I think I'm going to be alone forever

[littleboyfrank]

I'm a little trans boy. I feel like I'll never be accepted as a little boy and I'll be cast out. I feel like femme caregivers/mommies wouldn't be interested in a boy that doesn't have boy parts and it just really bums me out. I just feel like a freak. My little space is becoming less and less cheerful each day because of this. Are there any littles who have any advice or words of assurance?

Edited December 6, 2019 by littleboyfrank

[Guest Sunshinekitty]

Parts don't matter--it's the whole of your soul that does. And while it may feel really hard right now, you're not alone. You may not have a partner atm, but you're here. And you're accepted.

 

I know that I'm in a separate space from you right now because I can't feel what you feel or experience what you've experienced, but I know that as long as any one person has love to give--love will be reflected back.

 

It hurts in this moment, and maybe for a while, but there are over seven billion people on the planet--so no matter how impossible it feels, it is very possible to find someone who accepts you and loves you. It just takes time.

[Little kaiya]

I'm a little trans boy. I feel like I'll never be accepted as a little boy and I'll be cast out. I feel like femme caregivers/mommies wouldn't be interested in a boy that doesn't have boy parts and it just really bums me out. I just feel like a freak. My little space is becoming less and less cheerful each day because of this. Are there any littles who have any advice or words of assurance?

I'm genderfluid, femboy/female but although my gender is more feminine male and female, I was born with a male sex. Did I have concerns that my Wife would accept my fluidity, certainly. Did I have concerns I'd find a caregiver that would accept my gender without having the parts, yup.

 

That said, my Wife accepted me with open arms and I found an incredible Daddy who loves me for who I AM and not for the parts I have or don't have. There are 100% people out there who genuinely don't give a second thought about the parts but instead love people for who they are. I found my Daddy later in life but we just celebrated 2 years together, he collared me and He, my Wife and I are planning the commitment ceremony for my Daddy and I.

 

Love yourself for who you are, stay positive and be confident as those things are very attractive traits to potential partners.

 

Little kaiya

Edited December 7, 2019 by Little kaiya

[zanderandspike]

just know you're not alone, I'm also a trans little, and it can be hard, but someday you'll find a cg you just have to believe in yourself and keep getting up

 

~zander

[Guest QueenJellybean]

you are absolutely valid, and have a place here.

there are a lot of other folks in a similar boat as you here. 

i hope some of their stories help you feel included. 

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/35261-trans-and-polyamorous-littles-are-we-valid/?hl=trans+little

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/42866-trans-littles/?hl=trans+little

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/35328-trans-littles/?hl=trans+little

[junebug0325]

In my opinion, you can find your partner when you're ready.

 

For both my Daddy and me, we found each other in probably the worst moments in our lives. I was suffering from severe depression going through college with brain cancer and my Daddy had just gotten out of jail from a crime he didn't commit and was trying to integrate himself back into society, also suffering from severe depression.

 

In both of our cases, we weren't even looking to enter a relationship because we both were going through so much in our lives, we thought it would be hard to add something else into it.

 

But, apparently the universe thought it was the right time, because we found each other and we were there for each other throughout these struggles in our lives. Now, we are living together in our apartment with our fur baby, and we are looking at the next chapter in our lives: moving. 

 

My point is, it's going to be hard but when you focus on yourself and try to love yourself, it makes it easier for you to love someone else. It sounds cheesy, but it's true.

 

I wish you the best of luck finding your forever partner and if you need any support, feel free to reach out and message me.

 

 

 

 

Junebug xxx

 

 

[LittleDashieGirl]

Ima genderqueer little born female. I only just found my daddy here on this forum today , it’s possible to find a daddy or mommy , and it’s frustrating I know when they only see. You for your body and not your heart . But the right daddy/Mommy will see you for you and love you always when the time is right In meantime you have this forum and the friends you make here your not alone .

[Lilith-Lynn-Lupin]

@ Little Kaiya you said you have a wife and a Daddy? I am not trying to be to intrusive, but I feel like when I tell my husband he will not want to be a Daddy. I was just wondering about this dynamic. Sorry to change the subject. Edited December 23, 2019 by Lilith-Lynn-Lupin

[LittleTeacup]

Hi littleboyfrank,

 

Sometimes I feel like I'll never find a caregiver either, but I know I have to believe I will anyway. I'm not trans so it's not quite the same, but I have ASD and get afraid someone won't want to deal with my peculiarities and need for lots of gentleness and sensitivity. Or they might want sexual things when I'm not ready. But when I think calmly about it, I know these are common fears a lot of single people have. There are compatible people out there for all of us.

 

Lots of people don't care about which parts someone has. Or it matters far less than other things like personality. I know I don't really care about parts. Once I love someone, I think their whole body is wonderful no matter what it looks like. Because it's theirs. I know logically I can't be the only one who loves the person first, then the body follows.

[Little kaiya]

[tinybearprincess]

Hiiii! 

I cannot say I understand the feeling because i am cisgendered, but know that femme caregivers that don't care about boys parts exist!!!! I am a switch (mostly on the sub side tho) and was with a trans/genderfluid daddy for 4 years!! I didn't care about her parts for one bit and we had the most fun and it was a loving relationship xx I would have felt the same with a little boy like you! A lot of people are coming out as bi/pansexual, and don't care about gendered-parts, and you will find someone one day!! I know it's hard to believe (I barely believe it myself because im mostly little but im very tall like 6ft/180cm so i get the 'not fitting in the mold' part) but if I could have a loving relationship, you can too! Maybe look on websites other than ddlg websites to meet open-minded people? I met my ex-daddy on a normal website and we both discovered and loved ddlg together!! This way you can meet more queer-friendly people! 

Sorry for the messy message (very tired) and good luck in your search xxxx