Married/in a relationship and Daddy is someone else?

[cute_cactus389]

I'm still trying to learn more about all of this so forgive me if this is a silly question. The more I explore DDLG, the more I realize I would really like a Daddy relationship that's non-sexual (vanilla?). My husband and I agreed that it'd probably change the dynamic of our relationship for him to be that for me. I was wondering, has anyone been in a relationship/been married and had someone besides their significant other be their Daddy? I'm talking non-sexual and with complete consent from everyone involved but I am welcoming people to share any experiences! I really am curious if people do this or if this is just an odd thing for me to even consider. I appreciate it!

[Little kaiya]

I've been married to my Wife for 13 and a half years and been dating my Daddy for two years, He is also my Dom and has me collared, and we are planning our commitment ceremony for next year which will be officiated by my Wife.

 

Our relationship is certainly a sexual one but my Wife is 100% in the know, we all spend holidays and travel together and my Daddy know my parents and my Wife knows my Daddy's parents.

 

It's not odd unless you and/or your husband find it odd. Every situation is different and so long as everyone involved is on the same page go for what works for you, your husband and whomever you would add to that dynamic be it platonic or more emotionally based.

[DaBrat1994]

I have my Daddy and my boyfriend ^.^ i have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and he isn't a Daddy type so he allows me to find someone to be my Daddy.. i have been with my Daddy for 3 months and in 4 more he will be moving to the same state as me ^.^

[kimi]

I, too, am married and at the same time I’ve had a Daddy. I’m a ‘little’ and my husband doesn’t understand any of this. My Daddy was married, too, and his wife didn’t understand this either. So, the relationship that my Daddy and I had might have seem unusual but it worked for years. This was strictly a Daddy/little relationship.

My Daddy and I would see one another two to four times a month, on the average, but we talk and text daily. He expected me to be a good ‘little’ and to abide by his rules and I tried very hard to do so or else my Daddy would spank me. Sometimes there would be additional times in the month when we would see one another, and that was a definite if I was in trouble. If I misbehaved when we were apart, even if it was a day after we had spent time together, Daddy would not hesitate to tell me I had to see him again even if it was just for him to spank me. Spankings were not fun, and most dreaded because my Daddy would spank me after taking my pants and panties down; he insisted that all spankings had to be on my bare bottom ... so even if I didn’t want to see him, I had to because he was my Daddy. There is nothing worse than going to see him knowing it was for a spanking.

Our relationship was only as a Daddy/little. My Daddy was fun and he took me to the movies or the park. He took me out for ice cream or we would just hang out. He took his Daddy position seriously. He helped me to grow and he taught me a lot ... and even though the teaching part was primarily through spankings, it made me a better person to understand consequences and to have been held accountable. My Daddy truly was my Daddy and I was really a ‘little’ for him. If he felt I was under the weather he would even take my temp from my bottom. These were all his choices because he was my Daddy and I learned to trust him and comply because I was his ‘little’. I didn’t like those not fun times of spankings, temps, and cornertime for being being naughty (which was always with my pants and panties pulled down far enough to expose my bare bottom) because it was embarrassing, but I realize even to this day that it worked, and I am grateful for having had a loving Daddy who cared enough to discipline me and care for me even if it made me mad at him. My Daddy spanked me hard when I deserved it, so I would cry and kick my feet while he would have me over his knee ... but since he passed away, I only have the lessons learned and I shall hang on to that forever because that’s all I have now of my Daddy.

 

So, it was great! It was a wonderful relationship apart from my marriage, that simply fulfilled the ‘little’ part of of me ... and made me feel like a whole person.

Edited January 19, 2020 by kimi

[Guest Looby-Lou]

I'm still trying to learn more about all of this so forgive me if this is a silly question. ... I really am curious if people do this or if this is just an odd thing for me to even consider. I appreciate it!

 

Firstly, nothing is a silly question. Always feel welcome to ask! And there's LOTS of information available here, along with ideas and suggestions.  So maybe when you have some time just browse through the various forums, or do a search for anything you're interested in.

 

You're not alone in wanting a vanilla Daddy to add to your marriage. (It's not my thing btw so I can't speak from experience.) You might find it harder than meeting a sexual DaddyDom, but the point is it's ok to want it and yes there are men who want to be that sort of Daddy. Some might only do it online, others would meet IRL too if you wanted. 

 

Good luck!

Looby