I dont know how to be in a relationship.

[Scarlet Blue]

I want to be in a relationship. I want the all day text, the late night phone or video calls. The small surprises we would give each other. And making silly videos together. I want all that but... i have no idea how to be in relationship or how to go about starting one. I have never really been asked out. Never been on a date. Just been... kinda used i guess you can say. I made out with a few guys and almost had sex for the first time just a few weeks ago. It was with a friend but i don’t think i can call him that now since he's not even talking to me. But anyway I knew we were not going to date even tho he asked me out he later said that he just wants to have fun for now. ( i freaking hate) but i gave in this time because I did want to have fun too, i was just tired of being alone or just missing out. So i had some fun and now. I want the real thing more than before. I want dates, meeting each other’s friends, and family. And falling in love and all that. I want something real. But i... its just never my turn. I joined Facebook dating and i don't know what I’m doing. I don't like anyone one on there and if i get one i never do anything with it. I just keep looking at the pictures of the guys. Being too scared to do anything. It’s the same for here. I will see a guys personal and i want to reply or just say something but i keep thinking that they wouldn’t want me so i don't. 

 

I don't know if I’m asking for a lot in the kinda guy i want to be with or if God is just telling me to hold on a bit longer. 

[Bugaboo]

I understand how you feel, I've never really been in a relationship before either, just stuck with little daydreams that i wish would come true. I'm probably not the best to give advice about this stuff, but remember you arent alone! Honestly, just know eventually you'll find someone for you! Being in love takes time, maybe join some discord servers or go out! get to know people- forming a friendship or a bond with someone is always the first step. Please dont ever jump into anything if you're feeling uncomfortable! Being a bit nervous about confessing first or asking someone out is fine! But if you're scared or feel like something isn't right, please don't push yourself to do it. Don't be hard on yourself over any of this, falling in love can unexpected too! So for now, please be gentle with yourself, im sure youll find a relationship and be happy with someone who cares so much about you! I really wish you the best of luck.

[Guest DemureBelle]

. Edited November 11, 2019 by LolitaLittle