DDLG siblings appreciation post

[SharkPrince]

Recently I've realised that the kind of dynamic between two people that consider each other siblings, with both of them usually being little, isn't really spoken about. So I'm a do that!

I'll start by going over some usual myths or misconceptions, and then talk about why the dynamic is great and then I'll take some time to talk about why I appreciate my lil bean but of a sister in particular.

I am in no way an expert, and can only talk from my personal experiences and so I can be wrong. Feel free to correct me

 

-some common misconceptions-

Feel free to add anything I've forgotten or not thought of.

 

You can't have a ddlg sibling and a big unless you're poly. Also that the dynamic is a romantic relationship.

While this dynamic very confortably sits in a poly dynamic, it isn't necessarily a romantic relation ship. I myself am in a happily monogamous relationship with my partner, while my lil sis is poly. As long as you're open with your partner this dynamic can very well sit as an enhanced friendship. Remember communication is key

 

An older sibling setting rules steps on the younger siblings partners toes.

Not at all, older siblings don't even need to set rules it's a choice. I find that the rules bean and I have helps to take some of the weight off her Bigs shoulders.

 

You need to have the same daddy/mommy as your siblings

Nope. While this is very often how the dynamic works within poly relationships its not a rule. While beans big is someone I consider a close friend, I can't ever see myself submitting to him in any way

 

-Reasons this dynamic is great-

 

Its relaxed. I don't feel the need to fit a certain role. Siblings create their own dynamic, and it's not dependant on being a big or a little. Some siblings are more strict while others are easy going

 

There's always someone available.

My partner and I both work different hours. So when I'm awake she's asleep and vice versa. Having a sibling means there's someone there when my partner isn't available, and that's a big plus.

 

They understand. As the siblings tend to both be in ddlg based relationships or in a relationship with a similar dynamic, they understand the difficulties. If I'm having trouble with the ddlg dynamic there's someone who has probably gone through the same and will always give advise with my best interests in mind.

 

Now that's other with, let me start talkingv about why I appreciat my lil beam butt.

 

Shes seen me at my worst and still always sees the best in me.

Shell watch cheesy Disney channel movies with me and loves them as I do.

If I show her something I love, she appreciates it and shows me things that she loves just as much.

She let's me know when I drink too much coffee, which is everyday.

I can make fun of her.

 

 

Now what are everyone else's favourite parts of a sibling relation ship?

Edited November 12, 2019 by Guest

[Momma'sBoy]

Yassss!

 

I love the sibling dynamic, even more than the Little/CG dynamic!

 

Siblings share such a special bond! It does goes beyond rules and nurturing, siblings can be best frends!

[SharkPrince]

I definitely agree with you mommaboy. My lil sis is my second best friend after my partner and I love sharing my life with her.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

ok first of all,

i'm gonna cry. 

 

second of all, 

i'm so glad someone brought attention to this topic!

 

i've been a sibling for a really long time, just usually an older sibling. 

i'm a lot more comfortable being in a position of authority than i am being looked after -- even though my particular brands of sibling relationships aren't romantic/sexual, 

i still see it as a platonic D/s relationship.

it's hard for me to submit my well-being into the hands of someone else. 

it takes a lot of trust for me. 

which is why i'm lucky to have the siblings that i do. 

 

as an older sibling, my little nuggets have a much looser relationship than i do with my older brother. 

i don't have rules or check-ins, and we don't always even talk daily.

but they're some of my best friends, and i'm always there to lend a helping hand or a listening ear when they need me. 

 

as a younger sibling, the only person i've ever been comfortable taking care of me is Shark, my Bubba/Yakko. 

i still have trouble understanding why he cares about me as much as he does, but having him in my life is... one of the most important things to me. 

he enforces my rules, remembers to keep me safe, and checks in to let me know where he is.

he remembers literally everything about me, from my favorite foods to my doctor's appointments. 

he and The Giant are really close, and work incredibly well together.

while i'm always his little bean butt, he lets me support him as much as he supports me, and that adds an extra element of vulnerability & safety to our dynamic.

we can go from being dorks watching movies for hours, to a serious topic with lots of cuddling and understanding, to looking at collars for our partners on etsy until 2 am. 

i love him a lot, and i don't know where i'd be without him. 

[Guest Sunshinekitty]

How you describe this sounds absolutely lovely.

[SharkPrince]

Its definitely very fulfilling. I also like how I can team up with beans big to make sure she follows rules

[Guest QueenJellybean]

Its definitely very fulfilling. I also like how I can team up with beans big to make sure she follows rules

 

i dislike this.

[Momma'sBoy]

[SharkPrince]

[PigtailPrincess]

This makes my heart big... I really enjoyed the read. Thank you for showing us another side of this wonderful world. That is all.

[Momma'sBoy]

[CodeName: Trouble]

Hullo! Friendly neighborhood trouble here!    I looove this post first of all, and am so happy to hear about other peoples sibling dynamics!! I'm in one as well, and can really relate to the stuff thats been said. I'm always over the moon happy whenever I see representation for this floating around. Me and my soul sister (MarshmallowPeep) are long time best friends and love to explore the big world and little space together.

 

I'm the 'littler' one of us.... but I still make the rules  or I like to believe I do. Our relationship very much fits into the “partners in crime” role and not a power exchange, despite us having soft rules for each other. We do really well with regulating each other and checking in to see if the other is okay, drinking enough water, getting enough sleep, etc. Our relationship is platonic and We do not share romantic partners, thou it is important for us that our partners get along with the other sibling because we intend to be sissys for like..... infinity. We are stuck with each other, and any partners that join the picture need to be okay with sharing the attention a little. Me and her have been inseparably close for the last 10 years and I don't see that changing anytime soon. In 'little space', She's a middle and I'm a younger little (thou I don't identify with a specific age) so we don't always like the same stuff – but we are ALWAYS eager to share with each other and love to play games and tell silly jokes    for me, having this close of a bond with another little/middle makes feeling comfortable in little space really easy. I don't feel self conscious or shy around her at all and I think that's amazing. It's not a freedom I've felt around anyone else.

 

Out of little space we still consider ourselves sisters and the dynamic continues and is integrated in pretty much every part of our friendship. This works really well for me, because my current partner and I have very different work schedules. Having my soul sister around makes that way easier – and gives me someone to have tea parties with while he's at work! ^-^