited February 15, 2020 by Vanna

[Princess Sugarsaurus]

Hi! So i actually made an account, just to reply to this. haha. I was a lurker before!

 

I am actually a little married to another little! And I will say, I am very new to the little community so this is from a newcomer's mind set.

 

For me it works because I always have a play mate to run around with. We get excited over the same types of things and it's nice to have another little around when I want to do something that I might get stares from doing it alone like climbing over things and running around playing with children's toys. It makes me feel more comfortable to have another little with me. I don't really see him as a sibling, for me it's more of like a child's crush, very playful and 'I'm gonna pick on you because I like you' type things. I constantly try to tickle him, even though he hates it. But, I'm a brat. haha.

 

I am poly, and he is not. So there's also a difference there. I personally kinda have a Dom (super long story), but it's a tentative thing, and kind-of in the trial period for this. Because he's not poly, he doesn't really want a Dom, but understands my need to want one. So we're seeing how this works out for us, to make sure all of us are happy in the situation. We've had long talks about it, and I feel like things are going well right now, but everyone is one board with the idea that if anyone is not 100% okay with this, we will speak up, and figure out what our next move is. My Dom kinda considers us a package deal, while they have claimed me, they really haven't claimed my husband, but helps take care of him in a way too. 

 

Outside of with a Dom, it's an interesting experience. We kinda do daily duties for each other in a way a Dom would to a degree, and that helps. Like, I love being tucked in and he does that for me. We also take baths together a lot so we can wash each other and play in the water. We like to bring rubber duckies with us, we have a collection of them. hehe. Then we set reminders on phones for each other like 'Take your meds!' or 'Call the auto insurance people!' so we keep track of what we need to do for that day, and kinda help each other that way. 

 

I will also add that neither of our littles are sexual, so I think that also carries a factor in how we interact with one another and how we interact with the idea of introducing a Dom into our relationship.

 

All in all, I think it works for us.. and of course what works for other us may not work for others, but I am happy with what we have now.

Edited February 16, 2020 by Princess Sugarsaurus

[Guest QueenJellybean]

this is actually not an uncommon thing!

as a polyamorous person, i've also been involved in littlexlittle relationships. 

there's been a fair number of topics on this subject as well:

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/22346-little-little-relationships/?hl=little+relationships

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/9003-a-double-little-relationship/?hl=little+relationships&do=findComment&comment=51265

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/18593-are-littlelittle-relationships-even-a-thing/?hl=little+relationships

[LittlePupRune]

It could totally work. The thing to remember is that while cgl often has a power exchange of some sort (ex daddyDOM/little) it does not need one and so little/little can totally work if negotiated properly. There could be dynamics of older/younger sibling if wanted, or just playmates. As long as it’s discussed properly you could have any type of relationship arrangement.