Collars?

[Guest Kay_Boy]

This might seem like more of a BDSM topic, so I do apologise in advance.

(I apologise a lot, oh dear)

 

With collars or chokers, is it just down to personal preference as to whether one is worn or not, or is there some unwritten rule that only someone who has a CG can wear one (to avoid any unwanted advances by others, as I’ve heard can happen even with collared subs).

 

I’ve Just seen a lovely baby blue collar for sale on Etsy that says “Daddy’s Boy”, but I’m not sure whether it’d be ‘right’ for me to get it since I don’t really have a daddy?

[Little kaiya]

Collars can mean a lot of different things to different people. For some people they are an aesthetic choice as an accessory and for others they are a symbol of a deep, abiding submission and love. My Daddy collared me over a year ago and I have a pink leather play collar for submissive times and training and then a sterling silver, celtic day collar that I wear 24/7. Both of these collars are NEVER to be taken off by me as they are a sign of my submission, commitment and voluntary ownership and were offered during a formal collaring ceremony to my Daddy. My day collar is in fact on the same level of significance as my wedding band with my Wife.

 

Would I ever buy myself a collar, personally no, as it has a VERY strong symbolism and meaning to me as a collared submissive. That said, so long as you are honest and truthful with yourself and others about the meaning of the collar then in my mind there isn't some "unwritten rule" you have to follow.

Edited December 1, 2019 by Little kaiya

[LittleGirlEmilia]

I was going to say what Kaiya said. Different for different people. If I were to be collared I would want to do it properly. It's similar to getting engaged for me.

 

That doesn't mean you can't buy it and wear it for yourself though.

[Guest Relentlessoptimist]

Another option is that when you find a daddy you can offer your collar to him.

[Guest DemureBelle]

If you want to buy it, buy it! 

 

Like everyone said, it's your choice. 

 

I want to wear a collar given by my daddy, but if I wanted to wear one that I liked a lot, I can. No unwritten rule at all. 

[LittleDashieGirl]

I wear a heart padlock collar I made myself with a old stainless steel chain and a heart shaped padlock I bought online . It costed me maybe 7.00 total . I used to be collared and wore a steel collar but we broke up and I felt I couldn’t keep a collar that represented a broken relationship . I don’t wear my collar constantly , more so when I feel little or submissive , or just want to show my submission , or just to avoid creepy eyes on me , I will wear it in public too . It passes as a necklace .

[Guest Looby-Lou]

BDSM is often a part of DDlg, and/or DDlg is a part of BDSM. No reason why you can't ask such questions!

 

I've got collars/chokers that I wear just because I like them. IF someone puts one on me, that's a different feeling.

So for me, it can go either way.

 

You're totally allowed to do whatever you want! If you like, buy it. If you want to wear it, wear it.

If you don't want to wear it until you have a Daddy, that's ok too.

 

There's no definite "sign" even if you wear it in public. It could mean "I'm owned" or it could mean "I'm a cute baby boy, I'm a sub, I'd love to find an owner/Daddy" etc.

 

Life's too short to worry so much about what other people think. Most of the time other people aren't thinking about us at all. They're too busy thinking about themselves LOL.

 

Looby 

[Guest QueenJellybean]

collars have meaning because we give them meaning. 

if it means something to you, it's right for you.

 

i just got a slave anklet ordered with bells from etsy as a starter collar with my Papa. 

i'm not his slave, but it fits us. 

do what fits you.

[LittleTeacup]

There's definitely no rule, unwritten or otherwise. Collars mean different things to different people.

 

I don't think I'd wear a collar, but I'd totally do a necklace with symbolism. I actually have one now that's a teapot pouring into a teacup. Looks super cute, but to me it represents the love that fills me.

[Guest Peachy Paisley]

When I first got together with my bf we thought about getting a collar for me, but with my allergies it would be really hard to find something that I can wear without having reactions, so we decided against it. I still wish we had, because it means a lot to both of us...but hard to do it when most of the materials used cause me supreme hives & ichiness.

[Guest Relentlessoptimist]

What materials are you not allergic to? You could always find something made of that material like a choker or something made of metal that looks like jewelry.