Nvm

[Daddys little Baby_Bear]

I talked to my daddy about all of this and got it figured out. Some of my worry I was justified and we handled and some I realized, after saying aloud, that I was over reacting due to some things un-involving my daddy causing me anxiety. Thank you all for your advice Edited December 1, 2019 by Daddys little Baby_Bear

[Guest Daddy B]

Good evening. I read your post and understand that it can be hard when adjusting to a new schedule being in a LDR and see that you are understanding. Being unable to ask permission to do things and follow all the rules is something that could be discussed letting them know that the schedule difference is making it a unfair setting.  Most rules should be discussed and open to being addressed when it becomes detrimental to either party.  Being short in responses could be another matter I understand as a that in my role as a Daddy even if I can't speak right that minute I have replied with a longer message and made time to converse. The eating issue I can't see why he should get mad understanding that with your health issues it would be a major issues in my book by forcing you to do harm by eating that way to you.  I wish you the best in this and hope this helps you some

[Alaskan Daddy]

I understand how you are feeling. If you really want to continue the relationship then I feel you need to have a

conversation and tell him your feelings. You should ask him to accept your feelings as your feelings without judgement.

At the same time you will need to accept his feelings as his feelings without judgement.

I was in an LDR with a little and we had permission rules. The rules stipulated that she needed to ask permission for

certain things. If I did not respond in 10 minutes she was allowed to proceed, but she needed to let me know what she

ended up doing.

After all this if you feel your desires are not being met then I think if you read your posting you will know what

you need to do

I hope this helps and good luck

[redheadprincess98]

Talk to him. Communicate. Find a good time to do it (ex: when he is relaxed at home), you could show him this post or write something down and read it to him. Try doing it over the phone since texting can lead to misunderstandings. See what his reaction is, how he feels, what he wants. Talk and then let him talk and listen carefully. After you’ve communicated, go from there and decide, see if anything changes or what happens. Best of luck

[Guest Relentlessoptimist]

I love my daddy very dearly but I've been wondering the last few days if I should end things with him.

 

You've noticed there is a problem, and it's likely not the first time. 

 

We are long distance and he gets short with me when I message him to ask how he is doing or how he's feeling.

 

That's not okay. It depends on what your relationship dynamic is like, but i think all people here and in general want to feel loved. This isn't loving behavior. It would be good to clarify why he acts this way. It might be because he is in a meeting or busy. I'm re-learning attachment theory again for my own relationship, and maybe he doesn't like the messages? It's something to find out. You shouldn't be made to feel bad in a good relationship like that. 

 

 

He also has started working weekends and can't really talk to me at work (which I understand and am fine with) the part that makes it hard is that he still expects me to follow all the rules, most of which involve me asking permission for most anything, without being allowed to ask him for permission.

 

This isn't good. If you can't ask, and you need to ask (i.e., need to use the bathroom etc, then that's an unfair catch 22. He should be okay with renegotiating this or he's not being a good daddy.

 

He's also started answering me with quick one word texts and I usually have to start most of our conversations and keep them going.
He also got on my case because I feel bad about eating fish but I still eat other meats (he's no longer a vegan and due to health issues it's hard for me to every try to be one and he knows this)
For the most part he is very sweet, loving, and supportive but I just feel kinda lost. What do you think I should do, any advice?

 

My wife doesn't write me back much. Her dynamic seems to be, atleast partially that she's an avoidant, while i was anxious for a long time. Avoidant's get irritated by too much love and contact over time. 

Also, it's not okay for him to make you feel bad about food. Health comes first. So far it doesn't seem like a loving relationship. I'm sure there are many good times, but health and emotional needs are important. He's got to change, or you should find a better daddy. Just my opinion. 

 

A good daddy should take care of his little. Make sure her health comes first. That she's loved. And that her needs are met while respecting the fact that he too has needs (work related communication restrictions or whatever else.)

It should feel fun. You shouldn't feel bad. And life is too short to be unhappy all the time even if there are a few nuggets of joy. Best wishes and bless you.