Daddy Before You Know About DDlg

[DaddyWise]

I still very new to ddlg but I have a question. As I have been learning bout cg/l and bdsm i have come to realize i had been playing the ddlg dynamic for yrs in most of my relationships and i’m not just talking bout romanantic ones but pultanoic ones too.

 

For example my best friend when we met, her lil sister was 14. She has been hurt and abuse alot in her life but she is still very happy, goffy, and fun loving, being around her just made me feel alive. Somehow or another I started calling her Baby or Lil Baby depending on how adorable she was beening. (Again before someone gets any ideas it was nothing sexual or anything to do with my kink involved, she was like my lil sister.)

 

For the next few yrs this was us Lil Baby and Her Big Brother. If she need anything or just wanted to talk everything stopped for the Baby, even the women i dated during this time new she was my heart and my Baby.

 

I assume as she got older she may have come accross one of the cgl youtubers because all of a sudden she asked me to stop calling her Baby and treating her like I had. Which just killed my heart and sent me in a depression that almost a year later i l’m just getting over. But it also changed how i behaved around her and how I treated her.

 

It was like by her saying not to call her Baby kicked me out of my Big Brother headspace. (If there is even such a thing)

 

An in my other relationships it’s the same thing I always just assumed the protector, comfiter, advicor, Big Brother, and Daddy role with out thinking my ex would say i’m too lovie dovie and domineering. She hates pet names, to cuddle, or kiss and she is just a lil less dominate than me.

 

It wasn’t until I started exploring bdsm and came accross cgl that i came to understand that without them knowing i had in my mind made them my littles.

 

But is this normal for Daddy/Mommy Doms to be playing out their roles before they even know anything about cgl?

[jelloprincess]

I'm not a CG but this sounds perfectly normal to me. It's part of who you are! My little side comes out in other contexts too, because it's just part of me. Not everyone will understand it, but that's okay. They don't have to!

 

One quote that helps me is "I'm amazing, but I'm not for everyone."

[DaddyWise]

Thanks I’ll keep that quote in mind

[Guest Acenya]

I'm a bit worried that you got depressed because your best friend's minor little sister didn't want to be called "baby" or other pet names by you anymore. Honestly, I find your reaction a bit unreasonable - if she felt uncomfortable with the words you used, of course you'll have to respect her wishes. Have you thought about why it was so important to be able to call her with affectionate names?

 

Did she understand the relationship between you two, that you held her on a pedestal and you considered her as your baby? Did she know you thought of her as something special?

[DaddyWise]

I'm a bit worried that you got depressed because your best friend's minor little sister didn't want to be called "baby" or other pet names by you anymore. Honestly, I find your reaction a bit unreasonable - if she felt uncomfortable with the words you used, of course you'll have to respect her wishes. Have you thought about why it was so important to be able to call her with affectionate names?

 

Did she understand the relationship between you two, that you held her on a pedestal and you considered her as your baby? Did she know you thought of her as something special?

I know why I went into a depression, i come from a shattered home where i was neva show affection so i give if easy. when it is rejected by someone i have grown attached (in any type of way) to it’s like losing a parent, no big deal tho story of my life.

 

Yes, she know all those things and even when she would call my job to ask for me if they said i was busy she would just tell to tell me Lil Baby is on da phone because she knew nothing would stop from seeing what she wanted. An no i had no problem respecting her wishes I was just hurt by it. She doen’t know it hurr me because i told her my depression was from overwork. An she is now 18 bout to be 19 and she told me to stop calling Baby a few days before Thanksgiving last year.

Edited November 2, 2019 by DaddyWise

[DaddyWise]

Before to many of you start looking where there is nothing. I used the example of my best friends sister because I felt it best show how i acted before I learned anything about cgl. This has nothin to do with her. It is about the question I acted. She is still my lil sister and i’m her big brother we are just not as close.

 

An just so no one will ask I reffer to most younger women as baby it’s just me. Lil Baby is a term i use for the most loved person in my life (in the future it will only by my little).

[SmolAetherr]

i mean a dominant or daddy tends to display traits like that to begin with, every dominant to a greater or lesser extent shows traits like that

 

its not weird i wouldnt worry about this sister too much neither of you knew better at the time but it seems you both do now you can go forward knowing what you want in your little

[DaddyWise]

i mean a dominant or daddy tends to display traits like that to begin with, every dominant to a greater or lesser extent shows traits like that

 

its not weird i wouldnt worry about this sister too much neither of you knew better at the time but it seems you both do now you can go forward knowing what you want in your little

Thank you for the advice. I placed this question in another group i’m in and got the same answer from everyone there as well. It will helped me feel a lot more confident moving forward.

[Guest little Al :P]

i am a mommy and a little, and sometimes (before i knew about cgl) i would go into little space without knowing what it was, and i've always acted like a mother figure to some people, i've been called mom since i was 13, i never thought anything of it because i thought it was normal for girls like me, i've always been very caring and very motherly... ig but it is normal to show those traits before you know about it, being a daddy/mommy or little is a part of who you are, it's part of your personality, it's normal to have acted as a daddy before you knew what it was

[DaddyWise]

i am a mommy and a little, and sometimes (before i knew about cgl) i would go into little space without knowing what it was, and i've always acted like a mother figure to some people, i've been called mom since i was 13, i never thought anything of it because i thought it was normal for girls like me, i've always been very caring and very motherly... ig but it is normal to show those traits before you know about it, being a daddy/mommy or little is a part of who you are, it's part of your personality, it's normal to have acted as a daddy before you knew what it was

Thanks you