Losing my daddy

[Guest alexander2265]

Hi everyone,

I've been with my daddy for almost three years. Its a long distance relationship ,but I always try my best to spend time with him. He has a separate life in real life with a son and a big family.  My daddy has been going through a lot recently ,which is causing him to move within the week. With his new schedule, it will limit the amount of hours we can be together. He is already calling an end to our relationship within the week and I'm heartbroken. I only have a couple days left with him and I do not know if I should be with him every minute before he has to move or try to stay quiet so the break isn't as bad. I want to try to continue with him ,but he doesn't seem interested or putting any effort forth. I'm looking for some advice on what to do  Thank you for your help in advance

[SmolAetherr]

Just move on, if he doesent care then why should you couples who want to make it work will make an effort to find a way

[APTX]

Things like these never works, an online type of arrangement, a LDR that will always stay that way, without ever meeting or progressing any further, or even affairs, will always be a temporary kind of arrangement, it's something important to always keep in the back of your mind if you enter such a relationship.

What you can do is to just try and move on, nothing more you can do - whether he's really going to move or just needed a good enough reason to break it up who knows, but he clearly is done and made up his mind and is for you to simply come to terms with it.

[Guest Kitty~]

I say move on, he doesn't seem to care much unfortunately...I'm really sorry *hugs*

[minty☆]

it's awful, but these guys ^^^  are definitely right.  LDR *can* work, but ...rarely.  both parties need to be willing to give it their all, busy schedule or not.  if you only have a few days left, if it were me, i would start distancing myself already instead of clinging to anything, because i feel like that just builds up false hope.
 
i'm so sorry.     if you need anyone to talk to, my inbox is always open!

[redheadprincess98]

Hello, I am sorry you are going through that, however you have to understand that you never really had a place in his life, you said it yourself, he already has a life, a family, children and you were not part of it. He doesn’t even sound like a true Daddy because a real one would never hurt you and his own family like that. Moving on is the best and healthiest thing you can do, but that doesnt mean it will be the easiest one. You are already hurting and it might get worse, let yourself feel the pain and grieve, it will get easier eventually. You are not alone, and one day you will find your forever daddy, the real one, that person who is just for you and makes you feel happy and safe. Love isnt supposed to hurt, remember that. As for LDR, they might work but only when both of you are available and interested in meeting at some point. Hugs ❣️

[popcornbaby]

LDR do work. I have experience with that. Me and my previous daddy met 4 times in person within the last 2 years, and we were very happy with how things were in that sense (we broke up because things just got too bad, but nothing to do with distance). We talked everyday, and called as much as we could on skype, and we met for weeks at a time. They only work if each person is emotionally available, which he doesn't sound like he is. If distance was an issue, then it wouldn't have lasted this long. There are other issues at play here. I suggest going into no contact, like i am now with 'him'. Give him space, and time to miss you, it will refresh him and you will get the chance to be happy by yourself. Be easy on your heart, it is very important <3

[Guest alexander2265]

Thank you everyone so so much for your advice and input. Its been a couple days without him and we both decided to have proper closure (at least for now) where we were able to wish each other the best. Through this time , I have been able to focus on my priorities and reflect on how I have been living and the next  I will take in the future. I still hope soon he will come back to me even as just a companion ,but it is a very slim chance. I do think he used him moving as an excuse ,but he is always extremely hard to read as far as whats going on in his head. If he doesn't come back to me , one day I hope to find the right daddy. Once again thank you everyone for your words and hope everyone reading this has a magical rest of their day!