Becoming a LDR

[HisTinkerbell]

Heyyyyy! So my Daddy and I have been together and lived in the same town (and mostly attended the same college in the same classes) for two years now but very soon he will have to move away to go to university and I will only be able to see him every two months or so

We're the same age, but due to some health complications I am taking an extra two years to complete my A levels, so I will be staying in in our home town for the next couple of years until it's time to go to university myself.

We are both certain we want to continue to be together, but I am S U P E R scared of him leaving. I've suffered a lot with mental illness and he has always been my safe place to run to whenever things got bad, so now I'm nervous about having to be a big girl and manage my life without his physical presence.

I'm also nervous that we will start to 'drift' and not be so in love any more, so I'm kinda asking for advice on how to prevent drifting and how to deal with being 'alone' for the first time in two years??
Thank you everyone!

[lilvioletcub]

I've been in a LDR for three years, my relationship with my Alpha was based online in fact I'm gonna see him in November the first time in a year or two (last we were in the same room side by side together was Febuary 20th 2013) so while I can't help on the having him then not having him aspect I do know a thing or two of LDR

 

1. Make time for eachother and talk as often as you can set aside time to skype, watch shows togther, and facebook,

2. Coummincate how your feeling

3. Color in a coloring book when you feel lonley it takes your mind off the LDR.

 

Both him and I have mental illnesses as well a big part of what helps is TV dates where we skype and watch the same show together, as well as talking as much as possible and from time to time sending eachother things for example he sent me a poem with his scent on it <3

Drawing pictures for him, writing little morning messeges on his facebook things like that. Help a great deal.

 

Also remebering you are not "Alone" in the sense of having no one there you'll just be lonely your Daddy will make time for you and you should for him me and alpha have at least 4 hours a night together and making sure you know eachothers sechudals and such is also a big big help.

Saving money to be able to see eachother and keeping up with the DD/lg routines and dynamics you may have in place are also helpful (I know with the first and am guessing with the second)

 

 

All of this will help prevent the drifting and even though it will be sad at times LDR might help you have a stronger relationship then you do now

[DaddyJsPrincess]

My Daddy and I were in a LDR up until just a few months ago, but under very different circumstances, so I may not be the best help for you but I will try. :3

 

During times when we knew it was gonna be a while before we saw eachother again, we had regular Skype dates through the week. We bought gifts for the other on Amazon when we could afford it as a surprise. We started our tumblr page when we were apart so that we could more easily share our fantasies and hopes for the future. He made sure to like everything I posted on Pinterest (and he still does) just to make sure I know that he's always thinking of me.

 

For more specific examples, you could check out my tumblr posts under the "homework" tag. I kept a daily journal there while Daddy and I were apart and it outlines a lot of the struggles we had and the ways we managed to cope with them.

 

I wish the best for you and your Daddy, sweetie♡

[HisTinkerbell]

Oh my gosh thank you so much for your wonderful advice guys!! I'll be sure to try these things!!