Trading Face Pics - When do you do it?

[Guest Dorky_Daddy]

This is something that could cause an issue. You will be talking with someone and having a lot of fun but you have no idea what they look like.

When do you want to see their face?

What if you don't find them attractive despite enjoying talking with them?

This isn't a shallow thing it's just human nature, we all find different people attractive. I know some people want to build up trust before revealing their face and some will have the pic on their profile. It's all preference, but it can definitely lead to issues the longer it's left.

What's everyone's thoughts on this?

[Guest QueenJellybean]

this is a huge personal preference thing, and you'll find a lot of different, fierce opinions on this topic.

 

personally speaking, i keep my face & body off this site, but am pretty open about how i look off-site.

once i start chatting with someone to the point where i exchange contact information, they know what i look like. 

there isn't a face reveal moment, or even a body reveal moment. 

i'll just start weaving them into my daily life with random selfies, video calls when i'm sleepy in bed, outfits in dressing rooms, etc. 

 

if the person i'm chatting with doesn't find me attractive, that's on them. 

 

as for seeing another person's face, i don't have a preference. if they want to show me what they look like, more power to them. 

if they don't, i'd never force them. that might be an unpopular opinion, but for someone who places on the asexual spectrum, sexual or physical attraction to my partner ranks pretty low for me. 

if they get me going, it'll be with words and imagery first and foremost. 

[Guest Looby-Lou]

I won't talk to any male persons without seeing a face pic. The initial "hello I'd like to chat" is all I'll accept, and then my first question will be please share a face pic.

Partly for safety - I had a horrible experience online and this guy knew what I looked like.  Whereas I had no idea what he looked like, and we might bump into each other at a group event, so that's scary.

 

And partly because to me it's simply the human and sociable thing to do. To see who you're talking with

 

The last reason for me is physical attraction, although of course it does help LOL.

 

I understand some people won't put a face pic on their profile, but if someone won't share it privately straight away then I won't chat. 

 

With girls I don't worry so much for safety; don't care at all what they look like in terms off attraction as I'm straight; but I still like to see the face of who I'm chatting with.

 

Looby 

[Little kaiya]

My Wife, Daddy and I aren't out looking for partners of any kind, play or relationship, so seeing a face pic of someone we're chatting with online isn't really important to us at all. If someone chooses to share one that's great, no issue and if the don't it really doesn't bother us.

 

Now if things progress to the point we're going to be meeting in person for a coffee chat or something, then it's at that point we'd exchange pictures if for no other reason than to make it easier to recognize the person in real life.

 

I guess it's also because a face picture online really isn't any guarantee of truth or reality either. There are plenty of people who will use fake face pictures or if pressured to send one may send any old picture. For that reason alone it just doesn't feel that important to us until meeting in real life.

[MysticSand]

Personally, I'm super weirded out by pictures (like selfies and such, not all pictures in general haha). So I'd probably never send a picture of myself but would be happy to do video chat or meet in person. As to when the timing for video chat and meeting in person would be, it'd just depend on how well I know the person. If I can get a good sense that someone is a genuine and good person and not just asking to vid chat/meet as part of a screening process, then that's fine. Maybe 2 weeks the soonest? But that takes a lot of trust and me being able to tell they're a good person.

 

I never really need to know what someone looks like. Although, a bit like Little kaiya above, my interactions online are pretty much purely in the interest of friendship. 

[Ebony Fruit Bat]

Since face pics are requested so much I tried getting into taling selfies and posting pics. There are a couple issues with that that I won't get into because the bottom line is I really do not like the whole process. I'm awkward when it comes to smiling and posing for staged pictures.

 

Whether I give a person a pic or not is based on their stated reason for talking to me. I don't need to see what a (purely non-sexual) friend looks like. In fact I generally don't care what people look like because I'm not attracted to looks beyond the point of deciding if a person looks friendly or if they'll murder me in my sleep.

 

On that odd note, I'll move on to time line for asking and receiving. My only pet peeve is a person asking within the first couple of days. I feel that two people should figure out if they are compatible for friendship or more before exchanging pics. That doesn't really have a solid time line. If a person wants to share their pic and I'm not at the point of sharing I'll just say thank you then either share mine or say I'm not ready yet. That's just my personal preference because any manner of things can happen that will change a person's looks. I am attracted to people for their character. My fondness for them makes them beautiful to me.

[Ebony Fruit Bat]

When do you want to see their face?

What if you don't find them attractive despite enjoying talking with them?

 

What's everyone's thoughts on this?

I haven't ever been really sexually attracted to a person, so if I'm not pleased with how they look I give it time. It is odd, but I don't focus on people's over all beauty. I look at their eyes, nose, mouth, cheeks, eyebrows. Yada yada, faces are interesting enough to find one or two beautiful aspects that makes them entirely gorgeous. It really doesn't change how much I like them.

 

If someone isn't attracted to me then ehh *shrugs*. If we were considering each other for a dynamic and they tell me respectfully that they aren't attracted to me I'll ask if they still want to be friends. If they don't want to be friends I thank them for giving me the chance to get to know them and wish them the best.