A few little "middle" thoughts after a rough visit from Daddy to end the year...with hope and optimism for a better world!!

[Guest Silmarwen]

Hello all, I just thought i would pop on here and add a few thoughts i had after a very upsetting visit i had with my long-distance Daddy, i hope no one minds at all. This started as a response to another thread but got a bit longwinded and off topic so i decided to make it it's own thread.

 

 

Being a "Middle" is very important to me, but i too question if i shouldn't try and "grow up" sometimes. i come from a circle of independent women, both by blood and water, and to be a "middle" means eventually giving up some of this control to a partner, as i recently learned from a very bad experience irl with a Daddy I met online. 

 

I think the key to being a "middle" for me in my next DD/lg relationship will be balance, on both sides of the /...with some limits set but not the limits set like last time..that was tooo extreme for a newbie like me.

 

..and it will not start online. I am by no means saying that online relationships are bad or dangerous normally (my parents met on an online dating site and are happily married, go EHarmony, we're a success story family!), but one must truly be careful if dating online, on both sides of the DD/lgb dynamic. You never know how life will play out, and people can get hurt. That goes for the DD/M/Cg as well, i have seen plenty of DD friends hurt on this site when they are left by their little partners...DD/MM/CG are still people although they act all "super tough" at times, deep down we littles know they are human too...we just see them as our super hero's or knights in shinning armor..or like to at least...just hope you find a good knight, not a dragon knight..the bad one's are out there as well.

 

So, as it has been said by others in other threads on this site that the people here are very friendly and open-hearted, if you are kind, polite and receptive to their help. So be kind to one another and try to go easy with others at this time of festivities around the world. Lets try and make the last few days of this long and crazy year (as I have heard from so many strangers and close friends and family over 2019) a pleasant few days before we begin the new Decade as a Human People

 

...Let's do this thing as a Human Tribe of DD/lg family members here on this site where we can find unity and comfort in one another's care since we come from all around the world to unite under the banner of DD/lg family and friends/allies.

 

I wish you all a happy holidays, no matter if you celebrate with a big Christmas fruit cake, St Nicolas Speculoos cookies, Hanukah lights and dreidels, or Kwanzza festivities, and even if you don't celebrate anything, i hope you get a few days off from the stress of work and responsibilities (except if you be a DD/M/Cg..then make time for your little/middle/big and their stuffie collection  !) 

 

....I wish you a blessed season!

 

Hugs to all you Daddys/Mommies/Cgs..and to my fellows littles, middles and bigs out there...and kisses to every stuffie in the world!

 

-Love NiciB

[MysticSand]

This is a meaningful message. Thank you for posting this.

 

In the beginning of your post, you seemed to be having something of an identity reconciliation. I like this reflection and think it's important for everyone to think about themselves and how they've grown - not just in this past year, but overall as well. I think my message to you would be, be kind to yourself. Live and learn, and it looks like you've done that which is very impressive because that second piece is hard to do when emotions are involved.

 

Don't feel like you have to sacrifice part of your identity in order for another piece of your identity to exist. Being a Middle does not mean that you have to lose independence. I would think quite the opposite, actually, because it's your choice what you'd like to cede as a Middle or not. Everything you consciously do as a Middle is due in very large part because you are independent. Hope that makes sense.

 

Happy holidays and a happy new 2020 decade to you!