Maybe an atypical DDLG relationship...

February 9, 2020

Hi! I am almost positive- as I havent seen anything like it- that my situation is different and I am hoping to get some advice and opinions from this community. As I'm new to this community.. please dont be to harsh I'm just- stuck.

First things first some background so maybe someone can give me some advice on how to help my little: I am a woman and I have taken on the DD roll for my little. She calls me daddy, sir, etc etc which is fine not a problem for me- I enjoy it.

My little is a MtF trans woman veteran this goes without saying but also not a problem

The problem(s)

It's hard for my little to go into little space I know it's a mindset but due to her background as a veteran and her being trans- she has a much harder time getting into a little mindset without feeling insecure. I know she likes being in little space- she feels insecure due to all of the masculinity from the military and her conflicting mindsets from being born Male. She also has a hard time admitting to little things she might enjoy and like to do. The only real thing I've found she really likes are stuffies and she has a teddy bear she sleeps with every night. She also has a collar which she likes to wear only when she feels secure. She also loves video games but I dont know of any good games that would be fun for both of us to play.

It's also not helping her mindset that I'm small. I'm short and I'm tiny and she is bigger than me. (She has never said anything about it but I think it might be contributing)

Now my questions:

We have a set time where we talk every week.

What are some things I can say/do to help her feel more secure?

What are some suggestions I can bring to the table for her and I to try to help her enter into little space?

And

What can I do to seem bigger and more dominating/more in control.

I really appreciate any help or advice and if there was already a topic like this and I missed it please just let me know!! Also again I'm sorry if this is a little atypical and if it doesnt belong in this forum.

February 10, 2020

this is a great question. i'm glad you came to us for some support! hopefully, we can be of some assistance.

first of all, this may be surprising, but your situation isn't all that unique or different! we have a lot of female DD's here, & a lot of MtF trans littles, even many who are veterans.

not all of these folks might have the exact situation you are in, but i'm sure we can find some people who have little pieces of each that we can draw from to help you out. :heart: