Keeping secrets

[Guest QuixoticCrybaby]

I know that daddies are here to protect and support, but I am afraid to talk about my past with depression. I don't want to scare him off because things are really good, but I think my depression is coming back and I don't know how to tell daddy about it. I really don't want to lose him. I need some serious advice.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

So talk to him. He is the one person you should be able to talk to. This is one area that is very common with daddy's. They need honesty. You don't have to go into every little detail, but keeping secrets is never good. If you trust him, you should talk to him.

[Daddys__kitten]

I think most men, and especially daddies, wants to be the good knight in shining armor for their girl. He wants to be the place where his girl is safe so he can protect her from all evil. Even if the evil is inside her head.

If you don't talk about it with your daddie, you take away the possibility for him to be that knight and protect you.

I know this is hard, to open up your heart to someone and show them just how vulnerable you really are. And when you do your daddie might do what most men do=start giving advice or tell you how you can fix the problem. So start with telling him that you just want him to listen to you and that you need him to be there for you, to hug you etc. Daddies love their girls not just for the happy moments, but always, even when their girls are sad and depressed. Of course they want their girls to be happy all the times, but daddies _need_ to feel that they are protecting their girls and care for their wellbeing. It's like having an army but no war, they don't have a job to do, same goes with daddies if you dont let him make you safe.

[LittleAki]

It's really hard isn't it...to admit to someone you care, that inside, you don't feel like the sun is shining as brightly as it could...

 

Been there, done that.  Have meds to help with that whenever mine cycles round, lol.

 

Best thing to do is to communicate with your Daddy.  Is there specific things in the past that have helped break a cycle? Or are there specific things that would make it less bad?

 

A way to go about it is to tell your daddy you are having a case of the sad grumps. where your brain just takes a hiatus and can't seem to get the good emotions flowing.  Ask him if there is anything he can think of that might help you get the good emotions going again.

 

When I finally told my Daddy that I suffer from depression, he went on like a 5 hour research crusade.  And since then, he has learned to read my body language before I have a chance to tell him I have the sad grumps.