Time for collar!!!

[Jnaz]

Hi all this is my first time i write on a forum ever usually i just read and comment.

 

well,   i was wondering when would it be the right time to give my girl a collar, i don't want it to be too early so she wont panic, and not too late so she might think i don't care!!!

 

 

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

It's completely personal. Are you absolutely certain that you want her for life? I mean, real, long life?

To most this is incredibly serious and shouldn't be taken lightly, while to some it's just a bit of fun, a pretty trinket.

My collar is part of me because my daddy is part of me.

I take the gesture very seriously. It means he owns me. That's not just a word. Nothing to do with kink or fetish or d/s. I belong to him. Simple as that.

Talk to her, ask what she thinks of the whole collar subject, not just relating to your personal situation.

Don't do it out of excitement or thinking it's cool. Think about it.

Lol sorry made that all sound very serious qnd kind of morbid haha. Just trying to say think about it and talk about it. If you both feel the same way about it, whether that be very serious, or a bit of fun, it's ok. The only problem lies if one sees it one way and the other sees it the other way.

[Meldielto]

It's important that you talk about it. Like MyDaddyMyWorld writes, the most important thing is that you are both on the same terms   For some people, a collar can translate to somewhat of a wedding band, that binds you and her together for the rest of your life - to some it's mostly for playing and having fun now and then. The only thing that matters is that you both feel the same way about you giving her a collar 

[macabremode]

I actually run a shop for play collars if you're interested heheh...

 

I DONT MEAN TO USE DDLG FORUMS TO SELF-PROMOTE, but I do sell them for a pretty fair price with free shipping on etsy here (https://www.etsy.com/shop/MacabreMode?ref=search_shop_redirect). 

 

In my opinion they're more for day/discreet wear because you can get away with wearing them in public without too many odd looks or questions, as opposed to locks and chains around your neck. Day collars are very common with many littles, my dom hasn't even collared me yet, but I still like to wear them occasionally because it makes me feel as if I display the image of being owned - even though most vanillas don't understand. Do any other littles here do this? Just curious.

[Bgluvsdd]

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

I did not go through a "passage of training " lol. I wasn't applying for a job, I was living within a real, loyal, full, committed relationship. I earned my collar by proving my love, dedication, obedience and adoration of my daddy. Not because I ticked off a set list of tests passed.

[Guest LexiGremlin]

Personally, I feel that a collar is earned, not given. It is like a wedding ring. You would not just marry someone a week after meeting them. You would get to know each other before making that choice.

[Peach121]

I realise I'm a bit late to the topic, and I'm also a bit of a newbie to ddlg and bdsm, but if you really want to get her one it might be worth thinking about using the three stages of collaring, and getting her a consideration collar?

It's not the same as a training collar or a formal collar, it doesn't show a commitment parallel to marriage. It's exactly what it's called - a consideration collar, she can take it off if she likes and give it back to you if the relationship were to end, with no hard feelings. It sounds like that might be what you're looking for. They're typically leather, and typically blue. Do your research and good luck with your little