How do I tell my boyfriend im a little?

[genderfluid_little]

So I have a new boyfriend who does not know I am a little I feel like I should tell him that I am a little but I don't know how to I don't think he even knows what a little is. He just thinks I act a bit childish and IDK how to tell him anyone got any ideas on how I can tell him. He doesn't have a problem with me being 'childish' but I have that small bit of hesitance to tell him I mean when he calls me nicknames it doesn't help but I just need advice on how to tell him.

[Little Marie]

I was really nervous to tell my daddy, it took me a while to get where I am now. But I started slow. first ask how he feels about being called daddy, introduce the idea that you are into ddlg, test your waters. that way it doesn't overwhelm your boyfriend with information and he immediately gets scared or becomes uninterested!

Take your time and let him know that it means a lot to you, if he cares, he should be willing to learn and figure it out with you <3

 

Little Marie

Edited October 29, 2019 by Little Marie

[genderfluid_little]

I was really nervous to tell my daddy, it took me a while to get where I am now. But I started slow. first ask how he feels about being called daddy, introduce the idea that you are into ddlg, test your waters. that way it doesn't overwhelm your boyfriend with information and he immediately gets scared or becomes uninterested!

Take your time and let him know that it means a lot to you, if he cares, he should be willing to learn and figure it out with you <3

 

Little Marie

 

Thanks I know he likes being called daddy and he doesn't mind my childish moods im just scared of rejection

[Little kaiya]

Well, the only way you'll now is if you ask him. You really have two choices, dont say anything and wonder and live not being your authentic self or ask and find out for certain. There are no guarantees that if you tell him he will want a DDlg dynamic but on the other hand you guaranteed won't have one if you say nothing.

 

Live in fear or take the chance, the only one who can decide is you.

 

As for how, well, pick a time where you're both not tired, calm, open to discussion. Talk calmly, clearly, confidently and be ready for questions. If you present it as not being an issue he's more apt to receive it that way. On the other hand if you present it as a dirty or bad secret he may view it that way because of how you come across.

 

There's nothing wrong or embarrassing about DDlg, it's just another relationship dynamic is all.

 

Little kaiya

[Guest Sunshinekitty]

Don't ambush him with it, but open up with, "I know you've noticed that sometimes I act like this." And then explain to him that it's not a big deal, but it makes you feel good and all you.

 

Also, maybe listen to dream a little podcast, because the person who runs it is abdl and has a lot of good suggestions of how to talk to your partner when they may not necessarily have been exposed to this before.