Why?

[Broken_Daddy_Dom]

I looked far and wide and everything i see about is just littles and how their doms left them. My case is that my baby, my lil light. She given up on me even after everything i gave up. She doesn't listen nor care anymore, and wants to roleplay with other men even when i told her how uncomfortable i was about it. She did it anyways and then told me that i was horrible and didn't understand, how i was controlling because i didn't feel comfortable with her roleplaying with others, she did it without permission and just went behind my back and done it a few times now. And I'm just love her so much but I'm just broken now.. I could just really use someone to talk to.

[DragonAllFather]

I'm sorry, man. Break-ups happen in any directions, and both can equally hurt. You suffered with all that, so it's clear that she wasn't the one for you, despite the time you may have passed together. Hopefully you will find a better person for you, so let time pass and focus on the things you enjoy doing and your friends. I know it's easier said than done, and I don't know your whole story, but I bet you can overcome it!

[Guest QueenJellybean]

moderator note:

 

moved to Caregiver Cafe -- not an introduction.

[MrDaddydarnit]

There are many ways littles can break Daddy Doms, trust me I'm also a broken Daddy, it takes a while to heal. But you will. You probably just need a break focus on yourself and your hobbies. Self improvement  is a great way to heal as what I guess we can call BDDs (Broken Daddy Doms) 

[SmolAetherr]

just move on dude, by her words and actions it is clear she doesent care about you or your feelings, get out while you still have some sanity left and go on a holiday or something

Edited November 27, 2019 by Aetherr

[princess mae]

I absolutely agree with everyone else above here, but I must add something, being a little who was in that sort of situation before. I was part of a Dom/sub long distance (online) relationship, and my Dom refused to work with me on several issues or explore with my curiosity. He wouldn't budge, and it made me angry. So I went looking for a way to satiate my curiosity outside of my relationship. At the time, it felt like the right thing to do because there was no other option. Was it the right thing to do? No. The right communication from both of us could have saved us both a lot of pain. I guess I'm trying to suggest that (if you are still with her) instead of telling her you're uncomfortable with her roleplaying with other men, you might ask her why she feels the need to explore, and what she's not getting from you. You might not get anywhere with her, and you might not like what she has to say. But maybe you both can renegotiate your limits. If it's too late for all this, I hope you can find the courage to heal, because there are a lot of good littles out there.

[Alaskan Daddy]

I can tell by your words that you put your heart and soul into the relationship and you love your little very much. To me it seems your little wants to

play the field and does not care how much that may hurt you. It appears she is ready to move on. If I was in your shoes I would do the same. I would tell feel there is nothing you can do or say for her to change her mind. I would tell her that you are letting her go wish her the best. I know this hurt inside you  may last a long time. When ever I was hurt as bad as you were I would allow that hurt to strengthen me knowing that this person showed me how to love 

more deeply. Keep that ability you have to love deeply with you and give it someone that is more compatible to you. I hope this helps for your heart

to heal a little bit. Good luck

[Honeydadddy]

I absolutely agree with everyone else above here, but I must add something, being a little who was in that sort of situation before. I was part of a Dom/sub long distance (online) relationship, and my Dom refused to work with me on several issues or explore with my curiosity. He wouldn't budge, and it made me angry. So I went looking for a way to satiate my curiosity outside of my relationship. At the time, it felt like the right thing to do because there was no other option. Was it the right thing to do? No. The right communication from both of us could have saved us both a lot of pain. I guess I'm trying to suggest that (if you are still with her) instead of telling her you're uncomfortable with her roleplaying with other men, you might ask her why she feels the need to explore, and what she's not getting from you. You might not get anywhere with her, and you might not like what she has to say. But maybe you both can renegotiate your limits. If it's too late for all this, I hope you can find the courage to heal, because there are a lot of good littles out there.

I think princessmaebunny be dropping some wisdom to CGs here... The role of a CG is to nurture the relationship in healthy ways that at times might feel hard. It isn't really the role of a CG to put limits on a little that in their heart they want to explore, this can feel especially hard when we can't meet all of the little's needs.  Being a loving, supportive CG really means that we support our littles without condition and help them grow and develop in the ways that they want to.  It isn't our place to give permission for littles to seek what their heart's desire, just to support it. BUT this doesn't mean that CGs shouldn't have boundaries -- we need to have boundaries that ensure we take care of ourselves. Sometimes what a little wants crosses our boundaries and while we may continue to love them, we cannot stay in the relationship. These are always really difficult things to be confronted with, but you will get through it.

 

I agree with princessmaebunny that trying to find a space for an honest conversation seems really important.  Beforehand, I'd ask yourself what your limits are: what are you willing to accept and what would be deal breakers for you? When you talk with your little, you might try being radically open to hearing what she really wants in her heart instead of trying to force her to want what you want her to want. There is a reason she is not openly communicating with you and I'd suggest exploring that so you can try to be really open to what she might have to say.

 

However this works out, know that you have a right to have boundaries and be in a relationship that meets your needs and feels good to you. Wishing you all the best...

[Guest ShadoWolf]

Coming from a relationship that went south I feel for you and the pain that burns right now. But the truth of the matter is bunny makes a very good point. This is painful right now but you need to talk to  your little and find out why shes doing this before you make what could be a even more painful decision. You both need to sit down as equals and hash out what she wants that is being missed here. It could be something simple you missed or be much more complex you won't know until you give her a chance to bring it out into the open. Don't rush to end the relationship with out learning the whole truth if you like it or not.

[SmolAetherr]

Coming from a relationship that went south I feel for you and the pain that burns right now. But the truth of the matter is bunny makes a very good point. This is painful right now but you need to talk to  your little and find out why shes doing this before you make what could be a even more painful decision. You both need to sit down as equals and hash out what she wants that is being missed here. It could be something simple you missed or be much more complex you won't know until you give her a chance to bring it out into the open. Don't rush to end the relationship with out learning the whole truth if you like it or not.

yes that may help but not everyone is interested in listening to a person after a betrayal like that, nothing op did or didnt do warrants that.

i feel as if you are trying to say  what i feel is a natural response is "rushing"

why do you feel something like that is a rushed or rash decision, from my perspective if my partner did anything behind my back be it rp, infidelity, emotional infidelity, sex, physical with another beyond a point

i wouldnt give a toss what they had to say since absolutely nothing justifies that sort of act.

 

any sort of reconciliation would be on the betrayer not the betrayed to instigate

im not trying to pick a fight, just curious.

Edited December 20, 2019 by Aetherr