Equivalent to collaring

[KittyPrettyKitty]

What would the daddy/dom equivalent be to getting collared as a sub? <3

[Little kaiya]

I gave my Daddy a Wolf pendant which he wears 24/7 along with the key to my collar. To anyone within the BDSM or DDlg communities it certainly conveys the message that He has a collared little/sub and is not looking and off limits.

 

Some of our friends who are Daddies or Doms have bracelets given to them by their littles/subs as a visual representation.

[LittleTeacup]

Well since people get collared for different reasons, there wouldn't just be one equivalent. Perhaps wearing a ring either a wedding ring or something similar? Keeping the key to the collar (if there is one) with them?

[SmolAetherr]

collaring is the bdsm equivelant of a promise ring or a less serious engagement ring and to some its basically an engagement ring or a bdsm marriage

 

there is no equivalent to an equivalent here

[Guest Relentlessoptimist]

There are all kinds of possibilities. BDSM/ D/s, and Daddy dom (Mommy dom) little girl / boy all share some similarities but are all unique.

 

Also, we may have some symbols that are visible to others, visible to people in that community, or are innocent enough that the meaning isnt visible by the vanilla community.

 

For the ddlg community, there are a variety of things you as a dd and as a lg could wear. I think cute collars with daddy's girl w a heart shaped ring are cute. For other people it could be wearing chokers that represent being collared. Or wearing little underwear/bra, or a special necklace. The point is, it's what you together or what your dominant alone decides is a symbol in your relationship and it can be anything. Make it cute, sweet and unique to you. Best wishes.

[Ritz]

It really depends on the relationship. I have one Daddy and he is also my Dom, but I also have a vanilla np and a vanilla idr. For them we have rings with each others names on them. If Daddy and my relationship stabilizes and seems as if it will be a long or longish relationship I will probably make us a set too. That's what makes them special. I buy ring blanks and stamp the names in myself.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

i still hope to be collared by my Daddy, tbh.

i think it depends entirely on the relationship & how they define collaring. 

[LittleGirlEmilia]

Collaring for me means owned and quite similar to a promise ring. Engaged to be engaged, or pretty much engaged in BDSM terms. For me, it's when a DDlg, or BDSM relationship becomes serious. There isn't a DDlg equivalent as collaring is a general BDSM thing, and DDlg falls under BDSM.

 

This is my collar. It's a symbol of my daddy's love towards me and how he feels about me.

TW: Bruises and hickies. I am forever covered lol.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It doesn't have to be a collar though, if you want something less obvious or something to wear during the day, then Etsy would be a good place to look. Bracelets are a good idea in my opinion.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

 

Collaring for me means owned and quite similar to a promise ring. Engaged to be engaged, or pretty much engaged in BDSM terms. For me, it's when a DDlg, or BDSM relationship becomes serious. There isn't a DDlg equivalent as collaring is a general BDSM thing, and DDlg falls under BDSM.

 

This is my collar. It's a symbol of my daddy's love towards me and how he feels about me.

TW: Bruises and hickies. I am forever covered lol.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It doesn't have to be a collar though, if you want something less obvious or something to wear during the day, then Etsy would be a good place to look. Bracelets are a good idea in my opinion.

 

 

this is a good point -- i currently wear slave bells on my ankles as a reminder of who i belong to until we're ready to discuss a collar.

[Guest Relentlessoptimist]

If I may ask, why do people wait such a long time before collaring? I understand it's a big moment in the relationship, but if you've known each other for a longer period of time why do doms make their subs wait? Edited December 23, 2019 by Relentlessoptimist

[Little kaiya]

[chateautal]

Well, collaring is very much its own thing - and can exist within DDLG, as others have already said.

 

For me, however, diapering my little is a similar symbolic gesture - a diaper is something a little wears, given by her daddy, that acts as a constant reminder of the relationship and associated power exchanges. But it symbolizes nuturing and love as much as it does control. It also has the advantage of also being subtler than collars (though no less embarassing, maybe!), in that diapers can be hidden under otherwise normal clothes when going out and about together.

[BabyDaisy81]

I’m not into the idea of collars and I know Daddy isn’t either..  I would like to explore the idea of something for this side of things, until he’s free to decide if he wants to marry me that is..

[BabyDaisy81]

I’m not into the idea of collars and I know Daddy isn’t either..  I would like to explore the idea of something for this side of things, until he’s free to decide if he wants to marry me that is..

 

He’s thinking about a locket for me - after my hinting

[KittyPrettyKitty]

He’s thinking about a locket for me - after my hinting

I think that's a great alternative, subtle but still the same amount of meaning

[DaddysPrincessMissy]

Mine is a chain link style bracelet with a lock as the clasp. I was naughty and lost it for a month awhile back but earned it back. I love looking down at my wrist and knowing I am wrapped in my Daddy's love and always have him with me.

[Little kaiya]

Mine is a chain link style bracelet with a lock as the clasp. I was naughty and lost it for a month awhile back but earned it back. I love looking down at my wrist and knowing I am wrapped in my Daddy's love and always have him with me.

My Daddy and I are confused. Your partner took away your bracelet for a month as a punishment or did we misread/misinterpret? If it is a symbol or your partner's love isn't losing it as a punishment really hurtful?

 

Honestly I would be pretty devastated if my Daddy took away my day collar. It would be like my Wife taking away my wedding band. Having either of them take away the symbol of our live and commitment for any length of time would be very painful to me.

[Bubbles_and_Feathers]

Interesting question. I like a lot of others' replies. I think also, in some dynamics, an equivalent might not be appropriate, as it's a symbol of ownership (I belive?). So while the two may belong to each other, the sub wears a collar as a symbol of submission, and a sign of dominance isn't necessarily required.

[LittlePupRune]

If I may ask, why do people wait such a long time before collaring? I understand it's a big moment in the relationship, but if you've known each other for a longer period of time why do doms make their subs wait?

My Sir did not collar me until about a year after dating, though we had known each other for years before that. We waited to see if we were compatible in dating, then compatible in D/s (Dom/sub) dynamic, but also had to discuss what the collating meant. For me, it’s a serious commitment that entails active work towards furthering the relationship beyond the initial D/s. Right now we’ve started with a collar of consideration for a D/s style power exchange with intent to work towards M/s (Master/slave) a few years down the road, and possibly O/p (Owner/property) further down than that. Since a collar carries so much weight with it, it’s not something I want to rush, or not be 1000% sure about. Waiting allows for important discussions as well as evaluations of compatibility, and the waiting period lends itself to the seriousness of it.