Will I ever find a daddy

[Middle1991]

Just doubting taht I will ever find a daddy. Is there anyone here that is over the age of 28 years old that hasn't never had a caregiver/daddy?

 

Like I want to find someone to experience all of my dreams with. It's just feels like it will all remain fantasy.

 

Ofcourse I want to be inlove and really care for my daddy. I think that is the part I don't believe the most. I don't think anyone could love me.

 

Oh wow!

 

Anyone else feel or think the same. We can be friends. If you live in Cape Town, South Africa, we should hang out. I actually need some real life friends too.

[DragonAllFather]

I think everything happens, sooner or later. Each life is different, but never is too late to start any activity or a relationship, never is too late for love if you really want it. Yeah, most littles seem to find a caregiver at a younger age, or even more in that period of time and that's discouraging, but you should focus on the things that you like to in life and your daddy will arrive someday. Don't lose hope 

[Little kaiya]

I didn't find my Daddy until I was 39. We've now been together two years, our anniversary was this past Monday, and i can honestly say He was totally worth waiting to find. I love him deeply, He, my Wife and I are talking about Him moving in with us and he is an incredibly natural Daddy. I'm actually writing this snuggled in his arms right now

 

To me finding the right person is far more important than just finding someone. There are so many bad stories out there and a lot of then seem to be because people tried to be with someone they KNEW was incompatible.

 

Little kaiya

[DollDirector]

Hello

If pulling a few words from your sentence, it goes " I want to be in love , that is the part I don't believe, I don't think anyone could love me ". Someone could, but might feel YOU are the one not really open. If possible, perhaps you should not worry about who, anyway it won't be what you expect; But more about, for example doing some activity that helps with YOUR self-confidence and indeed meeting people, but set little goals, not big ones that you won't do anything about.

My two cents !..

[Guest LittleBunBun84]

I didn't meet my daddy until I was 34 and I hadn't been with anyone before that. I wasn't actively looking for a partner, I was just looking to connect with people. You said in your post that no one could love you. That's just not true! But it does indicate that you have low self esteem and perhaps that's something you need to look at. You have to learn to love yourself before you can invite others to love you.

[Middle1991]

Whenever I'm being honest people always tell me taht I need to love myself first. I have met many people that have low self-esteem and they find people who love them completely. People that have conditions I have. People that are not even trying and they have someone that will do everything possible to make them just want to wake up in the morning.

 

I don't think I could ever become fully confident in who I am. I have depression and BPD so that makes it hard too. I work on myself everyday.I take meds, go to therapy and do everything in my capability just to get through each day. I love a lot of things in life and I am passionate about things too.

 

I work doing what I love and I'm an graduate student at university. I give my all to make others better and reach their goals.

 

I know I'll make someone happy because I try to make people as happy as possible.So to say that I need to be completely happy and content all the time might not just be emotionally, physically and mentally impossible but also medically.

[D&Daddy]

I don't think it's possible to be happy and content all the time, we have times when we feel down, or we missed out or something like that. Someone special to you will help with that potentially but only so long as that partner isn't the entire reason for you getting up in the morning. If you keep working on yourself, and you keep looking you'll find the right person for you. You just gotta never give up and not settle for someone who you're not happy with

[Guest LittleBunBun84]

It seems like I may have offended you? That wasn't my intention and I apologise if I upset you.

 

I didn't say that you need to be completely happy and content all the time. That's impossible for anyone. I simply noticed your statement "no one could love me" and disagreed - someone can and will. But your statement does imply low self esteem. That wasn't a personal criticism just an observation of your post.

[Middle1991]

I never argued that I did have great self-esteem.

[DollDirector]

Well, a forum is just ... a forum. 

Seems the bright side to your dark side is, that you see things as they are. Introvert or "malfunctioning" people, also have powers to be proud of.

Keep going.