What Am I? Help?

[Musalot]

So I have this thing about me that i am confused about. Deep in me i know I'm a CG. But the idea of being a daddy doesn't quite sit right to me. But it's close. I do recognize that I'm a middle when I'm relaxed at home. But i have a deep natural want to care for and help my little. I suck at rules, for example When my little messes up on something that's she's responsible for like a chore or something, my natural inclination is to help her do it, without feeling like she did anything wrong, and not give any punishments. But if either of us makes promises then doesn't follow through then a punishment. I like reading to her, tucking her in bed, giving goodnight kisses. But sometimes i want to be kissed goodnight.

I like doing things for her, like giving her full-body massages and finished with kisses all over. But i have a hard time thinking of things to do for her without being asked. If anyone can help me work out what i am. It can be kinda frustrating to me because i know I am not Daddy, but I'm a CG and a middle, most of the time at the same time. I'm kinda stuck trying to figure out what i am and i haven't found anything similar to me on here. The closest thing i can find is a Big Bro, but what i have read is that BB are less serious and is not a main CG, but I'm really serious about my littles wellbeing and is the main CG

Edited December 23, 2019 by Musalot

[Guest QueenJellybean]

it sounds to me like you'd be a great big brother/babysitter, 

or even a service top/soft CG. 

 

you sound like you have switch tendencies, which isn't an uncommon thing in this community at all.

neither are the above roles that i mentioned. 

an older sibling is great because the role's identity changes based on the relationship. 

for me, when i'm an older sibling, i'm a big, sadistic bully & also an extension of my partner's caregiver. 

i like to be the older kid that bosses the littler ones around. 

as a younger sibling, Shark (my older brother) has a much more nurturing, CG-eske role. 

he enforces rules, can be strict with me, but does a lot of doting & affectionate thing for me too. 

it depends on the relationship dynamic. 

 

a service top might be right up your alley because you'd essentially be looking to your little prince/princess to tell you what

to do to best service them.

think a knight to a princess, or a guard's captain to a prince. 

even a butler to a spoiled little rich kid.

still in charge, but also not at at the same time. 

it sounds like you might really suit that dynamic as well. 

[Musalot]

Thank you so much for your help, when you described the role of a service top, that felt natural to me. I'm going to do some more reading into that. Thank you once again! Edited December 24, 2019 by Musalot

[Musalot]

 

it sounds to me like you'd be a great big brother/babysitter, 

or even a service top/soft CG. 

 

you sound like you have switch tendencies, which isn't an uncommon thing in this community at all.

neither are the above roles that i mentioned. 

an older sibling is great because the role's identity changes based on the relationship. 

for me, when i'm an older sibling, i'm a big, sadistic bully & also an extension of my partner's caregiver. 

i like to be the older kid that bosses the littler ones around. 

as a younger sibling, Shark (my older brother) has a much more nurturing, CG-eske role. 

he enforces rules, can be strict with me, but does a lot of doting & affectionate thing for me too. 

it depends on the relationship dynamic. 

 

a service top might be right up your alley because you'd essentially be looking to your little prince/princess to tell you what

to do to best service them.

think a knight to a princess, or a guard's captain to a prince. 

even a butler to a spoiled little rich kid.

still in charge, but also not at at the same time. 

it sounds like you might really suit that dynamic as well. 

I have noticed you being helpful and friendly to not only me but others on this site. Do you mind if i reach out to you for advice or help personally on this site?

[chateautal]

I second thelittlejellybeanmonster's suggestion that perhaps you have service top tendancies - or might be a soft daddy (e.g. a kindly king over a bossy little princess!) This doesn't have to make you any less of a Daddy, though - ddlg is such a personal journey, it's best to find your own path rather than worry too much about conforming to specific labels!

Edited December 29, 2019 by chateautal