Punishments for sub

[LetsGoToMars]

Hey all!

So a few days ago my girlfriend made fun of my punishments, and how i only choke, spank and smack her cheeks, lol.

The thing is im still very new to this. I want to punish her when shes being naughty, but at the same time i don't want to really badly hurt her. She's my little princess after all. She wants me to introduce new punishments, but i'm a little stuck for thought. 

Do you guys have any ideas for punishments?

Thanks in advance

[Guest Kaori]

Some options are kneeling on uncooked rice or frozen peas, wall sits, time out, lines. It really depends on your little and what you think would be most effective. It's something you really should discuss and agree on with her.

[fuzzballs]

What is your sub's personality?

[Guest Relentlessoptimist]

Punishment should be something she doesnt like within reason. And it should be clear to her what the rule is so that she knows when she broke it.

 

Punishment: sit by the wall, holding up a coin w her nose for a set amount of time

Orgasm denial

Pushups/exercise as long as it doesnt build a negative aversion to exercise.

 

You've also got to find out what she doesnt like. As her for an example of a serious punishment that she would accept. Also you cant break her hard limit ad a punishment.

 

Can you harder spankings / pain within reason (also w safewords and green yellow red still being respected)

 

Take something away that she likes -.no tv or x box etc.

 

Theres a wide variety of ways to do it, it depends on her and you what she responds to. Best of luck. Let us know what worked for you.

[LetsGoToMars]

What is your sub's personality?

She's cheeky. She acts a brat for a punishment.

 

Im really considering orgasm denial as i know she'll hate that. Or getting her wet and leaving her there all desperate wanting permission but getting none. Baby knows not to do anything without my permission

 

Edited December 11, 2019 by LetsGoToMars

[LetsGoToMars]

Punishment should be something she doesnt like within reason. And it should be clear to her what the rule is so that she knows when she broke it.

 

Punishment: sit by the wall, holding up a coin w her nose for a set amount of time

Orgasm denial

Pushups/exercise as long as it doesnt build a negative aversion to exercise.

 

You've also got to find out what she doesnt like. As her for an example of a serious punishment that she would accept. Also you cant break her hard limit ad a punishment.

 

Can you harder spankings / pain within reason (also w safewords and green yellow red still being respected)

 

Take something away that she likes -.no tv or x box etc.

 

Theres a wide variety of ways to do it, it depends on her and you what she responds to. Best of luck. Let us know what worked for you.

Orgasm denial is definitely one i've been thinking of. Maybe get her wet and don't do anything? 

Excersise isint a good idea for us.

The issue with punishments, is that i don't want to seem controlling. I kinda want them to be sorta educational. Sort of, you've done this wrong, heres your punishment so you learn. If that makes sense xD

[Guest Relentlessoptimist]

Punishment isnt a good idea. Funishment is fine, but it should be something she can do to trigger that when she wants funishment as a stand alone thing.

 

You and her have to sit down and should write some of these things down. Your expectations, what you want from her. What she wants from you. And to train her as your sub will include reminding her to doing what you want to do a few times (something she agreed to do, because you 2 should be regularly negotiating and renegotiating things. And then have some set punishments to reinforce the behavior. As she is bratty, your issue might become that because you never really force her to take her place, she might get frustrated that she gets away with everything.

 

I can use others input here on dealing w brats. And also by force, I mean sticking to a punishment she doesnt like.

 

Educational punishments are fine. That's why exercise isnt terrible (depending on the situation. Because w it you can push her limit a bit farther than what's comfortable but she will get stronger from it.

 

Orgasm denial is a good one, get her a bit tied up and then ignore her. Bit depending on your d/s relationship style, punishments can have their place unless you both arent into that.

 

And as she was making fun of you for what tou are doing now, I think mentally she will be disappointed if she gets away w everything.

 

You dont have to punish all the time. But if you want to correct her behavior and she keeps pushing your buttons, I dont see what the educational sort of punishment you could introduce that would work. And it also depends, if she always tries her best or if it's not your style then you dont have to do it. D/s whatever flavour it takes is up to you. I would have a deep talk about it w her to figure out what your relationship will evolve to. But also, you are the dominant and you have to set rules, expectations and so on (either in the bedroom or in your life) once you have negotiated that with your partner.

[LetsGoToMars]

Thanks Relentlessoptimist! 

 

Ill definitely start to enforce rules, and there will be consequences to her not following. We have established a safe word, so whenever i'm enforcing something I'll keep an ear out for that. Orgasm denial will be a good punishment for her . Ive also thought of tying her up (legs and hands) all desperate for me and i just leave her there, same with blindfolding. Getting her excited and expects something, only to be reminded that little girls get rewards

[Guest Prat]

Talk shit get hit? She's teasing you, get crafty with em, test her limits.

[Guest Relentlessoptimist]

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Thanks Relentlessoptimist! 

 

Ill definitely start to enforce rules, and there will be consequences to her not following. We have established a safe word, so whenever i'm enforcing something I'll keep an ear out for that. Orgasm denial will be a good punishment for her . Ive also thought of tying her up (legs and hands) all desperate for me and i just leave her there, same with blindfolding. Getting her excited and expects something, only to be reminded that little girls get rewards

That - good - little girls get rewards.

 

Also, it's a good idea at the reward system as well. If she does bad, and shes punished, then she should get rewards sometimes when she is good.

 

Just remember, negotiating things clearly is important. And changing things up as needed and that both of you bring things up. She has a right to negotiate too. I like the idea of you trying her up or edging her a bit and then walking away. You can use feathers to tickle her when she is bound, not all punishment has to be physical. It can be mental too (within reason), not calling her your good girl, a bit of mind fuckery, and so on.

 

I highly recommend listening to the podcast 'loving BDSM' to learn about the lifestyle (as I'm doing) so that your relationship depends. BDSM or d/s or ddlg is wonderful to me because it brings down peoples mental walls and allows good solid communication. Communication is such a central part of it, as well as will. And you will depending on your relationship shape and train her and yourself to be better. Also you will get her to serve your needs, and you'll also provide for her needs, there has to be balance. Have fun w it. Best wishes to you both.

[LetsGoToMars]

Thank you very much