Non-regression little hoping for some insight.

[princess-madi]

I need someone to help me make sense of something:

 

A couple years ago, I explored DD/lg with an ex boyfriend / Daddy Dom. I used to age regress — or so I thought I did. I remember loving it for literally two seconds and then being like, this is super weird, I’m not actually feeling it. I concluded at that point that I was forcing myself to regress even though I should’ve listened to my discomfort.

 

Since I stopped exploring the lifestyle and have decided that I’m a sub through and through, I have still had moments of little space. And not the cute, I want to be in pig tails and knee high socks little space. But the sudden “I’m little doing big things, I’m lost” kind of headspace that I experienced at some points during my past relationships. I get this way when going to interviews or walking into my senior-level classes in college. Anything that requires being independent, it shoots me into this headspace of where I feel like I need to grab somebody’s hand and hide my face in their shoulder.

 

For a lil background: I may be a sub, but I have little tendencies. I love colors, stickers and children’s games. I sleep with three stuffed animals every night. Even though they’re not ~little girl~ accessories, I feel the innocence of being a little and being a princess when I wear my pearl headbands and barrettes. My username on all kinky sites even has the word princess in it. And I *love* feeling this way, especially around Doms.

 

I just am hoping if anybody experiences this, too. And maybe has figured out what it is and has been able to incorporate it into being a regular sub.

[Guest sanwiooaf]

it sounds to me like you're more of an age player than a little/age regressor. You like doing Little things but you don't have the headspace that age regressors and Littles have, especially since you personally find the headspace weird :3

 

age play isn't anything to be weirded at and they're still apart of the DDLG community, the only thing that defines them different to Littles is the headspace and that's pretty much it. From what I've read, yes, you definitely have Little tendencies but you're not 100% Little because of the lack of headspace. It sounds like you have a very soft headspace like I do where you want to feel protected from the world and that headspace can be both a blessing and a curse xD

[LittleGirlEmilia]

I don't think you're an age player. I think it's just a part of your personality, which still makes you a little.

[SharkPrince]

There's no cookie cutter mold that does or doesn't make a little, it's all down to the individual. I personally don't particularly regress, nor do I display very typically little traits.

I find that for me, my little side goes hand in hand with my submissive side as it all stems from needing to place control in someone else's hands as I very easily get overwhelmed making decisions or doing important things

[VentralStriatum]

While I understand this is DDLGforum, I don't know if filtering everything through the lens of DDLG/littlespace/ageplaying is necessarily helpful. In this case, there's a very common nervousness that goes hand in hand with feeling responsible, adult, or any other place where you feel like you have to show the best version of yourself, like in an interview. Many people experience this when they first go to college/university, for example, or when they try to get their first job.

 

I remember in the last year of high school, sharing a train with first year students, and not being able to imagine at all that I'd be one of them in a few months. Neither could any of my classmates, it felt like such a huge gap between us. So when you first walk in a lecture hall, it's pretty overwhelming. But it's a bit of a stretch to say that the whole lecture hall age regressed/ageplayed for about 15 minutes as they got used to their new environment.

 

To me, it reads like you're a natural submissive with childlike personality traits. You're also getting used to being an adult now, which is common for people when they first enter the big pool. It'll fade over time as you gain confidence and comfort. I don't quite understand what you're aiming for with "incorporating it in being a regular sub". I've never met a "regular sub", or a "regular little" for that matter, because everyone has their own unique quirks. Rather than picking a label and living up to it, figure out what your own traits are and just embrace that. "A sub with little tendencies" sounds pretty good, right? You're you, and there's no harm in embracing that wholeheartedly

Edited November 13, 2019 by VentralStriatum

[princess-madi]

While I understand this is DDLGforum, I don't know if filtering everything through the lens of DDLG/littlespace/ageplaying is necessarily helpful. In this case, there's a very common nervousness that goes hand in hand with feeling responsible, adult, or any other place where you feel like you have to show the best version of yourself, like in an interview. Many people experience this when they first go to college/university, for example, or when they try to get their first job.

 

I remember in the last year of high school, sharing a train with first year students, and not being able to imagine at all that I'd be one of them in a few months. Neither could any of my classmates, it felt like such a huge gap between us. So when you first walk in a lecture hall, it's pretty overwhelming. But it's a bit of a stretch to say that the whole lecture hall age regressed/ageplayed for about 15 minutes as they got used to their new environment.

 

To me, it reads like you're a natural submissive with childlike personality traits. You're also getting used to being an adult now, which is common for people when they first enter the big pool. It'll fade over time as you gain confidence and comfort. I don't quite understand what you're aiming for with "incorporating it in being a regular sub". I've never met a "regular sub", or a "regular little" for that matter, because everyone has their own unique quirks. Rather than picking a label and living up to it, figure out what your own traits are and just embrace that. "A sub with little tendencies" sounds pretty good, right? You're you, and there's no harm in embracing that wholeheartedly

 

I guess I should have been more specific because looking at profiles isn't a common thing. I am an adult. I'm not a 21-year-old graduating from college. I'm 25. So thanks, but I've been an adult for quite some time now lol

[VentralStriatum]

I guess I should have been more specific because looking at profiles isn't a common thing. I am an adult. I'm not a 21-year-old graduating from college. I'm 25. So thanks, but I've been an adult for quite some time now lol

 

I actually looked at it, and it says 23, interestingly. Regardless of whether you're 21, 23 or 25, the main point I was trying to make is that it's common to feel that way as you're transitioning from teenage years to full adulthood. Everyone develops at their own pace, and the fact you've been an adult for quite some time doesn't guarantee that those same feelings suddenly disappeared. They do for some people, they don't for others. Personality is a big factor in that. You specifically mentioned getting that feeling when going for jobs or senior-level classes, so I used examples within the same context to illustrate my point. My point simply being that "feeling like you want to hide when you're expected to be an independent adult" is a common theme that I hear a lot of people around me express all the time, even when they're older than 25.

[princess-madi]

I actually looked at it, and it says 23, interestingly. Regardless of whether you're 21, 23 or 25, the main point I was trying to make is that it's common to feel that way as you're transitioning from teenage years to full adulthood. Everyone develops at their own pace, and the fact you've been an adult for quite some time doesn't guarantee that those same feelings suddenly disappeared. They do for some people, they don't for others. Personality is a big factor in that. You specifically mentioned getting that feeling when going for jobs or senior-level classes, so I used examples within the same context to illustrate my point. My point simply being that "feeling like you want to hide when you're expected to be an independent adult" is a common theme that I hear a lot of people around me express all the time, even when they're older than 25.

 

23 was definitely an old personal ad haha. I'm 25 in two months.

[LucyDolly]

I guess I should have been more specific because looking at profiles isn't a common thing. I am an adult. I'm not a 21-year-old graduating from college. I'm 25. So thanks, but I've been an adult for quite some time now lol

 

 

So what? I'm 31 years old and i feel emotionally all the times like a girl aged about 10-13 without being able to turn my traits, desires and needs on and off at will as most subs and littles do it these days. It sounds as you are very similar to me, you are not changing your personality traits and desires by switching between different head spaces so you are not an age regressor and you are not roleplaying it so you are not an age player either, you are just an adult with child like traits and a childlike nature which leads to childlike needs and desires, which makes you absolutely a Little in the same way as me, strictly speaking examples like you and me are even more "adults with the soul of a child" then many others because we are not able to turn our inner child on and off like a device and we are not roleplaying anything just to please a dominant person, we are just ourself and i can totally understand that you are struggling within a world of adults which seems harsh, frightening and merciless but you should start to accept that it is not you who is in any way wrong, you are awesome just the way you are, its the society which is wrong and always wants to force individuals to suit some strange ideals which are often cruel, inhuman and ridiculous. Because there is no special term so far for Littles which are like you and me i invented the term everlasting child for us and i can tell you that it is more a blessing then a curse.

 

Most of my friends always envy my innocence, simplicity and childlike wonder for example.

 

If you need more advices and tips how to handle your nature you can PM me if you like, I'm an expert after so many years *giggles*

Edited November 14, 2019 by Hinako

[princess-madi]

So what? I'm 31 years old and i feel emotionally all the times like a girl aged about 10-13 without being able to turn my traits, desires and needs on and off at will as most subs and littles do it these days. It sounds as you are very similar to me, you are not changing your personality traits and desires by switching between different head spaces so you are not an age regressor and you are not roleplaying it so you are not an age player either, you are just an adult with child like traits and a childlike nature which leads to childlike needs and desires, which makes you absolutely a Little in the same way as me, strictly speaking examples like you and me are even more "adults with the soul of a child" then many others because we are not able to turn our inner child on and off like a device and we are not roleplaying anything just to please a dominant person, we are just ourself and i can totally understand that you are struggling within a world of adults which seems harsh, frightening and merciless but you should start to accept that it is not you who is in any way wrong, you are awesome just the way you are, its the society which is wrong and always wants to force individuals to suit some strange ideals which are often cruel, inhuman and ridiculous. Because there is no special term so far for Littles which are like you and me i invented the term everlasting child for us and i can tell you that it is more a blessing then a curse.

 

Most of my friends always envy my innocence, simplicity and childlike wonder for example.

 

If you need more advices and tips how to handle your nature you can PM me if you like, I'm an expert after so many years *giggles*

 

 

I wasn't saying my age to demean anybody who age regresses. I was correcting the other person because he made a comment that I'm now just starting to figure out adulthood, which I'm not. Thanks for the advice and offer, otherwise

[LittleGirlEmilia]

I wanted to explain further why you weren't an age player but didn't have time. I made this. I hope it helps.

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/44709-abdl-cglre-ap-ddlg-explained/?do=findComment&comment=226480