No one want's a Daddy with "Baggage"!

[Guest Broken_Daddy]

So don't take this as a pity post... Just feeling utterly dejected right now.

 

I'm a 44 yo Daddy with a 6 year old kid from a previous non-DDlg relationship that ended, and it seems as soon as bring that up out of courtesy, i get ghosted.  Beginning to think that perhaps I shouldn't even try anymore. So I guess that I'm saying, I wish you all the best in your pursuits and relationships. I'm stepping out. I'm clearly not wanted so what's the point of even trying!

[Guest Littlemtngirl]

Sorry you are feeling hurt.. I will tell you something that has been said to me.. everyone has baggage. Its how you carry it that makes a difference.. if you give up..you are guaranteed to not find what you are looking for.. wishing you lots of luck with whatever you decide to do

[Guest Lightofmylife]

Awe. I'm sure you will find someone that will be okay with you having a kid. Finding someone thats right for you may not be very sudden, but if you have hope and have patience (no matter how long you have waited but waiting can be tough), someone will come into your life that will be perfect for you. Being ghosted is no fun, but please don't let it discourage you.

[Guest LittleMissMissy]

That's a terrible way to think. I would also never consider a child baggage. It's a part of life and we all come from different paths. I think its what makes life great. It would be boring if we all were the same and had the same story.

 

Feel free to message me if you would like to talk more. I like listening and trying to help others.

[SmolAetherr]

27 male with a 7 year old daughter, on the contrary i believe you have just had some negative experiances, it happens but that is no reason to throw in the towel, my daughter has appealed to littles i have met who generally enjoy the idea of talking to a father who has experiance

 

But nobody is forcing you to stay or pushing you out so good luck with whatever comes next

Edited January 15, 2020 by Aetherr

[APTX]

I may not have any children myself, but it may very well be the way you carry and express yourself, heck your username even gives off a rather depressing vibe.

Yes, there are people who do not want a relationship with someone who already have children for their very own and valid reasons.

 

For all I know you may very well not want to date another person who has already children themselves, because you have one yourself.

What I suggest is make a personal and let people approach you, most people like honesty and being upfront, however if you feel your own child is or feels like baggage, I suggest to work on yourself first.

If women would approach me and couldn't mention such an important detail from the start I wouldn't consider them and reject, heck stop replying to them, if they treat their own child like they were unwanted - I'd never consider them either.

 

Imagine how it would feel for a child to grow up and learn one day they weren't wanted, them just being a burden to their own father or mother's happiness.

[redheadprincess98]

I am going to speak from the place of a young little who has only been approached by +50 yo men ever since joining this forum. The problem might be in your target, you cant expect an 18-20 yo to be with someone so much older than her and be some kind of weird step mother. I mean, we are kids ourselves, you cant expect us to want that much baggage, its too much to handle, overwhelming and scary. I dont know the age you are going for but you should try date someone older and closer to your age.

[MissPattch]

Hey there, Don't feel so down, your kid is absolutely NOT baggage, and any body that sees them as such is not worthy of your time or attention. I have a 2 year old from a previous relationship and he always comes first. If i bring him up in conversation and the other party has issue with that, then i just say thanks, but no thanks. I'd rather wait for the person that will accept us both than want just me on my own. You aren't alone in your situation, and if you ever need some solidarity, give me a shout, i'm always down for a good rant over humanity ^^ Stay positive, there are good ones out there

[Guest alexander2265]

Hi! As a little that has experience with older daddies with kids, you have to let the little know up front. I know when I first found out about the kid my daddy had with a previous relationship, I was extremely nervous about expectations and taking up too much of his time. You will find the right one eventually. Have faith!