When did you fall in love with your Daddy/CG/Dom?

[Guest HisBabySunny]

My Daddy and I have only been together for a week after meeting only 2 weeks ago, but already he is the most caring, kind, gentle, passionate, patient spirit I have ever met in my entire life. I feel so safe, happy, and at peace when he is with me and when I hear his voice. My body yearns for him when he's not with me and I hang on every word he says until I'm back in his arms again. I can't imagine ever belonging to anyone else. But I've never fallen for someone so fast. He's my 3rd Dom (I had HORRIBLE experiences with the ones prior.) Part of the reason I find myself in the BDSM community is because of how INTENSELY I experience emotions, and I know that a DDlg relationship invites and welcomes that intensity. Still, I have never felt this way this quickly before.

So, my question is: when did you and your Daddy start saying "I love you?"

When did you realize you were in love?

[Little kaiya]

My Daddy and I took our time before adding in DDlg, collaring and even saying "I love you".

 

We wanted to take time to really get to know one another as people before diving right into intimate things. We wanted to find out who the other person was to determine if we were compatible as people, let alone in love, let alone something as emotionally intimate as DDlg.

 

Honestly, I think it's hard to be in love with someone until you really know them and that takes time, it's not an overnight process. There are so many posts about people "falling in love" very, very quickly and almost inevitably a month or couple of months later the same people are posting looking for relationship help.

 

For my Daddy and I we started dating first, got to know one another, then admitted our love, then added light DDlg to our relationship, then had a collaring ceremony (equivalent to an engagement for us) and are know planning our commitment ceremony to be officiated by my incredible Wife. It's taken just over two years but our love is stronger than ever because we took the time at the start of the relationship instead of rushing.

 

I could honestly never imagine diving into a DDlg or collared relationship quickly because to me it takes a lit of trust, vulnerability and love and that isnt something that happens overnight or even in the first month or two.

 

Little kaiya

Edited December 21, 2019 by Little kaiya

[LittleGirlEmilia]

OKAY! So, I remember the first time I wanted to tell my daddy I love him. It was NEARLY our one month anniversary. We had barely been together a MONTH, and I desperately wanted to say it. The first time I realised I wanted to say it, I had put on a Disney film and he was tucking me in, dummy, bottle, I was purely satisfied and blisslike. He went over to the door and before he closed it he said his goodnights and that's when I had an intense feeling that I wanted to just BLURT OUT...

 

But I didn't! Instead, I talked to my friends and was like OmgIDontWannaSayItItsTooSoonWhatIfHeDoesntFeelTheSameWaaaahhhWaaaahhhCryCry!! My friends told me to chill and agreed with me that 4 weeks was too soon to just blurt out the L word!... Thankfully, we had a holiday booked abroad 2ish weeks after realising my feelings, and I figured that would be the perfect time & place to tell him. I avoided saying it the entire time leading up to the holiday, which was hard because he only lives 10 mins away and we see each other every day, but I made it.

 

On the 2nd night of our holiday, we took a midnight walk along the beach, and I was like OMG, THIS IS THE PERFECT TIME!! We sat down on some chairs...

 

AND THAT'S WHEN HE TOLD ME HE LOVES ME!

 

I nearly cried. He ruined my romantic plans with his own!

 

AND THAT'S NOT ALL!

 

He had planned it all! He had bought me a collar and brought it with us on the holiday FOR THAT MOMENT! I love my collar, I love my daddy, love love love ^.^

 

But yeah, I totally get the intense emotions, a DDlg relationship feels like it's on another level because of the trust, communication, understanding and affection you put in. We just gotta hold on for the right moment because it's worth it!         

[Guest HisBabySunny]

 

OKAY! So, I remember the first time I wanted to tell my daddy I love him. It was NEARLY our one month anniversary. We had barely been together a MONTH, and I desperately wanted to say it. The first time I realised I wanted to say it, I had put on a Disney film and he was tucking me in, dummy, bottle, I was purely satisfied and blisslike. He went over to the door and before he closed it he said his goodnights and that's when I had an intense feeling that I wanted to just BLURT OUT...

But I didn't! Instead, I talked to my friends and was like OmgIDontWannaSayItItsTooSoonWhatIfHeDoesntFeelTheSameWaaaahhhWaaaahhhCryCry!! My friends told me to chill and agreed with me that 4 weeks was too soon to just blurt out the L word!... Thankfully, we had a holiday booked abroad 2ish weeks after realising my feelings, and I figured that would be the perfect time & place to tell him. I avoided saying it the entire time leading up to the holiday, which was hard because he only lives 10 mins away and we see each other every day, but I made it.

On the 2nd night of our holiday, we took a midnight walk along the beach, and I was like OMG, THIS IS THE PERFECT TIME!! We sat down on some chairs...

AND THAT'S WHEN HE TOLD ME HE LOVES ME!

I nearly cried. He ruined my romantic plans with his own!

AND THAT'S NOT ALL!

He had planned it all! He had bought me a collar and brought it with us on the holiday FOR THAT MOMENT! I love my collar, I love my daddy, love love love ^.^

But yeah, I totally get the intense emotions, a DDlg relationship feels like it's on another level because of the trust, communication, understanding and affection you put in. We just gotta hold on for the right moment because it's worth it! :wub: :wub:

Oh my gosh!!!!! I love it this warmed my heart so so much!!!! I love it. And I absolutely agree, I'm holding onto those precious words until just the right time, but your story is so sweet, thank you so much for sharing!!!

[MysticSand]

I'm not sure my own experience qualifies under the type of love I'm assuming you're referring to - romantic love?

 

My Little and I are platonic and so the role I placed him in before we were officially CGL was as a youth. I worked with a lot of youth in my professional life to the point where I'm comfortable being very open and supportive. So for me, I think it was maybe a month in when we had a disagreement on something and afterwards I told him that just because I may get upset on things from time to time "it doesn't mean that I don't love him."

 

Since then, we've developed a deeper meaning for the word but I think the meaning was pretty evident before it was spoken. Take your time and don't feel like you need to say it. It's a word that validates and, in a way, puts a label on the status of your relationship but isn't the crux of your relationship. It's just a word. It's how that word is defined through actions and intimacy that's the important part.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

my story is a good one.

 

i met my Daddy through a mutual friend. he wasn't someone who i thought would give me the time of day, to be honest. we'd been friends for years, but not close friends. he was really fixated on someone else, or so i thought, but his presence was really commanding, soothing, and intriguing. i remember that i used to do little things to get his attention; like his posts on Facebook, listen to the songs he'd send in a group chat we both frequented and then heart the links, stupid things. he found out i was sick medically & would send me encouraging messages every so often, which i thought was sweet, but we didn't talk much beyond that. when we did, he had a naturally nurturing and dominant personality -- i wanted to ask him permission for things. sometimes, it felt better to do the thing if i had his permission. 

 

we continued like this, in this weird limbo, for a few months. 

me, asking him for permission for things in subtle ways, needing to hear him confirm things and banish fears. 

him, providing it without question, even affectionately coaxing me to seek his approval for certain things, like food choices or clothing. 

 

around this time, i had confessed my feelings for him to our mutual friend, who was really enthusiastic about the pairing. 

she felt like we'd both be really healthy for each other -- he had sworn off being a Caregiver after a really bad marriage,

& i ... don't let people take care of me. 

i was pretty on the fence about it, & i think he was really tentative about it as well until this night happened. 

 

now, i want to preface this part of the story by telling everyone something really important.

i am a serious insomniac. 

i take heavy-duty sleep meds nightly & they don't always work. 

i have horrible night terrors. 

i don't sleep well. at all. ever. 

 

i was having a particularly rough night, and i had taken to messaging him late at night since he doesn't sleep much either. 

 

me: i can't sleep. 

him: you should try to. it's late. 

me: you know it's not that easy. 

him: i know. but you are safe to slumber here. 

me: *squirms* ... are you sure? 
him: very. the ghosts have all gone home. you can rest now. 

me: .. i'm... actually getting a little tired... 

him: heh. so sleep. 

me: no you. 

him: I'm not the one who is tired. you are.

me: only a little!

him: so then go to sleep. 

me: no. 

him: i didn't ask. 

 

at this point, my heart was beating so loud that i don't think i was breathing correctly. swallowing thickly, i carefully contemplated my next text. 

 

me: i know. 

 

so much poise and grace, right? 

 

him: go to sleep. rest now. 

me: ok. 

him: good girl. 

 

HIM: GOOD GIRL

HIM: GOOD GIRL
HIM: GOOD GIRL

HIM: GOOD GIRL

 

after that, the rest of sort of history.

i went to bed without a word, slept the entire night without singular complaint, & we didn't speak of it again. 

nor did we when he called me again the next day. 

or the day after that. 

or after that. 

later, we'd both remark that the moment he pressed send, we had the same, heart-stopping reaction as the entirety of our relationship shifted.

but i think that was the moment i knew. 

[DaddysPrettyPrincess]

Okay so, when I met my daddy I didn't really like him as more than a friend, then I started spending more time around him and he quickly became my favorite person, I fell for him while we were just friends, I guess he did too but we played it off. We would always say I love you before I left every time but we would pretend we were joking at the same time, I was a bit too shy to be honest with him. Then he told me that he actually meant it when he said it, then we started dating. SO we loved each other before we even dated, a bit crazy but it worked for us  .

 

How I knew I loved him though was just because the way I felt about him, he made me feel so safe and loved when I talked to him, we could talk about the most crazy outlandish type things and he would always understand. He felt like the missing part of me, it was like he was me in a guys body. He was the most goofy, sweet, caring and understanding guy I had ever met, I just felt complete with him, so content, all my problems felt minuscule. I needed him in my life, God knows where I'd be without him.

 

Its never too early to feel love, although sometimes the love isn't always true and can sometimes fade rather fast, it doesn't mean always.

Edited December 28, 2019 by DaddysPrettyPrincess

[thesoftestprincess]

My Daddy and I are high school sweethearts! We fell in love when we were only 14 and it was complete puppy love. We said 'I love you' about two weeks in, but we didn't really know what it meant yet. We have now been together for 13 years! We got married on our 10 year anniversary! We didn't incorporate any bdsm into our relationship until around 2015 and ddlg just sort of evolved naturally from that. 

Edited December 31, 2019 by thesoftestprincess

[kleinemeid]

My Daddy and I met a few years ago. He fell in love with me before we took it to this level. I just broke up with my boyfriend, and he just got out of a complicated relationship too. I couldn't give myself completely. I was to heart broken to get myself into this. But, slowly I felt that I got feelings for him.

Surprisingly, I was the first one to say I love you. We got into a fight, and it felt like it was the right time to say it. He told me he was struggling to tell it either, but didn't want to come over as clingy or something.

Sadly, those feelings weren't enough to get in a relationship with him.

 

I got back with my ex boyfriend a few months later. He was devastated about it, and I knew I hurt him, but it never was my intention.

 

A few weeks later he met a girl. She was part of a bdsm community. She gained more experience than I ever had, because it was all knew for me.

 

We didn't talk to each other for like 2 years. But I never really got over him. he was always in my mind.

 

But then, I suddenly got a message from him that he and his girlfriend broke up. We started talking again. I am still in a relationship, but my boyfriend and I had agreed to see other people during our time together.

 

It all went so fast, I got in his car the next day. He brought me off to work. It was kinda awkward, but he asked me to be his little girl. I wasn't sure at the beginning, and if that was what I wanted.

He gave me a few days to think about it, and I eventually said yes.

 

It felt weird to be doing stuff like this at the beginning. It felt weird to be around him this much, because a few years ago we only talked and never saw each other. Of course he asked to see me from time to time, but I never felt comfortable enough.

 

 

For me, it's all complicated. I know that I'm in love with him, he's such a sweet, caring, cute kind of guy. And I'd do anything to please him. I feel safe when he's around, and I miss and crave him when he's gone.

 

At this moment, he's on a vacation in Croatia. I miss him so much, and we talk every moment of every day.

And, at this very moment I'm struggling with health issues. He's miles away from me, but he's there when I need him. He calls me everyday just to check up with me.

Yesterday, I fainted, because the pain in my body was horrible. He got mad at me for not telling how I felt that day. I didn't tell him because I wanted him to have a nice time over there. I didn't want him to worry about me more than he already did.

 

 

The only problem right now, is that he told me that he loves me, but he doesn't want to rush things up.

He got the perspective of a relationship, and he's not sure if he wants a real relationship right now.

 

But we'll continue this Daddy/little girl relationship. It's enough for the both of us, at this moment.