How to help my Daddy

[kayykee]

Hey everyone, 

 

I just found this forum. I was actively looking for a source to actually ask other caregivers what makes them feel secure and happy with their littles. 

My Daddy struggles with depression due to his health conditions and I try to be his light but i felt a huge pang of guilt last night because maybe I dont know how to help. Any advice with learning how to help a depressed but great Daddy? 

I typically make little spams every so often that he likes and he enjoys a lot of kissing and physical affection. I'm overall pretty attentive but maybe I need to lessen the attention and kick in the supportive role that comes with being a little and gf.

 

Thanks in advance!! 

 

Luv, 

Kay

[lilbabybee]

Hi Kay!

Thank you for coming to us. It's important to ask these questions. You seem to really love your Daddy!

My Daddy also struggles with depression & some anxiety too. It took me a while to figure out what he needs, but I know it now. I discovered how to help him by paying attention to when he needs me to listen, when he needs me to distract him, when he needs affection, etc. Patterns are everything. I also asked him directly how I can help him the best. Have you tried asking your Daddy straight up how you can help him best when he needs it? He may find it caring that you ask ^-^

You sound like you're doing a great job already. I have debilitating anxiety and I used to have debilitating depression as well and it meant the world to me when my daddy would send me a meme or a pretty flower or ask about my day. It would distract me out of my mindset for a few minutes. I bet your daddy feels the same way :]

Being a Daddy means providing constant support and doing everything one can to take care of one's little. I think as long as he knows that you're there to listen and take care of him too, that's what matters the most. At the end of the day, the best support you can give him is most likely a back rub and being there for him to talk about his mental health.

You sound like a very caring little, I wish you and your Daddy all the best <3

[Guest frozenwolf]

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Edited January 26, 2020 by gigglewolf

[Guest frozenwolf]

Hi Kay!

Thank you for coming to us. It's important to ask these questions. You seem to really love your Daddy!

My Daddy also struggles with depression & some anxiety too. It took me a while to figure out what he needs, but I know it now. I discovered how to help him by paying attention to when he needs me to listen, when he needs me to distract him, when he needs affection, etc. Patterns are everything. I also asked him directly how I can help him the best. Have you tried asking your Daddy straight up how you can help him best when he needs it? He may find it caring that you ask ^-^

You sound like you're doing a great job already. I have debilitating anxiety and I used to have debilitating depression as well and it meant the world to me when my daddy would send me a meme or a pretty flower or ask about my day. It would distract me out of my mindset for a few minutes. I bet your daddy feels the same way :]

Being a Daddy means providing constant support and doing everything one can to take care of one's little. I think as long as he knows that you're there to listen and take care of him too, that's what matters the most. At the end of the day, the best support you can give him is most likely a back rub and being there for him to talk about his mental health.

You sound like a very caring little, I wish you and your Daddy all the best <3

^^ Yup sometimes it takes listening before talking to do the best good. My Mommy and I both suffer from the depression monster so your Daddy isn't alone. If either of you want a helping hand or a shoulder I'd gladly lend either any time

Edited January 26, 2020 by gigglewolf