Punishment for hurting CG while sleeping?

[Fragile Princess]

We took a nap with Knight and while having a bad dream, I started scratching him badly while still sleeping (in a dream someone tried to kidnap him and I started scratching in panic) and he woke me up pretty mad. I didn't make him any bruises, and I didn't get any punishment but he was upset with that and said if it will happen more, I will have naps in separate room for my own good.

I feel like I did something wrong and I should be punished more than just that and only if it happens again..

Would you punish your little for that? What punishment would that be?

[zanderandspike]

as a Dom I wouldn't punish someone for having a nightmare, cause the root problem here is the nightmare, you didn't do it on purpose and it's really not your fault,

 

as a sub I 100% get wanting to be punished because you feel you did something wrong,

 

however I don't think in this situation you did anything wrong, so I don't think you deserve to be punished, but if it's really important to you that you get punished you could try therapy spankings, or weekly spankings something like that to help you feel better

 

good luck with this, hope everything goes well

 

~ Momma Drea/zander

[baby_k]

Being punished over having nightmare? Sounds bit..... absurd to be honest.

 

You hurting him in your sleep is adult-to-adult issue that needs to be solved somehow if that continues. Punishing you hardly will make things better as you were not consious while doing that and were not making the decision of hurting him. ( Even sure, maybe you feel less guilty ovet that stuff if you are punished but again: that doesn't solve the real and original issue. )

 

I would put my efforts in figuring out how to avoid those issues instead, and what causes you having nightmares ( this is not easy topic but some have clear triggers that make nightmares way more likely ).

 

Also, I would be afraid that if you are being punished over thing you cannot control and which anyhow is negative thing for you ( nightmares suck big time ), that it will make you fear the nightmares and sleeping ( with him ) in the end. That can cause really massive unneeded extra issues for you and your rel.

 

 

Edit: added last part

Edited November 17, 2019 by baby_k

[Guest ~GlitterUnicorn~]

You couldn't control it, no way should you be punished for something out of your control buttttttttt if it does continue it may be something to work on (no punishments just something to work through) 

Sometimes when I do something wrong, even if it wasn't on purpose/out of my control i feel really guilty and want to be punished so i understand.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

consider this:

 

working through your nightmare & coming with a strategy on how to better deal with those moments next time with your CG instead of being punished for it.

[MrPaulDavies]

I would not punish for that. If however you have strong discipline needs I would consider regular maintenance spankings.

[Guest Sunshinekitty]

Sleep terrors...punishing might feel right to you, but that's more something that you should go see a doctor over.

 

I run in my sleep...and kick...and punch. It's something a neurologist can help with, a sleep doctor...maybe a therapist. But asking your CG to punish you? Punishments are meant to fix a behavior. Sleep disturbances aren't behaviors, they are your brain overreacting. If you want to "do" something about it...maybe an apology coloring, make CG a treat.

 

You weren't naughty. Your brain is overreacting to something.

[babybuns]

I'm not a dom, but I feel like you shouldn't receive punishment over something that you couldn't control and was an accident. You didn't intentionally do it, or even did it when you were conscious so it wasn't misbehavior, therefore shouldn't be punished. If it happens again and often, you still shouldn't be disciplined for it. Instead you should talk to your caregiver about it and get comfort from them about it, and possibly even some help if it starts to become a troubling reoccurence.

[LittleSpaceCadet]

I agree with the others that it's not a punishable offense. As a Little, I get the guilt though, especially if you felt like you made him mad. So I suggest explaining your feelings of guilt even though you know you couldn't control it and ask him to help you learn to deal with unwarranted guilt.

 

I also personally really dislike that the solution is to isolate you. Maybe suggest mittens and that he wake you up if it happens again? Then if it continues, definitely speak to your Dr about it. It may be preventable. Good luck.