All Little and No Play

[littlelamb98]

Hi!  
I hope everyone is doing well  *hugs*

I've a question about other Littles but I don't know how to ask it so I'll just say what's been concerning me..

Going in and out of Little Space has been difficult for me. Once I'm either in or out I don't want to leave unless I'm forced to.
You see, I'm insecure and sensitive, and not just a little bit. I'm inexperienced in a lot of ways, and I ask a lot of questions, so much I end up having to apologise for annoying yet another daddy. But I'm scared to ask people to be patient with me.
I don't like to be bratty, I want to stay positive and share that positivity and make others happy.

And that's just who I am as a person , but I only feel like I can be like that in Little Space, so once I am in Little Space I'm this happy but shy girl who pretends the world/life is a Disney princess movie and only wants to do and talk about all things sweet and cute and lovely and innocent and need a Daddy by my side to help me understand things I don't yet understand, and there's no shame in it. And when a Daddy accepts me as their Little, I feel like that all the time, and I don't want to be any other way.

I thought that was okay.. But apparently it's not okay at all. Every Daddy I've had so far has either been annoyed with me or ghosted me. And it breaks my heart being the cause of it, every time. I show a lot of support when a Daddy is feeling bad and I go out of Little Space and pretend to be tough, but that doesn't seem to make them stay either..

When I'm not in Little Space I put my guard up and it takes a lot for me to let it down even though it makes me unhappy, but I'm too submissive to take control over myself.. I'm very unsure of everything I do, but because I'm not in Little Space I don't feel like I can ask anyone for guidance and become very distant and quiet.

I need some help on how to make a Daddy stay and how to be a good person outside of being a Little, and I hope reaching out for advice here could be helpful..

 

[Cutieebbabyy]

The way you are is 100% okay. I feel like I am veryyy similar to you in this way. Maybe you could try to work on being more “big” when the time is right (if you don’t already)? I think a lot of it too is finding a daddy who has the patience and care to take the time to guide you You should never try to change to make somebody else like you because you are perfect the way you are

[littlelamb98]

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So, ghosting is a huge thing nowadays, and it honestly sucks...but don't see that or take it as something wrong with you! It's just a thing that people do, I think sometimes without even realizing it anymore, because so much stuff is done without having to be face to face these days, people seem to forget there is a real person on the other side who has feelings. It's sadly a fairly common thing, especially since we have such short attention spans for things that don't give us instant gratification anymore, or there are so many other sites/apps/things to do & people to talk to all the time. 

 

Don't let those bad ones sour your experience, you sound absolutely amazing and I'm sure there are many daddies out there who would honestly love a little like you...you just haven't found any of them yet & they haven't found you yet! Just do what works best for you, communicate as best as you can, and have faith in yourself. If someone ghosts you or gets annoyed at you for how you truly are, that is on them and not you at all. Sure we can all make small changes in ourselves, and sometimes even big ones...but there is some stuff that sometimes you just can't change (ex: being shy, people always say "Ah I'll make you so confident, you'll never be shy again!"...yeah, no...get out of here. That is who I am, and trust me...I have tried to not be so shy, it's just who I am!). Their thought is nice, and I'm sure they have good intentions...but always do what feels best for you, and not what others want of you.

Something that might could be to look into health boundaries & how to say no effectively, you mentioned being very submissive & not able to control yourself, I am the same way and often let what someone else wants/needs take priority over my own needs, which isn't always good or ideal and I often wind up letting myself get hurt due to it. Small things, sure, not always a big deal...but there are some you have to just stand up for yourself and say, "No, this is too much for me and we need to stop." etc.

 

This is kinda babbly, but I hope it helps you or makes sense.

[littlelamb98]

So, ghosting is a huge thing nowadays, and it honestly sucks...but don't see that or take it as something wrong with you! It's just a thing that people do, I think sometimes without even realizing it anymore, because so much stuff is done without having to be face to face these days, people seem to forget there is a real person on the other side who has feelings. It's sadly a fairly common thing, especially since we have such short attention spans for things that don't give us instant gratification anymore, or there are so many other sites/apps/things to do & people to talk to all the time. 

 

Don't let those bad ones sour your experience, you sound absolutely amazing and I'm sure there are many daddies out there who would honestly love a little like you...you just haven't found any of them yet & they haven't found you yet! Just do what works best for you, communicate as best as you can, and have faith in yourself. If someone ghosts you or gets annoyed at you for how you truly are, that is on them and not you at all. Sure we can all make small changes in ourselves, and sometimes even big ones...but there is some stuff that sometimes you just can't change (ex: being shy, people always say "Ah I'll make you so confident, you'll never be shy again!"...yeah, no...get out of here. That is who I am, and trust me...I have tried to not be so shy, it's just who I am!). Their thought is nice, and I'm sure they have good intentions...but always do what feels best for you, and not what others want of you.

 

Something that might could be to look into health boundaries & how to say no effectively, you mentioned being very submissive & not able to control yourself, I am the same way and often let what someone else wants/needs take priority over my own needs, which isn't always good or ideal and I often wind up letting myself get hurt due to it. Small things, sure, not always a big deal...but there are some you have to just stand up for yourself and say, "No, this is too much for me and we need to stop." etc.

 

This is kinda babbly, but I hope it helps you or makes sense.

Thank you so much for those words of kindness and encouragement I didn't know ghosting was a thing, I seemed to only happen to me.

I recognize putting other people's needs before my own, but when I think of what I want I only want to be appreciated in return for also being there for others. I actually like being helpful.

 

What you're saying makes a lot of sense, and I really appreciate you taking the time to say all of that.

[Cutieebbabyy]

Thank you for your reply, you're very sweet.

I've tried to be "big" but it's so hard. And it's also been really tough to find a Daddy who has that patience.

I totally understand! And yes it takes time and weeding out the daddies that don’t work out. but it will definitely be worth the wait!