Age Regression Lifestyle Balance

[LittleStarLight]

Halp!

I am newer to the lifestyle of ddlg (less than a year). Something I have found is that I will go a  straight week or two being REALLY susceptible to little space, and then several weeks not really thinking too much about it. 

 

I am trying to go freelance with my work so I can quit my 9-5 corporate job, so of course that takes a lot of dedicated time, energy, and immense focus. When I become susceptible to little space, I feel it is all that I can think about when I am not at my corporate job. It's so frustrating that I feel like I am either at a 10% or 90+% mentality for little space - with nothing in between for weeks at a time.

 

Do any of you struggle with age regression life balance?

Do you ever feel like age regression hinders you from long term goals? 

Could this perhaps be because I am new to the lifestyle so I sort of go into a frenzy?

 

I really hope that I get a better handle on this so I can better balance my life. Age regress when it is appropriate and needed, but then be able to pull my mind out of it so I can focus on more adult things (advancing myself or just exploring the more adult aspects of my life in general). My daddy is SO supportive of me and he doesn't seem worried that I won't achieve my dreams (even when I go weeks at a time not focused on my work : S 

[EvieTheOne]

Yes, that's me, and I do believe it's about the overwhelming amount of stimuli, and pressure...both internal to conform, let's not forget we're people pleasers, and external...your Daddy is not concerned about you not achieving your dreams...so why are you!? Given the dynamic of ddlg relationships, I'd be fairly pissed if he was pressuring me - instant brat moment. Which then would need to be addressed, etc, etc

[LittleStarLight]

Definitely a people pleaser >_< I am really hard on myself, but I talked a little bit with my daddy yesterday and he said he isnt worried about the weeks on and off for both my goals and my little space. He said as long as I am consistent in self improvement and giving myself time to let my mind unwind (which he says that he sees). I agreed. Now I just need to not be so hard on myself haha

[EvieTheOne]

The good new is that your Daddy is vitally placed as your loving caregiver to support, encourage and even teach you how to relax and get into little headspace where you can recharge your batteries I don't know where I'd be without my inner little one...when I'm little, I paint, I play with pets, I write, I read, I do crafts, I cuddle a lot, I sing and dance, I'm hugging myself and the world. These are just some of the stuff I do to self soothe and not be so hard on myself.. although lately I'm not. I'm loving and protecting my little girl fiercely.

[oblvion]

For me, being in my headspace is a little bit like a hobby; it has the same effects (stress-relief, fun, etc). So when it comes to having a balance, it's the same thing. Theres absolutely nothing wrong with letting yourself be more susceptible to going into your headspace for a period of time, but try set yourself boundaries with it. Give yourself sometime each day to enjoy your headspace while also setting aside some time to do work, and maybe your SO could help you with that (not pressuring or forcing you, but gently reminding you that you set yourself time goals, or something). That's what I would do. And honestly, there is absolutely zero reason you wouldn't be able to achieve your goals; like EvieTheOne said, if your SO isn't worried about you achieving your goals, you shouldn't be either! I'm sure they'd show concern if it was an issue, but its clearly not, so try not to worry yourself over it. c: 

[LittleStarLight]

Im doing this reply mobile so I hope it doesnt get messed up formatting:

 

The good new is that your Daddy is vitally placed as your loving caregiver to support, encourage and even teach you how to relax and get into little headspace where you can recharge your batteries I don't know where I'd be without my inner little one...when I'm little, I paint, I play with pets, I write, I read, I do crafts, I cuddle a lot, I sing and dance, I'm hugging myself and the world. These are just some of the stuff I do to self soothe and not be so hard on myself.. although lately I'm not. I'm loving and protecting my little girl fiercely.

Thank you evie It helps remind me why I was attracted to this lifestyle in the first place. Its supposed to be sort of like a meditative support for myself (amongst other reasons). I am hard on myself and very much a type A personality. This lifestyle is supposed to help me sit down and smell the roses (and crayons haha)

 

For me, being in my headspace is a little bit like a hobby; it has the same effects (stress-relief, fun, etc). So when it comes to having a balance, it's the same thing. Theres absolutely nothing wrong with letting yourself be more susceptible to going into your headspace for a period of time, but try set yourself boundaries with it. Give yourself sometime each day to enjoy your headspace while also setting aside some time to do work, and maybe your SO could help you with that (not pressuring or forcing you, but gently reminding you that you set yourself time goals, or something). That's what I would do. And honestly, there is absolutely zero reason you wouldn't be able to achieve your goals; like EvieTheOne said, if your SO isn't worried about you achieving your goals, you shouldn't be either! I'm sure they'd show concern if it was an issue, but its clearly not, so try not to worry yourself over it. c:

 

I've been thinking about what you said almost everyday - it's like a hobby and should be treated as such (at least in my case I want it that way too). It is a part of my personality that supports and nurtures the others. Thank you so much ^o^