How to enforce my rules by myself

[princesspage]

So in a nutshell I kind of have a Daddy, my lovely boyfriend. The thing is he's just not that into the whole CGL thing, and straight up told me he can't be into a kink 24/7 and he isn't going to baby me. That's fine because I love him. I just have a lot of issues following my rules without anybody reminding me about them, and a great deal of them are to keep my health in check. Does anybody have any advice for me for following my rules on my own, without someone enforcing them? Thank you!

[Guest classiccanadianguy]

Couple of thoughts for you.

 

You sound very reasonable about your boyfriend not having the same interests in Kink as you do however one can hope that he does have an interest in your health and well-being. It may be beneficial to frame your needs in that context especially since you say that many of the rules you're trying to follow are health-related

 

Secondly, if it's a matter of forgetting your important rules, setting reminders on your phone may be helpful. You might also put a sticky note on your mirror in the bathroom reminding yourself about them

 

Best of luck

[Guest Lavendar Bunni Wubbins]

Would something like a sticker chart help motivate you? It can be pretty fun & easy to do on your own too.

[princesspage]

Would something like a sticker chart help motivate you? It can be pretty fun & easy to do on your own too.

I do have a sticker chart! I just find it hard to keep up with tbh, money is getting tight to get presents for when I get enough stickers.

 

Couple of thoughts for you.

 

You sound very reasonable about your boyfriend not having the same interests in Kink as you do however one can hope that he does have an interest in your health and well-being. It may be beneficial to frame your needs in that context especially since you say that many of the rules you're trying to follow are health-related

 

Secondly, if it's a matter of forgetting your important rules, setting reminders on your phone may be helpful. You might also put a sticky note on your mirror in the bathroom reminding yourself about them

 

Best of luck

I am thinking about setting reminders on my phone for chores and to remind me to drink water. I think it's a really good idea

[Guest Lavendar Bunni Wubbins]

That's fair, I can't afford rewards either, but I do it just as an extra little incentive...and I found really cheap stickers so that helps too!

[Guest QueenJellybean]

have you tried solo apps like Habitica? 

these might be useful for you.

[princesspage]

 

have you tried solo apps like Habitica? 

these might be useful for you.

 

I have tried that in the past, I had a hard time figuring out how to use it, I might try it again. Thank you