LDR Dom

[Truekinkywhale]

So I'm trying to be a Dom in a LDR, and it's hard because I can't get my little to do what I said when I'm being nice. When I'm mean she does but I'm not tryna be mean to her and still Dom. Like I need help with persuasion I guess.How do I be a Dom that's nice?

[Guest Prat]

I.. That's a difficult question to answer. Could be many factors. From the way you impact someone's behavior when you're being "nice" to how your little responds to that. Some littles need a meanie.. I don't know.

[Little kaiya]

Have you talked to your little to confirm that they want a nice Dom? Have you confirmed with your little that they want a Dom vs. a Daddy as they arent necessarily the same thing. If your little isn't listening to you it suggests perhaps that a nicer style may not be what they actually want, that would need to be confirmed or refuted by them though.

 

Not all littlecwant a soft Daddy or a nice Dom. Some want a dynamic that is more strict or a bit harder and there's nothing wrong with that at all. That said, if you want to be a nicer Dom and they want a tougher Dom there may be a fundamental incompatibility in terms of style.

 

Before trying to change your method of persuasion I HIGHLY recommend have a discussion outside of the Dom/little dynamic to ensure you're both on the same page as it sounds like you might not be.

 

Little kaiya

[Guest QueenJellybean]

time for a meta-talk! 

 

sit down with your partner outside of your dynamic, and discuss why she only seems to respond to that sort of tone. 

does she like being talked down to?

does she enjoy you being firm?

is your method effective?

tell her what you told us.