Little panic and when is the best time to confront daddy with your insecurities...

[Ennui]

My daddy and I are long distance. He's always been great and very aware of spending time and talking each day... Until recently. I can't pinpoint when it truly started because every few days he is a bit attentive again. But the past three days it has been really bad. He barely spends time talking to me in the morning before just ignoring me for whatever work he has to do for the day. The final nail in the coffin is two of the 3 nights he fell asleep before saying good night in the middle of talking. It seems when I text him, he reads my message and then chooses not to respond for a very long time. Even hours may pass.

I just don't know what's going on and a million things are racing through my mind. What might I have said that was annoying? Do I have a bad habit that might have gotten too much? Has he gotten bored with me? Has he found someone else?

So I know I have to communicate with him. I need to gather my courage to actually do it. Can anyone maybe help me with ideas how I can maybe phrase my insecurities to him tactfully. Also, I was thinking of doing it before bed but I don't know. I'm just wavering on everything at the moment.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

I am going through the exact same thing. Twice now I haven't bothered saying goodnight because I see no point. Feeling really upset and for the first time, I am having doubts.

You need to talk to him. Don't kick and scream, just be as respectful as you can, and explain how you feel. Its not so hard to send an occasional text, I don't care how busy someone is.

[Ennui]

@MyDaddyMyWorld I'm sorry. I know it really sucks. Yeah I don't want to send him many texts because the one word short answers make me feel like he's telling me he's busy and I'm bothering him...

 

@littlest-bunny Thank you! You help reassure me a lot. To me 3 days seems like forever. >.< But I know it's really just pretty short. It was just such an abrupt change from our routine. He would text me at least once or twice throughout the day, I would check in on him and see if he was eating lunch... Then just silence. Or worse yet he'd answer with a one word "yeah" and then lord knows how long later, he would reply again with the same one word. Like he forgot he replied and wasn't even paying attention. :-/

 

But I did get up enough nerve to talk to him. He said it wasn't anything bad. He had just gotten caught up with his new schedule and things getting into a routine. I told him to tell me next time so I wouldn't be flipping out.

 

Normally if he's falling asleep during our conversation he will tell me, but I guess those days since we weren't even texting those nights he just... Fell asleep. D: I still haven't addressed that issue. Guess I gotta.

 

Why can't daddies just read minds? :-/

[Daddyformyprincess]

As a daddy I would want you to be respectful and tell me calmly what your fears or concerns are. As daddy's we have a lot of responsibilities and it can take a lot out of us. He might not see your concern because he is more confident.

 

Don't get upset unless there is something to be upset about.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Daddy and I sorted it out today. I wrote a journal entry. Kind of did the wrong thing and did it while I was feeling emotional. So my advice is, communicate your issues in a calm frame of mind. Never do it when these things are whizzing through your mind. Thats a lesson I learned today haha.

After he got a little bothered by my actual wording, we had a shaky time of it, but he took time to think, as did I, and we talked.

I agree with Daddyformyprincess. In fact as I started reading, it sounded very similar to what my daddy might say hehe.

Talk to him. Maybe he really is more busy than usual. Maybe he is overtired, maybe he doesn't realise how much its bothering you.

He can only try sort this out at a less stressful time, and if he knows what you are worrying about.