Advice.

[Guest LittleMissMissy]

I know I am not the first and I am sure I won't be the last, but I'm having some issues...

 

I've been trying to find myself as a little. It's been a fun journey, minus one thing, getting ghosted.

 

I can't even count how many 'daddys' have ghosted me and left me hanging. It's a terrible feeling after getting to know a person and want to start something.

 

Help?! How do you manage to pick up the pieces? When do the tears stop?

Edited January 11, 2020 by LittleMissMissy

[Guest Kitty~]

*Big hugs* I been ghosted as well and blocked before too it really sucks... the best thing to do is realize it isn't your fault but there's. And a decent daddy would tell you if he wasn't interested. Try to keep your head up.

[Guest LittleMissMissy]

I've been trying to blame him and them. All I end up doing is finding every little thing wrong with me. Then I cry more because I think I hate myself.

[sighing]

Missy.

There's nothing wrong with you. The ghosting speaks volumes about their character and nothing about your own. The "daddy's" you've encountered are likely people who are only in it for the quick thrills and payouts, but don't have the commitment or ability to handle the responsibility that comes with being a real Daddy. 

It will hurt each time for sure, but with time and experience you will recognize certain red flags that people give off. And if you follow your hunch and ditch the people who give off those red flags then you will find that the remaining people will be more kind and caring and capable of being a Daddy. 

Eventually you'll find the right one.

Good luck.

[Guest LittleMissMissy]

Thanks everyone. I'm trying to be the best little I can be right now. I just need to have faith and not punish myself. It's just hard sometimes.

[Guest LittleBunBun<3]

I know it's hard, and even though I don't know you, us littles have to stick together! So I am sending lots of hugs to help you through this. 

 

Try to think of it like this: 

When somebody ghosts you, it's because they realize how amazing you are, and they are not worthy of you. You are levels and levels and levels above them. They can't handle how great you are because your greatness makes them seem like nothing. Then, instead of being mature and saying that to your face, they have to be complete booty buttheads and ghost you. It is nothing to do with you at all, hun. Don't blame yourself. Also people ghost when they notice things are getting serious. They are fake Daddies just trying to take advantage of you. When they realize that you won't let them, they run away. 

 

Again, sending more virtual hugs to help you through this. 

[Guest LittleMissMissy]

I am so overwhelmed by this support. It makes me happy and gives hope. The kind words really gave me comfort. Instead of crying cause I felt like a failure as a little, it's tears cause people really do care.

[Guest Ninny689]

Basically.. what they said! i would also just advise against actually calling someone Daddy until they’ve genuinely earned it - like these lovely littles pointed out, cheap “daddies” are a dime a dozen - decide what earning that title means to you and then enforce it - turn the tables - we might be the littles, but until we find the CG for us.. someone worthy of the name Daddy or Mommy.. *we* actually hold most of the power - if you stick to the standards you set, you’ll start to see the princes in the sea of frogs Edited January 12, 2020 by Ninny689

[SmolAetherr]

i honestly caant put it in a nicer way, people ghost at all points of a relationship it wont ever stop

 

you will get used to it, just go in with the mentality that if they leave they were not worth your time anyway

[Lili_Night]

Sending lots of hugs your way! I totally agree with what everyone else has said. And I agree with Ninny, wait until you are sure about someone before calling them daddy. They have to earn not only your trust but your respect.

[Guest LittleMissMissy]

Thank you everyone. The support and advice has been great. I guess my emotions took over and I just, didn't understand. I am always quick to be too hard on myself.

 

*big hugs*

Edited January 12, 2020 by LittleMissMissy

[Raven2evil]

I just got ghosted and i'm having this issue. I already had a mistrust of people who called themselves doms thanks to previous issues. I figured this was different. I'm trying really hard not to let my upset destroy something that i feel maybe a bigger part of me than i knew. But i really also want to give it up there's a lot of trust that comes with these types of relationships and its not something that comes naturally to me to give that amount of trust. I'm so lost. I know in this case it def wasn't me just it makes it hard to give anyone any kind of trust when people keep killing the trust that you give out.

Edited January 13, 2020 by Raven2evil

[Guest LittleMissMissy]

I just got ghosted and i'm having this issue. I already had a mistrust of people who called themselves doms thanks to previous issues. I figured this was different. I'm trying really hard not to let my upset destroy something that i feel maybe a bigger part of me than i knew. But i really also want to give it up there's a lot of trust that comes with these types of relationships and its not something that comes naturally to me to give that amount of trust. I'm so lost. I know in this case it def wasn't me just it makes it hard to give anyone any kind of trust when people keep killing the trust that you give out.

I know this feeling all too well. I am here if you ever wanna talk.

[Guest Relentlessoptimist]

People might ghost you for a variety of reasons. It's not because they are necessarily bad (although ghosting someone is super rude), and it's not because you are bad. Its just that together you don't make a good fit. So they leave, and they make space for someone that could become a good fit. I agree that its very hostile to be ghosted and nobody deserves that. It happened to me with someone i thought i had great chemistry with. But that was their choice, because they didn't have the strength to be upfront about it. 

 

So give yourself some love. The right person will love you for you, and good people won't do this. The ones who do werent worth your time anyway and saved you a lot of time from being able to meet the right person. 

 

Best wishes.