Daddy no more?

[Guest ShadoWolf]

So my little recently split up with me rather abruptly and without warning.She was my first little. Yes I'm very new to the DDlg scene but a old hand in BDSM.to clarify where I'm coming from. I have been in BDSM over two decades and never felt pain or loss like this with the many girls I trained over the years.

I'm wondering if other Daddies/Mommies/CG have ever contemplated giving up after there breakup? It kills me that she just left and seriously makes me question if I want to try again.

[AttendingBear]

Don't give up if you like it.

 

Did she give any reasonsing? Sometimes people just need to be alone and deal with stuff. Honestly is what keeps people together, and your first priority should always be the health of a relationship. All littles are different, and everyone has a match out there somewhere. 

[clo_oh]

firstly, i would like to say that any breakup can be hard,

especially with these kinds of relationships, where you really build up a bond, and trust.

 

 

i think that you should keep trying with DDLG. only "give up" on it if you are truly sure that you do not have any interest in it as a whole.

i am not a CG but i truly think that you should really think about giving up on this community,

maybe take a week break from it and see how you feel.  

[Guest Dorky_Daddy]

There's something about this dynamic that makes you feel closer than other relationship's I think.

I had a breakup last year that left me feeling like I never wanted to try again. So I took some time to myself and realised that I missed having that special someone in my life. So even though bill probably get hurt again I think it's worth it to find the one who will hopefully be your forever little/middle.

[SmolAetherr]

its a very close and intimate dynamic it often feels like your first little is you first highschool girl/boyfriend i can say for myself that i got over the initial sting of me leaving my first little by just looking after myself and accepting it was going to hurt like hell for a long time but i got over it and found other people who matched me even better

[PrincessOfWhales]

the only thing i can recommend is something that i had to learn along the way....

dont jump in quickly, take your time, if its meant to be -then there is no sense in rushing it, get to know each other... as friends, learn all about each other first before deciding on if you want to be a ddlg couple.  and then once you are in the relationship, there needs to be communication 1000%  and both of you need to listen to each other. trust, loyalty, and honesty... 

 

it stings right now, and it will for a while.. but take some time for yourself, learn from it, and then decide. don't give up on being a daddy if you think you have enjoyed it thus far

 

also,...... if the next one doesnt work out, that one is going to sting and hurt too... it wont ever not hurt

a Daddy/little (or CG/little) bond is so amazing that when it ends, it can be both heart and earth shattering.

[Frog]

I can see where you're coming from. I've thought about it a lot, too. If it's something you absolutely can't see yourself without DDlg, then just take a break. Just for now, don't worry about DDlg. 

 

If it's something you can see yourself without, then there are two possibilities: 1) you're not that into it, or 2) it depends on your partner. With any kink or fetish or interest, it's possible you can be perfectly fine without DDlg and be happy. Yet if you meet a little/middle/etc then that's your life with your partner.

 

But don't underplay your pain. It's just like an injury, and you need time to heal. What I'm seeing in your text isn't necessarily "DDlg life is painful, so do I need it" but "I got hurt, so do I want to try again." I may be wrong but I think DDlg is the least of the issues right now. As I said, you need to heal first.

[Guest Minister Judas]

I remember being distraught when my last little broke things off with me. It takes time, but giving up on it is giving up on something that provides what one needs to be happy in relationships.

[Guest Ninny689]

Wow - i guess, for me, it’s an actual relationship model as opposed to a sexual lifestyle or “scene” - DDlg makes us feel so much more than other types of D/s dynamics because it naturally *is* more emotionally involved than most other dynamics and relationship styles - it doesn’t always have to be - but, it tends to be a softer, more nurturing and responsive relationship than just “another girl trained” (ew)

 

So, even though you’re hurt rn, if you’re picking up on signs that DDlg creates a deeper bond or richer experience for you, that’s a good thing! It’s easy, when a wound is fresh to just throw in the towel - but, maybe it’s a blessing in disguise - she might not be the right little for you - but, maybe the larger CG/l relationship model is for you! And, now you’ve learned that! Take time to heal - and, eventually, you’ll be ready for your next connection, DDlg or not