How do you know if you're a little?

[Loki1]

I have a Dom of my own and I 100% know I'm a submissive, but how do you know whether you're a little or not? I feel like I might be but I'm honestly not too sure. 

 

How did you find out? 

[EvieTheOne]

I don't know about others' experiences, but I think of myself more like a switch, because I have a submissive side that feels so good, and I also have what I call middle, but it's a fairly dominant, warrior Queen/ nurturing Mother side, that takes orders or dominance from noone...soo... we're going to have fun exploring all these sides to us for the rest of our lives, methinks! ❤️

As a general rule I go by what and how I feel..does someone dominating me feels like home? Yes. Does me being top, in authority, and caring for my man as a nurse/nanny/mother wouldo come naturally to me? Yes...so these are the frameworks I can work with for the time being! I'd say to be as open minded as you can and experiment with what feels good, and even with what doesn't! I know that whichever position I adopt, I don't share and restricting my partner in this sense, excites me, I get a power rush from controlling his pleasure.

[Pupperoo]

I think the Little spectrum is massive, so it can be difficult for any one person to explain. For me personally being Little shows when I go into a headspace where I kinda shut down. I communicate very sparcely or very loudly. I get far more touchy and affection and my emotions are all over the place. My interests lean very much towards more childish things. The main thing is that I feel small though; I feel like I am just a small child. Of course this changes from person to person. Some are more middle (teenyears), some are very small or some are just interested in the little stuff without any real age regression.

Just looking around online and reading about other littles is the only way to get a good idea really.

[Guest frozenwolf]

Thank you both immensely. I'm a switch as well and still struggling with my little/middle side. This made a whole bunch of sense to me.

[EvieTheOne]

Can I ask which aspects are you struggling with, specifically? Acceptance, getting in the mindset, unaligned switching with your partner? Thank you

[Guest frozenwolf]

The biggest would be getting into little mindset at all honestly

[EvieTheOne]

So there's an emotional/mental blockage...I would venture to say that people give up their ego defences when they feel safe and accepted. Find a person who validates those feelings in you by being super nonjudgmental and caring, accepting of your little. Then, with time and gentle training, you will come to accept and love your little side as well. This is the beauty of true love, it's a given, there are no expectations, thus we get to unfold in our authentic self.

[LittleCelticLass]

For me, it litterally took someone saying "hey, I think you might be a little". Before him, I had no idea there was a term for what I am, or a lifestyle that went past ABDL and naughty school girl tool play.

I was directed to some web sites, and the more I read the more I knew this was me. After 20 years of struggling as a submissive because something was still missing, now I feel complete.

[Guest Sky-at-Night]

Oh, I'm so glad to have found this topic! This is the reason I came onto DDlgforum. Having only recently found out I was a submissive I'm now trying to discover whether I am an older middle or just a plain sub who likes Doms with Daddy tendencies. LittleCelticLass mentioned some websites... if you could direct me to those too I would be eternally grateful...