My daddy and i haven't spoken properly in nearly a month

[Guest Lil_moon19]

We haven't spoken properly for a while which makes me sad cus i love daddy time but is this maybe a sign of something... is it just in my head... i miss him so much but is it coming to an end?...

Edited December 7, 2019 by Lil_moon19

[Little kaiya]

A month is a long time to not talk in any kind of relationship let alone a DDlg one. I'd recommend reaching out to him, explain your concerns and see what he responds.

[Guest Sunshinekitty]

That is a long time. You should definitely ask.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

what do i always say, boys and girls?

communicate, communicate, communicate. 

 

this isn't a reasonable amount of time in any form of a relationship to go without speaking unless it was previously discussed. 

message him & tell him you need to have a meta-talk about the state of your relationship. 

immediately.

 

if he's not willing to sit down and address your feelings, then you aren't in a relationship anymore. 

it isn't fair to you to be sitting here asking the internet if a perfectly reasonable request is outlandish. 

[Alaskan Daddy]

if it was me I would send a very pointed message DEMANDING him to tell you the state of your relationship. You have been loyal and deserve a good answer.

[Guest Lil_moon19]

I have spoken about this before and other concerns and i said will we get through this and he said we will...but im having serious doubts like i  know the mans busy with work and stuff but i just feel ignored.. like it's my birthday today and i messaged him at 00:00 but i can garantee if im lucky i'll get a reply monday..

[Guest Dorky_Daddy]

Happy Birthday! Sorry you're feeling ignored. Going through a similar thing right now. Don't let it stop you from enjoying your birthday, hope you have a fun day and get lots of presents

[Guest Lil_moon19]

Happy Birthday! Sorry you're feeling ignored. Going through a similar thing right now. Don't let it stop you from enjoying your birthday, hope you have a fun day and get lots of presents

thank you x

[Little kaiya]

I have spoken about this before and other concerns and i said will we get through this and he said we will...but im having serious doubts like i know the mans busy with work and stuff but i just feel ignored.. like it's my birthday today and i messaged him at 00:00 but i can garantee if im lucky i'll get a reply monday..

If that happens I wouldn't even be sending a message demanding the status of things because honestly you already know. If you have to message him about you birthday and it takes that long to get a reply back that not a red flag to me, that's a death bell tolling the end.

[Bearman]

Happy birthday from me too. I'm sorry you were ignored like that. You definitely should call him directly and mention this.

[Guest Lil_moon19]

If that happens I wouldn't even be sending a message demanding the status of things because honestly you already know. If you have to message him about you birthday and it takes that long to get a reply back that not a red flag to me, that's a death bell tolling the end.

i ended it with him though he hasnt seen it yet and i assume i wont get a reply till after christmas but i really dont care at this point

[Guest YoungLady91]

I'm sorry you are going through this. The same thing happened with me and my daddy. He slowly stopped contacting me making the excuse that he was busy until I saw how he was out having fun on social media. I do send him a message breaking up with him telling him I need someone who will make time no matter how busy they are. Not sure if he even got my message but if he did, he probably doenst Care enough to reply.

[Guest Lil_moon19]

I'm sorry you are going through this. The same thing happened with me and my daddy. He slowly stopped contacting me making the excuse that he was busy until I saw how he was out having fun on social media. I do send him a message breaking up with him telling him I need someone who will make time no matter how busy they are. Not sure if he even got my message but if he did, he probably doenst Care enough to reply.

We are in the same boat xx if you ever wanna talk then feel free xx

[Guest YoungLady91]

Thanks girl

[Guest Looby-Lou]

A lot of us littles are clingy, needy, and too hopeful for our own good.

From what you've said, there actually isn't a relationship anymore, but you're hoping there is (or will be).

 

You say you've ended it, but it sounds like you're still looking for a reply ... and then his reply will give you the chance to open a discussion with him. You're still hoping. 

 

Lots of us do this. It never ends well. It might drag things on a bit longer and give you the feeling of being "in a relationship" but sooner or later you'll be right back at this point again.

 

I hope you find the strength to forget about this guy & heal your heart. Maybe ask yourself why you gave so much of yourself to someone who gave so little. And then find someone better.

 

Looby 

[Guest Lil_moon19]

A lot of us littles are clingy, needy, and too hopeful for our own good.

From what you've said, there actually isn't a relationship anymore, but you're hoping there is (or will be).

 

You say you've ended it, but it sounds like you're still looking for a reply ... and then his reply will give you the chance to open a discussion with him. You're still hoping. 

 

Lots of us do this. It never ends well. It might drag things on a bit longer and give you the feeling of being "in a relationship" but sooner or later you'll be right back at this point again.

 

I hope you find the strength to forget about this guy & heal your heart. Maybe ask yourself why you gave so much of yourself to someone who gave so little. And then find someone better.

 

Looby 

because its a theme with the males in my life since ive been a child whether its been father figures or in later years boyfriends i seemingly pick emotionally unable or complete dickwads often leaving me giving more and them less 

[Guest DaddyTheLeash]

This is probably an LDR right? He may be getting ready to ghost you. It doesn't matter how busy one is; a couple texts a day takes about three minutes worth of time.

[Guest Looby-Lou]

because its a theme with the males in my life since ive been a child whether its been father figures or in later years boyfriends i seemingly pick emotionally unable or complete dickwads often leaving me giving more and them less 

 

 

A lot of us can relate in some way to that. Surely the whole point of experience (good or bad) is to LEARN from it.

 

It's up to you to do something about it and change the dynamic. Or else continue with the same behaviour and get the same results.

 

Looby