[LittleIria]

[clo_oh]

first of all, i would like to say that i really feel this, and i understand where you are coming from. before i moved into my own place(about 4 months ago) i never had time to regress to myself due to my mother never giving me time to myself. she would also tell me things in the same world as that. telling me to "act my age" because i am a "grown adult that needs to act like one". so i truly know how sad it can make you, especially when you regress.

 

 

 

but lets get to the tips.

 

 

 

i found that just plain out locking myself in my room and saying i was "sick" helped to buy me time. if your mom/family will let that slide without wanting to check up on you, it should work. also, if you have spear money(i don't know how much this may cost for you.) you could 'rent' a hotel for a night? tell them you are going to a friends as an excuse maybe? or if you can, i know it is difficult, you can sit with you parents and talk about having some ground in your personal alone time. having that time to yourself is nice, so if you can, you should talk to them about that.

 

 

that is all i have. i had trouble with regressing while living with my parents as well, so i don't really have much tips on how to avoid them except for moving out, because that is what i did. but you may not have enough money for that so don't if you surly have no where to go. 

[Guest Aastyra]

Two suggestions come to mind:

1. This will be difficult, but you need to try your best to act big around your parents if you want to avoid their negative comments. You could maybe make a list of things you do or say that trigger their responses, then save them for when you're not in their company.
    
2. If you really don't have many opportunities to spend time alone at home, then you're left with only a couple options. The first and easiest option is to save regressing for nighttime only. Basically, this is only when you know your parents are asleep, i.e. you won't be disturbed for several hours. The second option is to come up with a few spots outside of the house where you can go and be yourself without anyone judging (e.g. the park, the mall, and so on).

[LittleIria]

Thank you both so much I'll start trying those tips <3

[The RealDaddyCat]

One of the things that can be useful sometimes is find things that you can have around you that makes you have the feeling of being little. If you have a set of keys try to find a stuffie that is a keychain that when you always have it with you and you can always have some assemblance of feeling little. Any small things like that that you can possibly do or anytime you have free to yourself whether it's go to a park to walk or anything along that line you can find time to yourself to give you a little bit of little space.

[LittleIria]

Wow i didn't even thought about that thank you so much toooo

[Ebony Fruit Bat]

My mom used to say the same to me and for the most part I got with the program. When my mom began saying the same stuff to my niece I couldn't stand by for that. I saw how it made my niece sad and ashamed of herself.

I'm giving you this advice as a little myself, but also as a mom to my own kids because hiding is just as stressful and lying will anger your parents and may cause them not to trust you. I'm a mom myself and think you should try these words first, then follow the others advice if it doesn't work. Depending on how you say what I'm going to write will determine their reaction. First, I suggest you pull them aside for a heart to heart talk. Any way on to what I told my mom:

 

She's going to grow up and be truly hurt by the 'real' world soon enough. Let her hang on to her childhood and innocence as long as she can because being an adult is hard. L

et her remain happy in little ways before it is taken away from her.

[LittleIria]

[Saint14]

For the most part if your parents are stuck in their ways its going to be a lot harder to get them to change their minds. If they dont then its best you act big around them and little when you can. The best thing you can do is to get into some form of routine. One in which you clear all your big stuff for the day efficiently to give yourself more time on your own. Also you should change your "bed time" so you can go in to your room earlier without being disturbed. Finding certain little activities that can be passed off as big people activities may also be a good way to get your energy out since you can disguise it eg. Eating kiddy yogurt but telling your mom its your favorite flavour, or getting an adult coloring book. You can be creative and colour but your family wouldnt question it.

[Saint14]

For the most part if your parents are stuck in their ways its going to be a lot harder to get them to change their minds. If they dont then its best you act big around them and little when you can. The best thing you can do is to get into some form of routine. One in which you clear all your big stuff for the day efficiently to give yourself more time on your own. Also you should change your "bed time" so you can go in to your room earlier without being disturbed. Finding certain little activities that can be passed off as big people activities may also be a good way to get your energy out since you can disguise it eg. Eating kiddy yogurt but telling your mom its your favorite flavour, or getting an adult coloring book. You can be creative and colour but your family wouldnt question it.

[LittleIria]

Thank chu for the adviceeeeee!

[Saint14]

Thank chu for the adviceeeeee!

Sorry my phone kinda posted my comment twice.

[LittleTeacup]

I know this kind of thing can be hard. I'm 28 and still officially live with my parents, although I've also lived in college dorms and employee housing for some internships and a camp job. All parents are different, and I don't know how your parents might change in the future, but I can tell you the changes I've experienced over the years being a little around my parents.

 

When I was your age, I didn't know what a little was, let alone identify as one. I just liked what I liked and did my thing. My parents quite often would tell me to stop acting like I was six or that I needed to wear more "adult" clothes. They did this as I was growing up too, telling me I was too old for certain games or I should be interested in boys (when I didn't care). My mom was the big one for this kind of stuff because I wasn't turning out like she had imagined, like the way she had been at those ages. My parents were proud of my academics and getting into a good college, but they were worried I'd struggle socially. And I did, but it couldn't be helped. In my second year of college I got a dorm room without a roommate and this helped me get used to myself when I had no audience. I got more confident in who I was. My parents still worried about me and tried to get me to change whenever I did something they determined to be too out of the mainstream, like one winter deciding not to shave my legs. To me, it made my legs less itchy and I was wearing long pants anyway, but my mom still couldn't get over it and told me it was unhygienic, which I knew was untrue. I stuck to it and eventually after several years of standing up for myself, my mom stopped negatively commenting on it. Along the way, I got a retail job, then quit and started an internship across the country with an environmental organization, then came home again and left again for another internship with the Forest Service, then came home again. I had anxiety but was doing things my parents were proud of. And I was able to stand up for myself more often. If my parents wanted me to "be an adult", then they had to accept I could make my own decisions about how I chose to be in my own home. It's not like I was being irresponsible. And being able to talk with them about how they made me feel helped a lot, as was just being who I was freely and not giving in to how I "should" be according to mainstream society, which is shaped by marketers trying to sell stuff anyway.

 

Wow I wrote a lot

 

I finally realized earlier this year I'm a little. My parents accept that I have "quirks" that I do and usually don't comment because it's normal for me. And if they do, I just laugh and make a joke or give them a withering glare. I recognize that for a long time my parents didn't understand me and were worried about me. I assume your parents care about you and are worried. My advice is to assure them that this is who you are and it's not standing in the way of how you want your life to be. Ask for some personal time to yourself. Everyone needs it, to be able to plan what you want and what to do. Say "you don't want me to act like a little child and yet you keep invading my space like I need to be supervised". Parents are susceptible to habits too, but pointing them out can help them change. As you grow and gain new experiences, your ability to regress without having to endure negative comments will get easier.

 

I hope I've helped somewhat. I think I went a bit off topic there but the tl;dr is I had similar reactions from my parents at your age, but over the years my growing ability to simply be myself while existing in the world has led my parents to accept my choices too.

[LittleIria]

Sorry my phone kinda posted my comment twice.

 

ahah doesn't matter 

[LittleIria]

I know this kind of thing can be hard. I'm 28 and still officially live with my parents, although I've also lived in college dorms and employee housing for some internships and a camp job. All parents are different, and I don't know how your parents might change in the future, but I can tell you the changes I've experienced over the years being a little around my parents.

 

When I was your age, I didn't know what a little was, let alone identify as one. I just liked what I liked and did my thing. My parents quite often would tell me to stop acting like I was six or that I needed to wear more "adult" clothes. They did this as I was growing up too, telling me I was too old for certain games or I should be interested in boys (when I didn't care). My mom was the big one for this kind of stuff because I wasn't turning out like she had imagined, like the way she had been at those ages. My parents were proud of my academics and getting into a good college, but they were worried I'd struggle socially. And I did, but it couldn't be helped. In my second year of college I got a dorm room without a roommate and this helped me get used to myself when I had no audience. I got more confident in who I was. My parents still worried about me and tried to get me to change whenever I did something they determined to be too out of the mainstream, like one winter deciding not to shave my legs. To me, it made my legs less itchy and I was wearing long pants anyway, but my mom still couldn't get over it and told me it was unhygienic, which I knew was untrue. I stuck to it and eventually after several years of standing up for myself, my mom stopped negatively commenting on it. Along the way, I got a retail job, then quit and started an internship across the country with an environmental organization, then came home again and left again for another internship with the Forest Service, then came home again. I had anxiety but was doing things my parents were proud of. And I was able to stand up for myself more often. If my parents wanted me to "be an adult", then they had to accept I could make my own decisions about how I chose to be in my own home. It's not like I was being irresponsible. And being able to talk with them about how they made me feel helped a lot, as was just being who I was freely and not giving in to how I "should" be according to mainstream society, which is shaped by marketers trying to sell stuff anyway.

 

Wow I wrote a lot

 

I finally realized earlier this year I'm a little. My parents accept that I have "quirks" that I do and usually don't comment because it's normal for me. And if they do, I just laugh and make a joke or give them a withering glare. I recognize that for a long time my parents didn't understand me and were worried about me. I assume your parents care about you and are worried. My advice is to assure them that this is who you are and it's not standing in the way of how you want your life to be. Ask for some personal time to yourself. Everyone needs it, to be able to plan what you want and what to do. Say "you don't want me to act like a little child and yet you keep invading my space like I need to be supervised". Parents are susceptible to habits too, but pointing them out can help them change. As you grow and gain new experiences, your ability to regress without having to endure negative comments will get easier.

 

I hope I've helped somewhat. I think I went a bit off topic there but the tl;dr is I had similar reactions from my parents at your age, but over the years my growing ability to simply be myself while existing in the world has led my parents to accept my choices too.

 

thank you! and it doesn't matter you went off topic i liked reading it because it gives me the feeling i'm not the only one that had problem with being yourself and parents

[BigDaddy45]

I make gift boxes of top special toys, binkies, coloring book and crayons. Teddy bear. Anything special that can be boxed up and hidden in plain site. Pick a time when no one is bothering you and take the time and be a little girl for a little bit.

I am also working to have a place where littles can come and be themselves without judgment and they feel loved and secure.

For super special little ones, I'll wear a long sleeve work shirt where it has my scent and send it in a zip lock bag. She can smell it wear it sleep in it. It's a reminder that Big Daddy is not far away.

Just my 2 cents for what its worth!

May you be happy and loved today!

Big Daddy

[NikitaMaxine]

I've been in this position before. My mother told me to act my age. Yet buy me cute stuff to try to make up for my abusive childhood. Eventually my mother just accepted that I have "quirks" as she calls them as she hasn't come to terms with the concept of littles. I would ask for a little space to clear your head when you need to regress and hang out in your room with your favorite games and movies. I used to do that and if someone came to ask me something I'd answer and ask for my door to be closed when they left