Is My Daddy Not Want Me Anymore?

[Little Wolf]

My Boyfriend/Daddy Of 10 and Half Months has been very cold to me which is very scary as i know he is busy with school work and working. But I saw on his Fetlife account that he followed another girl after not being on their for 10 months now I'm just kind of scared if he is going to leave me cause he doesn't want me anymore or Has He Been Wanting Just A Sub and not a Little anymore? 

 

Please Someone I Need Help!

 

Thank You,

Little Wolf

[Little kaiya]

The only person who can answer that for certain is your partner. Sit down and have an adult to adult conversation.

[Princessofhell18]

Turkey if he’s getting on other websites then he’s probably bored

[EvieTheOne]

Talk to him, I know it feels daunting but it could just be that he's really preoccupied with his job or school. Talk to him, it's a great opportunity to reconnect through shared intimacy. ❤️

Otherwise, I found this song on YouTube and I think it's spot on...no matter what happens, we have those meaningful moments together. We're wealthy!

Let us know you're okay..

 

[Guest Looby-Lou]

I can understand you feeling scared. The thing is, none of us can tell you what's going on, only your bf/Daddy can do that.

 

IMO being busy with work or school isn't a valid reason to be cold to someone! Yes, we all might be distracted, or even a bit irritable sometimes, but you can still be loving and open.

 

Yes, there ARE innocent reasons why he might be on Fet and following someone.

But of course it's going to make you feel worried, that's normal for you to feel like that.

 

However scared you are, you do need to speak to him. Adult to adult. Even if you don't like the answers. Surely it's better to know what's going on and deal with it, than continue with doubts and fears?

 

I wish you good luck, and let us know how you get on - or if you need support. 

 

Looby 

[Little Wolf]

Thank You All For Giving Me Alot of Ideas But I Have Been trying to have a adult convo with his but right now we don't live together and i don't drive because of my Disorders i have Also The Tiers On his Car Are Bad But His Step Dad Owns The Car And Told Him If He Need Money For Tiers To Just Ask and He Will Give Him The Money To Get Them, Everytime My boyfriend when to ask for the money to get new tiers his mom would pissed off his step dad so he couldn't get the money for them.

  But Last Night I was Trying To talk to him and he said that he is thinking about everything and i asked if he was thinking about us like we can make it through this little patch I got ''Don't You Ever Listen To Me When I Talk!'' Which I Just Lost It Started Crying But Only Being As I Got Hurt Some Many Times Before When I Call Him He Doesn't Say Hey Baby Anymore Like He Used To But Last Night I was Smiling Cause He Did Say Hey Babe. But my boyfriend and I Had A saying That Always Made Me SMILE!! It was I Love You, Love You More, Love You Most, Love You Always, Love You Forever. He Stopped Wanting To Say It and it made my heart break! Then Says I'm NEEDY HELLOOO I'M A LITTLE I GET NEEEDY IN MY LITTLE SPACE!! I Just Need To See What The Freak In Up With Him Cause I have My Little Stuff Down His House Cause I Live With My Parents While I'm In School To Save Money. But I Just Really Hope I Can Talk To Him Face To Face Soon!

[EvieTheOne]

I'm gonna Wade in and make a wild guess based on my experience... he's under stress, he's worried (we do actually become more self absorbed when depressed or anxious, which can come down as neglectful forgetful and even cold treatment for our loved ones) and he needs you to adult a bit..to be by his side...by stepping back a bit, and letting him breathe...I understand it sounds exactly the opposite of what you'd like to happen, but if you step back and allow him freedom, chances are that he'll be back to you, grateful for your support.

[DaddyDom3238]

Hi, 

I am so sorry that you are going through this right now and first and foremost I would say that no matter what he should not be cold to you and if he is struggling with something then he should talk to you about it. That being said from a Daddy's perspective when I am stressed (this is just me) busy or going through something that is occupying my time it can be very difficult to get into "Daddy Space." Yes that is a think as well as "little space" is. Just like there is also sub drop and dom drop. I have discovered this over the 15 years or so I have been a Dadd/Dom. 

It can be hard when a Daddy is going through things to provide that care that our little needs because as wonderful, beautiful, and intimate that the time doing that is, it can be hard to provide it when a Daddy is struggling with and trying to do what is also needed for their own well being. I am certainly not saying that is what is happening in this case, however I have experienced it and no that it can be hard at times. I would recommend not saying anything about needing his help in little space or in regressing and to call him and tell him that you love him and want to be there for him right now but to do that you need to know what is going on with him right now. If he is not willing to talk and explain what is happening then I would recommend pulling back from him and seeing if he comes back to you. 

The fact that he has not been on Fet in a while and is now on it is something that is concerning and that you should address with him as well. I wish you the best and remember do not settle as you are worth more then that.  

[Little Wolf]

I have an update, my boyfriend and i had an adult convo and we both came to that we will not break up just take some time for ourselves and still talk to each other through text, video chat, phone calls,ect just not see each other every weekend. we are planing a weekend for to come down and get my stuff that i have down their to keep at my house just in case he starts doing his truck driving job so i can have my stuff so none of family members will go take it. I am happy that i got to talk to him and i feel so much better now that i know my daddy's still wants me! We just need to get more stuff in our lives fixed before seeing each other again. Thank You All For The Help I Needed.

[Little Wolf]

now im without a daddy, my boyfriend broke up with me and didn't even tell me that we were broken up, i hate feeling so broken and unhappy. i guess im just dumb and no one will ever want me just like my ex boyfriend told me, i guess he is right.

[EvieTheOne]

But you're a little wolf ... aren't you? Wolves are pack animals and you've got yours right here, but also..he lost his Luna, his Queen. That's on him. You stand with your head held high, and embrace and love yourself fiercely, my dear. I know you might not believe it now, but there's an alpha to your alpha out there, and together, you'll mate for life.xx Edited February 11, 2020 by EvieTheOne

[Little Wolf]

Thank you I’m glad to have a big pack you can say on here thank you. Also I have my times where I start crying cause I’m still hurt and where I live, I’m told not to cry over him but I can’t help it I was in love with him. I just hope it can get better.

[EvieTheOne]

It does get better, my dear, take it from a veteran in having her heart broken, again and again. It gets better, because you get better at protecting it, by offering your heart to those that will cherish it, lovingly and responsibly. You get better at that.. otherwise, the pain remains.. We won't ever escape that. Crying is so needed, isn't it...then finding something you like doing is really needed, and knowing, just knowing that there are people out who are looking for a little just like you, and that there's an abundance of love in and around you. Give it a bit of time, and until then, hugs and pamper yourself because you're worth it, from head to toes. ❤