Little kaiya Posted January 6, 2020 Report Posted January 6, 2020 When my Daddy collared me it was a special ceremony for He and I where I humbly offered my submission, heart, body, mind and soul and He in turn humbly accepted and vowed to protect them. For us collaring is a symbol of unbreakable commitment and my day collar is on the same level as an engagement ring. It means I am His and He is mine. 4
AttendingBear Posted January 6, 2020 Report Posted January 6, 2020 Collaring is like marriage in a way, it's a dedication to both parties, where the sub will wear the collar to represent her love / loyalty to her / their dom. While a dom will collar a sub for them to know they are owned & property of said dom and will always protect them. It's no small thing, and it means a lot. My subs are required to wear a collar 24/7 without taking it off. It's just like a wedding ring, a bond between two people as Kaiya said. 2
Guest sir_copacetic Posted January 6, 2020 Report Posted January 6, 2020 A collar can be a beautiful thing if you both feel the same about it. Personally i have no intention of collaring someone in the near future. A sub can remove it in a fit of rage just as easy. And then what? To me that collar will be forever tainted after that. What i'm trying to say is, don't take it lightly. Take a looooong time to make sure that is what you both want.
LittleMeToo Posted January 7, 2020 Author Report Posted January 7, 2020 (edited) sir_copacetic - what’s your opinion on this - my Daddy and I are married, it’s almost been 2 years. We are both new to the lifestyle and our roles have come quite natural. We were together a very short time before we married but have known each other since childhood. Anyway, me being naive and completely ignorant of what collaring apparently actually represents, I picked out and bought my own collar, and after a few months Daddy decided he wanted me to start wearing it. I think we missed the mark on the symbolism and I was out of line picking out and purchasing my own collar when there was no discussion prior to that. I feel like we kind of need to start from scratch and put the current collar aside, decide what the collar should actually mean to the both of us, then Daddy can decide when the time is right and he feels it’s appropriate for a collar of his choosing. I just feel like we missed the mark and didn’t take it as serious as we should have. We are currently revising rules because of course we have evolved being so new to this and also being newly married. Just wondering what advice you might have? Edited January 7, 2020 by LittleMeToo 1
Guest sir_copacetic Posted January 7, 2020 Report Posted January 7, 2020 There is no wrong or right way to go about it, if it feels right, that is good enough in my opinion. Some old school Kinkers would probably say you have to do it in a particular way, but i don't believe in that. In the end it needs to feel right for you. While it is custom for the Dom to pick a collar for his sub to wear. But from what i'm reading, that is what you would prefer too. What you can do is use the collar you have now as an "under consideration" collar till the time comes he feels it is right to collar you permanently with a collar of his choosing and if you accept ofcourse. so my advice, talk talk talk and don't rush into things. also, don't worry too much about the details as long as it feels right for you.
LittleMeToo Posted January 8, 2020 Author Report Posted January 8, 2020 sir_copacetic - I’m sending a big thank you your way. What you said makes sense, and I love the idea of an “under consideration collar” in the interim. Thank you for taking the time to discuss and explain all this. I’m eager to learn and also still remain true to myself. I feel quite relieved at this moment that I’ve not made a transgression in the collaring matter. I’m going to journal on it some more and talk to Daddy.
Guest sir_copacetic Posted January 8, 2020 Report Posted January 8, 2020 youre very welcome. Just make sure you are both happy with or without collar. That's the most important thing.
Guest DaddyFrozen Posted January 8, 2020 Report Posted January 8, 2020 well said sir_copacetic, what matters is that both are happy at the end of the day. collars and other items do convey a symbolic representation of that happiness, that's all. being collared or not is a personal preference
Guest QueenJellybean Posted January 9, 2020 Report Posted January 9, 2020 moderator note: we just had a topic about this days ago in this same section. please be sure to check content before making a new post. thank you! https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/45283-equivalent-to-collaring/?hl=collar
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