Resisting the urge to fall into little space..

[xxShyPrincessxx]

[Pupperoo]

There is nothing that says you can't find a headspace that allows you to be little in public, but in a way that is more socially accepted. I tend to get very playful in my tone, and in a very bubbly mood. That doesn't mean that I can't be like that around people at a workplace. Not sure if I make sense here xD

[xxShyPrincessxx]

[MasterPhotog]

It's too bad that you're at work. Bet you can't wait to get home or to a littlespace-friendly place.

[Pupperoo]

You’re absolutely right, I guess I haven’t quite figured that out yet I think my issue is that I don’t know how to feel little and also behave like a grown person. Hence why I try to shove it down. I’m worried that people might notice a change in my behaviour or even my voice. I become super small and my voice gets softer and I just giggle and get sassy. Those are all parts of my nature but there’s a noticeable difference when I start getting little

Yeah, it's the same for me! My behavior and voice change a lot too, but because of how anxious I am around people I kinda end up in between just naturally. I get excited about silly little stuff, but I still talk to other people as if I am a grown up. Plushies or dogs? I squeal kinda quietly. People? I say what needs to be said and move on. I understand if it's different for everyone though. We're all different after all

[xxShyPrincessxx]

It's too bad that you're at work. Bet you can't wait to get home or to a littlespace-friendly place.

Most definitely! Can’t wait can’t wait!☺️

[Quirkygrl16]

I struggle with that alll the time. I usually end up trying to do stuff that requires a lot of thinking and brain power so my brain focuses on other stuff

[xxShyPrincessxx]

I struggle with that alll the time. I usually end up trying to do stuff that requires a lot of thinking and brain power so my brain focuses on other stuff

Yesss distraction is pretty much the only thing I can think of in the moment to get out of it

[Guest QueenJellybean]

something i find really helpful here are "little space reminders."

whether it's playing your music when it's just you in the car on your way home from work at night, 

or wearing a onesie to bed once you're alone in your bedroom, 

or bringing a small stuffed animal to class with you in your backpack,

or coloring at your desk at work, 

or putting cute hair ties in your hair when you get ready in the morning instead of boring ones, 

or choosing a child's lunch option like a juice box instead of a water bottle. 

 

little reminders while you're big of who you are inside -- when you're playing the role of a Big Person, that is -- can be really helpful to stave off that need to go tiny. 

 

[Guest PrincessSparkles35]

You’re absolutely right, I guess I haven’t quite figured that out yet I think my issue is that I don’t know how to feel little and also behave like a grown person. Hence why I try to shove it down. I’m worried that people might notice a change in my behaviour or even my voice. I become super small and my voice gets softer and I just giggle and get sassy. Those are all parts of my nature but there’s a noticeable difference when I start getting little

I totally understand where ur coming from....i have similar experiences at work and feel like I have to give myself a pep talk about staying big.

[Guest PrincessSparkles35]

It's too bad that you're at work. Bet you can't wait to get home or to a littlespace-friendly place.

I've figured out when I can't stop my little space from coming I take a walk and be by myself for a while.

[Guest PrincessSparkles35]

I struggle with that alll the time. I usually end up trying to do stuff that requires a lot of thinking and brain power so my brain focuses on other stuff

me too...hehe....thank goodness for multitasking

[Guest PrincessSparkles35]

Hi all....i felt this was the safest place to share an experience I had at work. Yesterday my coworkers were having a Valentine's day party. It was a potluck. I'm not the greatest cook and wanted to participate. I brought Valentine's day cards (little ones with cute glitter tattoos, emoji stickers and really cool write ur own message ones). I checked with 3 females at my jobs and they thought it was a great idea.

 

Well....i set them out during the set up of the party and I added tiny heart confetti and left a message saying please take one and give to a coworker. I was so excited and thought it was a good idea. I even told a few friends. I told someone I thought was a friend I would grab them a plate of food and asked about any allergies they told me they were allergic to glitter. I was really being big and asking. That kinda hurt my feelings but I was like....okay no big deal.

 

Well....I went to the party later with a friend and i can definitely say only 3 of the cards had been taken. I felt so stupid. I mean they were the kind of Valentine's elementary school children would give to each other. I thought they would help spread cheer and make others happy.

 

I was upset and hurt. I felt so stupid. It was like I was trying to sharing a little of my little side in the big world. I told one of my friends maybe no one wanted them cause my idea was childish and stupid and I should of known better.

 

I feel like I kinda overreacted and in another way I feel like I learned a valuable lesson from this. I will never participate in any party at work or ever mention anything related to my little side to anyone that is not in our community.

 

Just wondering....anyone else have similar experiences? How did u handle it?

[Guest Looby-Lou]

Ouch! It always hurts when we put our heart into something and it doesn't go too well.

 

Maybe there was nothing wrong with WHAT you did, but it just didn't go down well with that group of people. If you look at it that way, it could just as easily have been a grown-up idea you'd had which didn't work out as you'd hoped.

 

Lots of people enjoy retro or nostalgia and a different set of people might've enjoyed your cards in that way.

 

So whilst yes, it's often sensible to be cautious about exposing ourselves in non-kink situations, I'd also suggest you handle it the same as you would any other disappointing experience. And don't let it put you off enjoying your littleness!

 

Looby 

[Guest daddy'ssweetpea]

I feel like I always have a touch of my little side with me. In se settings my little space is more subtle and maybe even older then when I am fully little but at the end of the day I am me.