Subspace in DDlg Without Age Regression

[Guest HisBabySunny]

Hi all! I'm a new little sub but I'm having trouble finding others in the DDlg community who don't age regress to <10-ish years old.

It's hard to explain, but I'm 100% that I do identify as a Little, based on how I've been my entire life and even a past relationship, but I don't regress to a particular age range, much less, anything less than teens. I simply find comfort in being cared for by my Daddy, being able to call him for attention, cuddles, to be babytalked, called "little one"/"baby"/"babygirl," and pretty much everything that comes with DDlg. When I'm drunk, my ex used to sing lullabies to me to call me down if I was throwing a fit, and I used to keep a stuffie he bought for me in bed with me when I couldn't see him. Pretty much what I don't do is everything I see people defining littlespace as: pacis, blankies, stickers, sippy cup, even diapers/pullups. But I don't do those things nor do I have interest in those things. And my Daddy likes it that way as well.

My littlespace looks less like an intentional mindset and more of an all-encompassing behavior/thought process/etc. when I'm with Daddy.

I'm rambling, but does anyone else feel this way?

[Guest Acenya]

There are actually many submissives in the community, including myself, who identify as middles rather than littles.

Which means you identify yourself older than a baby or a toddler, could be a preteen/tween mindset, for instance,

and for some even older - and that usually removes some elements such as diapers, pacis and sippy cups.

Not all littles or middles age regress, no matter the age they identify with, not all littles even have a specific 'little age'!

There's no wrong way to be in a ddlg relationship as long as you're not hurting yourself or anyone around you.

Don't feel pressured to fit into a generic group, you're still valid!

Edited December 17, 2019 by Acenya

[Guest HisBabySunny]

Ahh ok! As you can see I'm still learning haha, I didn't know that's what "middle" meant, thank you so much!! That makes a lot of sense.

[Guest HisBabySunny]

There are actually many submissives in the community, including myself, who identify as middles rather than littles. Which means you identify yourself older than a baby or a toddler, could be a preteen/tween mindset, for instance, and for some even older - and that usually removes some elements such as diapers, pacis and sippy cups. Not all littles or middles age regress, no matter the age they identify with, not all littles even have a specific 'little age'! There's no wrong way to be in a ddlg relationship as long as you're not hurting yourself or anyone around you. Don't feel pressured to fit into a generic group, you're still valid!

Ahh ok! As you can see I'm still learning haha, I didn't know that's what "middle" meant, thank you so much!! That makes a lot of sense.

[Guest Sunshinekitty]

I also don't do the sippy cup, paci, pull up, blanket way of being. And my littleness is a range. I usually say it's 4-8 just to give a general idea, but there are days when I know I've slipped into something older. I never slip below 4ish.

 

And there are plenty of little/middles like you, but I don't really know much about them, nor the people who are more like me who don't really need items to be little.

 

I'm currently trying on different things, too. Lately I've been absolutely fascinated by pop up dollhouses and magnetic paper dolls. I don't have any, mind you--but they are sooo cool.

 

Anyway, I digressed. There isn't any way to be a little any more than anyone can copy who you are and be you.  This forum is a good place to explore stuff and meet new people. I'm sure you'll discover more as you go on.

[LucyDolly]

I'm a fitting example for the kind of Little which Acenya mentioned. My littlespace is within the range of about 10-13 years so i consider myself a middle and I'm not really an age regressor either because I am always at least to some degree in my littlespace. I was always this way even before i found out that there is a certain term that describes what i am and i cant switch my inner child on and off like a robot and I'm grateful that it is this way.

 

My inner child is the core of who i really am, there is no need to hide or conceal her, that would feel like self-deception for me, like wearing a mask and playing a role.

 

And I'm not an actor so its not my job to play a role, my job is to be myself. *giggles softly*