Just needed to share this

[Guest PinkBaby_Princess]

I've met a few Daddy Dom's in the past and went to chatting with them. I usually like chatting with them for awhile, before deciding which one is perfect for me. When I started chatting with this one, he kept talking sexual to me and didn't even ask anything personal about me. When I came down to asking him, "Don't you want to know who I am, as a person?" They sort of gave me a short answer and seemed hesitant. Than they stated, "Of course, yet, I don't think it's really important." This seemed very off to me and I stopped speaking to him immediately. If I want to have a Daddy, I would want them to know some things about me and not talk sexual to me almost instantly. Did anyone else go through this or can relate to my situation? 

[kaykitten]

Absolutely in the same boat as you! Every single "daddy" I talk to is all about the sexual aspects. Does't care who I am as a person, what my flaws are, any interests, or even what my mind is like. I need someone who is going to be there for all of it. I am delicate and also require a lot of attention. The more you search, it's like you find so many fake daddy/doms. It's sad for us little kittens that want and need more. 

[carmine]

Online it seems people can be more uninhibited...but yeah, I guess some seem to look for something more casual (is there such a thing though, given how much trust this dynamic requires?) and so I tell myself that since I am looking for something more sincere and serious...they are not a good match for me currently

[Guest QueenJellybean]

if someone doesn't respect you enough to get to know you, they aren't worth the time anyway.

you aren't a fantasy, you're a person.

full stop. 

[SmolAetherr]

i had a little once, actually my first little who fixated soo much on the fantasy of a ddlg relationship she forgot there was a relationship

 

that and a few other issues left me feeling very used, as a daddy there are littles out there who just want a daddy, not the person

 

and its an awful feeling let me tell you for what

[Guest PinkBaby_Princess]

Thanks for responding to this thread. It makes me feel relieved. I've stopped talking to so many Daddy Dom's because of this. All they cared about was "sex" and only "sex"

 

I'm not saying all Daddy Dom's are like this. Not at all. I'm sure there's Daddy Dom's out there who truly want to get to know you, full as a person.

 

I want someone to take their time getting to know me. Ask me questions about myself, before mentioning anything sexual to me.

 

I will be patient until I find the right person. I'm not in a hurry. Thank you everyone for responding to this, it makes me feel less alone. 

[Guest ~GlitterUnicorn~]

Yeah some people just focus on sexual things 100%, also people who try to rush into sexual things

It can be kinda irritating if I make it clear I'm uncomfortable and they push the line.

I guess that's what unfriend buttons are for if they don't understand what no is nods

[Garrick]

Sadly you are right. There area lot lf ppl there that only focus on the sexual aspect, mainly men but I've known a few women too. But let me tell you that to me is something good that they go straight to it, because is the way you know that if yoh are looking for something else, that person is not for you.

[Guest NorCalDD]

Establish your own self worth. Hold yourself up on a pedestal and do not allow others to treat you in a way you are not comfortable with. If the Dom (or sub, BF, GF, anyone...) does not respect you and is not interested in you as a human being, they are not a quality person. You don't want people like that in your life.