Need advice with my Inexperienced Daddy

[Duchess4]

Hello,

 

I have stepped up my little time, now I know what it is actually. I have the clothes, dummy & plushies. My partner never minded any of these things, dummy being the newest but since I have an oral fixation he thought nothing of it.

I talked to him about little space and honestly my full on daddy kink sexually but he was always a little unsure about that side so I shoved it away. He was more than happy for me to be in little space on my own though and offered to make sure I had alone time to do it.

 

He has recently started to call me his Baby girl and become a little more open with ‘Daddy’ and talking in that tone sexually - this is all good things. He wants a little date night, he’s gonna pick a Disney film and I will be in little space hopefully, I’m nervous incase he really doesn’t like it. Also he stubbornly doesn’t want me to tell him what to do or how to act.

He is not a natural Dom in any way, I only managed to convince him to spank me in the last month and he’s still scared of hurting me, I’m also trying to teach him about the importance of after care or give him ideas for it.

 

So basically I need advice on how to control my brattish little around a nervous new to it all daddy, I don’t want to freak him out and want to be patient with his inexperience (I haven’t been in little space with a daddy before but naturally had more Dom partners)

I’m also more experienced than him sexually in the sense of trying new things, and I know that he worries he’s not good enough so I don’t want to knock his confidence cos at least he’s trying!

 

I hope this makes sense and also any ideas to gently help him or lead him into the right frame of mind or what to do would really help too.

 

 

Thank you

[Guest Sunshinekitty]

I'm in a similar place that you are. And my biggest recommendation is if you want 'Daddy' to do Daddy things--if it's his idea, accept it, allow yourself to get excited about it, and yes, be cautious, but also communicate how much you enjoy his thoughtfulness, how much he cares about what you think, feel, and want--and then RECIPROCATE. Ask him about what he likes or what he might want to try.

 

Communicate, communicate, communicate.

 

And whatever you do--don't nag or complain in that moment. If you don't like something, wait until a day or so after to completely process and explain your concerns calmly--because perceived criticism will slow down any progress you make. I tend to be very demanding, so I make this suggestion as someone who has learned from twenty years of experience. I find that it serves me to remind myself that I can hurt his feelings just as much if not more if he's trying to accommodate me.

 

If this is new to both of you--there is no one right way to do this. I highly suggest you keep an open mind as you navigate this together with your partner.

[Duchess4]

That makes a lot of sense thank you and I will try and keep my brat under control.

[SmolAetherr]

take it slow, be sure to praise him for what he does right, this is extremely important since people tend to fixate on their own failures

 

after the date in question make time to sit down and chat with him about how he feels and what you both think worked or didnt work and what you would like to try next time

 

make sure you listen to him intently, show him patience love and care like you want him to show for you

 

and more important than any of this, dont pressure him or he definatly will feel like he is not good enough and he will more than likely start to resent you

 

if he doesent like your little space and the role you want him to fill, accept it and then decide your next steps in regards to if you are willing to put your little side on hold for him and find that time alone or you would rather go back to searching for a partner better suited.

Edited November 9, 2019 by Aetherr

[Duchess4]

Fantastic advice Thankyou very much.

 

Even if things don’t go well I will just go back to alone time.