Transitioning from having a Daddy

[lil.mx.piggy]

Hi everyone

 

So I've been having a really hard time since my daddy and I decided to part ways a couple of months ago... I crave having one again but am honestly really scared to develop that connection again with someone new.

 

Since being alone, I've only been in true little space, for more than like 5 minutes at a time, once. I don't know if it's a mental block I've put up for some reason, but it's honestly starting to take a toll on me. I wasnt little 24/7 with my daddy, but it was definitely an every day thing with him.

 

I guess I'm just looking for some comforting words or even some advice?

 

Best wishes to all

[Guest SHESACES]

I feel like it’s hard to be in “little space” when sad, look for ways to enjoy your time even if it’s doing every day things. Try baking some Christmas cookies, make some Christmas cards to donate to a nursing home, take a walk to see some Christmas lights to cheer yourself up and hopefully you’ll find ways to be more comfortable and confident in your current situation and get yourself back to a point where you can have little time again.

 

I’ve been through this twice now and it never gets any easier when feelings are involved but it’s worth the risk if you find the right person let me know if you want someone to talk to even if it’s just about silly stuff, no one should have to feel this way.

 

Super big hugs!!!

 

ACE

[lil.mx.piggy]

Thank you so much! I've been crocheting baby blankets and that helps a little.. I'm gonna be doing a crochet scrap blanket when I'm all done and donate to a local charity event thing we do. I'm also gonna be volunteering at the local Santa's workshop to wrap presents for kids in need this season.. I want to volunteer at the soup kitchen for christmas dinner this year too, but we'll see how that goes...

 

I am trying to find things that make me a little happier. But I like the christmas cards idea a lot, seeing as I'm very artistic.

[Guest Peachy Paisley]

A lot of my little space time is done on my own (though I do have a daddy - he just isn't in the mindset lately with all the stress he is under), so it often feels like I don't have a daddy & that can make littlespace hard sometimes, especially when you just want attention to be loved/cared for, etc. So I find kinda mixing self-care with things I enjoy helps a lot.

 

I love the chat on this site if other littles are playing sometimes I just sit & read and it helps me slip into little space, sometimes I join in with the chat too. Or even in other places where littles are chatting, discord servers, kik, etc.

 

Being cozy is big for me too. So if I curl up in my unicorn blanket with a stuffie and put on a movie or show I enjoyed from my childhood (or even something new that I enjoy) I find that can help too. I have a really hard time being in littlespace if I am cold..so I always gotta be warm and cozy! Fluffy socks and onesies help with that too, I can't help but feel cute and little in them!

 

Arts & crafts! Like you mentioned with the crocheting. I have bought felt & all sorts of little things and made masks sometimes, or silly hats...just fun things like that. Pipe cleaners, popsicle sticks, some paint, glitter. On the same sorta note, I have a bullet journal and when I do a creative page in it that can sometimes help me get into little space too, especially if it's not too technical but I am using markers or pretty washi tape, stickers, etc.

 

Cute & relaxing video games help too. I have a minecraft world that I play only when I'm in littlespace. It's way different from any other minecraft world I have ever made...because I just do whatever (and have it on peaceful lol) instead of "well this makes more sense". Stardew Valley, Hat in Time, even little phone games (like the dress up ones) are great. 

 

Lately with Christmas, seeing Christmas lights and things like that puts me into littlespace REALLY easily. I have a hard time not just totally slipping into littlespace if we go into any store that has christmas things, I just instantly wanna go run around and point out all the things I like, etc. So maybe there is a holiday or something like that that you really enjoy that brings out that little side in you too. It doesn't need to be in public stuff either, like if decorating easter eggs helps you can totally do that at home any time of the year.