Being little AND adult

[Guest Looby-Lou]

I often see threads here along the lines of "what can I do to make me feel little at school/work" or how to feel "more little".

 

Am I the only one who does the opposite? Anyone else who has no problem with feelng/being little, but deliberately dresses adult to keep a balance on things? And because I enjoy my adult self too!

Going out day to day I might have hair in bunches, stickers on my purse, a Disney bandaid on my finger etc. But it's in balance with adult clothes & a touch of make up. Or I'll wear cute clothes but a grown up hair style.

 

And that truly is me. A blend of little and adult.

 

Also, I'm sure this helps me keep my adult head and behave appropriately in general life. 

 

I never wear a onesie or anything "totally little" out in public. I get the feeling a lot of littles find it comforting to do this (which is great) or that it helps them feel little. 

I don't need a trigger to feel little, but yes wearing a onesie etc. does intensity the feeling that's already there. And I simply don't want that intensity when I'm out in public, or with people who aren't part of the DDlg scene.

 

I wouldn't find it comforting. I'd find it unsettling. 

I'm curious if there's other littles who deliberately include adult clothes etc. into their life. For what reasons? And do you enjoy it or just feel you need to?

 

Looby   

[playroompunk]

This post really speaks to me!  You hit the nail on the head mentioning balance, I think.  It's important not to use "little" anything as a way of escaping adult responsibilities and expectations, so I would say it would even be unhealthy to never dress like an adult!  I like to let my inner little out when I can - but Big Me has to take the wheel a lot of the time, and I'm comfortable looking and acting my age, thank you very much. (Even though I'm about to be on the wrong side of my 20s, oh no!)  

 

I like childish, kawaii fashion and accessories and "teenage-y" clothes as much as anyone, and that's occupied a big section of my closet for a long time.  I know some folks in my local J-fashion community who aren't even littles, and are well into their 40s and still wear all sorts of cutesy stuff because they like it.  You can pry my Lolita dresses and cat sweaters out of my cold dead hands.  I dare ya.

 

But the fact of the matter is, I'm a graduate student with an Adult Job as a teaching assistant and course instructor, and wearing those things when I need a bunch of 19 year olds to take me seriously isn't a good plan.  Sometimes that kind of clothing just isn't appropriate for the occasion, simple as that. 

 

Also, sometimes I just enjoy feeling elegant and dressed to kill in something sharp, with winged eyeliner you could cut yourself on.  Big me is honestly preppy as heck and I pride myself on being able to clean up quite nicely after I'm done wrangling my plants at the lab I work in. 

 

I've absolutely never worn a onesie out in public, even under clothes or something like that, because let's face it - there are enough disparaging internet memes about DDlg / littles / ABDL that even some vanilla people know what those onesies are for.  That goes far too close to "exposing non-consenting parties to kink" territory for my liking, so simply put, I ain't doing it.  Same with anything that overtly looks like a collar (I have some lovely, discreet chokers for when I venture out) or heaven forbid, a paci clip (which, believe it or not, I've seen people wearing in the middle of the downtown.  Complete with paci.  Sigh.).   

 

We're littles.  Adults, who are littles.  Not actual kids.  So we need to nurture and be comfortable with both sides of ourselves.

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

I think both of the above make excellent points! We can't dress like 5 yr olds and expect anyone to take us seriously. At the end of the day we are all biological adults and we have adult responsibilities like work or school and its not betraying your little self to accept that. Some of us are lucky enough that we can be slightly more expressive of our littleness (still within reason and never exposing non consenting parties to kink) but some of us work in business or corporate environments.. environments where care bear t shirts and tutus are just not acceptable. We all need to find a balance.. The other option is to be Little all the time and have no job or adult responsibilities which for most isn't an option. 

[Guest DemureBelle]

Definitely agree with the post above. It's all about balance. Due to the nature of my job, I can't afford to be little at work because I have to have the children's safety and their education as my top priority. Once I am at work I'm in adult mode and honestly speaking I'm glad that I am. However, being at university gives me that ability to wonder off into little space even if it is for a while, I've taken my plushie with me to a class. Something I couldn't do if I was working. I do enjoy wearing my adult clothes when I'm working or even if I'm out with friends and family and I don't think I could never not wear them. I see it akin to that of a relationship. Sometimes you have to step away from the little space and see things as an adult. 

Edited December 13, 2019 by DemureBelle

[Quirkygrl16]

I'm pretty much the same. A balance of both adult and little all the time.

[LittleTeacup]

Oh definitely. Actually, as I've embraced my littleness, it's become easier to be an adult too, since I'm repressing myself less. I certainly don't need help being more of a little

 

And if I need to take care of important adult phone calls while cuddling a stuffie/pillow, that's the way it is for now.

 

At least when interacting with children, I usually have no problem being adult/big sister to them.

[britbear]

This!!! So much this. I'm just coming out as a little, and I'm so so excited to get my pacifiers, really super cute diapers, and onesies in the mail. My husband is too, though he is very new at this. We didn't know this was me until I really confessed what I fantasize about. It was a lot for both of us, but since i love pop culture for little girls (ya know, Disney channel, glittery fun, coloring, bubbles, animals, cute things, all of it), it totally makes sense. I work with children, so often my youthful spirit fits in so well, but I never had considered that being taken care of, loved on and snuggled, and getting to dress/act like my little me in intimate times at home was what would make me so happy. We both knew, but didn't, ya know? 

 

I have to advocate a lot for others, myself, and be very professional during the day. A lot of my work is cutesy songs and creativity, but it is also clinical. I think the switching gears in addition to just discovering this (of course, during a pandemic!) is overwhelming and feels like a lot. Tbh, I want to indulge in my little self, but I definitely don't want to compromise the adult me or overdo anything. I just have so many feels! 

 

(If anyone wants to be pen pals/buddies during this, I'd love another little to talk to. My friends know me, but I don't wanna overshare, and anonymity can certainly help!)