Little feeling guilty

[litelle]

I'm a happy, loved little. My Daddy is my world.

 

Today he bought me a day collar. It's beautiful. But the chain is too short for me to wear comfortably 24/7.

 

I told him and he's being so lovely, but I feel horrible. Guilty and ungrateful and difficult. And when I feel like this it can make me appear bratty, but I don't feel bratty, just conflicted and guilty and desperate to please. It's messy.

 

I get this way a lot when Daddy does something that doesn't work the way he wants or buys something that doesn't fit. Does anyone have advice for me to handle it better?

[Guest Looby-Lou]

 

Today he bought me a day collar. It's beautiful. But the chain is too short for me to wear comfortably 24/7.

 

 

 

Maybe just re-read what you wrote here.

The collar is beautiful - so presumably you've told him that? Which shows you appreciate his gift. (Therefore no need for you to feel guilty or ungrateful)

The collar is too short for you to wear comfortably 24/7. This is a practical problem, so it's clearly not your fault. And maybe it could be lengthened? Or maybe you can wear it just some of the time if it's not too uncomfortable? (Again, no need for you to feel guilty or difficult.)

 

There's been times I didn't like a gift or it wasn't suitable, and like you I feel uncomfortable about this. It feels like I've let the person down by not being able to fully appreciate their gift. 

I have a strong need to please, and I hate for someone to be disappointed in me.

But we need to separate all these feelings from what's actually going on! Basically, get a grip and remind ourselves that we can still give thanks, be appreciative, use the gift as best we can or else be honest and explain why we can't.

 

I'm sure your Daddy knows you struggle with these things. Have a chat with him. Maybe let him know you need his reassurance that you haven't disappointed him when a gift isn't suitable or plans go a bit wrong. 

Most such things can be sorted out

 

If you focus on the problems of the situation, that will probably lead to you feeling negative and bratty. Try to focus on the positives of the situation/gift.

 

Looby

[Guest DaddyFrozen]

You have a feeling to please your daddy, totally understandable. just like your daddy wishes to please you.

 

Share the entire thought with your daddy, inform him that the chain is very beautiful and you loved it but it being short might pose a practical challenge to wear it 24/7 even though you really want to wear it.

 

I'm sure your daddy would understand it - who knows, there would even be a way to lengthen the chain like Looby said earlier or the chain could be exchanged for something similar which has a longer chain. or you could even wear it during certain times of the day.

 

But the key is to discuss it with your daddy, I'm sure he would be more happy about you discussing something with him rather than do something which doesn't make you feel fully comfortable

[daddymind]

*possibly bad advice*

 

Go on, be a brat about it. He might like it 

[Guest QueenJellybean]

there is absolutely nothing wrong with you not being able to wear a collar that you love and appreciate. 

that isn't your fault. 

this is out of your control. 

 

i second the suggestion above -- read him your words here.

it's about the intent; you love the gift, you just physically can't wear the chain. 

it isn't practical.

find a work around.