lose the plot

[Heartthrobgoof]

I am starting this issue topic beacause of the following matter. First of all I want to admit that I feel daddy and I am in this dynamic for years, Littles/princess/middles etc when you are chatting with a random daddy and use childish words or acting -ish does not mean that the daddy is yours. You have the freedom to act whatever you want even if you do not mind to find a daddy. For me is suitable fine. In the opposite side when a daddy calls himself daddy when is chatting with you does not mean that is your daddy. I have faced this issued hundreds times. I do not know if the reason is that there thousands of fake caregivers here or people are losing the plot. As a caregivers we have feelings too and at some point we should stop receive behaviors like this. 

[Guest Littledreamer95]

Both actually. I would say you're correct in both sides. Many fake ones but also people not realising the dynamic and the bond that is required.

Thank you for writing this. So important!

[Little Marie]

I think there are lots of different dynamics. I personally could be in little space around other doms and be okay with it, but how i interact with them would be entirely different than how i would with My daddy while in little space. But I don't think that everyone thinks that way. 

 

 

Little Marie

[Little kaiya]

Personally, I wouldn't be in littlespace and trying to interact with a Daddy that isn't mine. One, it would make me uncomfortable, 2) I find it would be disrespectful to my Daddy and 3) I find it disrespectful to the other Daddy and their little if they have one.

 

In the same way, my Daddy would be highly uncomfortable if a little tried interacting with him using a Daddy/little dynamic and I wouldn't be very happy either.

 

I think perhaps it's because for us it isn't a platonic relationship, it's something that is very integral to our relationship and because of that we view the dynamic as very intimate and therefore not something we would open to others or welcome others trying with us.

 

Little kaiya

[Heartthrobgoof]

Personally, I wouldn't be in littlespace and trying to interact with a Daddy that isn't mine. One, it would make me uncomfortable, 2) I find it would be disrespectful to my Daddy and 3) I find it disrespectful to the other Daddy and their little if they have one.

 

In the same way, my Daddy would be highly uncomfortable if a little tried interacting with him using a Daddy/little dynamic and I wouldn't be very happy either.

 

I think perhaps it's because for us it isn't a platonic relationship, it's something that is very integral to our relationship and because of that we view the dynamic as very intimate and therefore not something we would open to others or welcome others trying with us.

 

Little kaiya

I did not raise this matter to find out who is acting "good" or "bad" in their relationship. There are poly littles and caregivers too. As you have the freedom to act as a little, caregivers can not pretend that they are not caregivers in case the little find it offensive. Of course there are different limits for everyone but lets set up them under discussion.

 

With respect.

Edited October 27, 2019 by Heartthrobgoof

[Little kaiya]

I did not raise this matter to find out who is acting "good" or "bad" in their relationship. There are poly littles and caregivers too. As you have the freedom to act as a little, caregivers can not pretend that they are not caregivers in case the little find it offensive. Of course there are different limits for everyone but lets set up them under discussion.

 

With respect.

I never made any judgment about who is acting "good or bad" as you seem to be implying. I shared my perspective, without judgment, for MY relationship which is the fundamental basis of discussion.

 

My Daddy, Wife and I are in fact poly as anyone who has read any of my posts is well aware so I'm not sure of your exact point.

 

I also never said Caregivers or littles shouldn't be who they are but that being said, it doesn't give either one the right to engage another human being in a DDlg dynamic without consent. Just because someone is a caregiver doesnt confer consent to treat a little in a DDlg manner and the same goes for the opposite direction. DDlg, like any relationship dynamic, needs to be agreed to by ALL parties whether that's a couple or more.

 

I'm not sure what about my post caused you issues but,like any topic, I'm always open to discussion.

 

Little kaiya

[Heartthrobgoof]

I never made any judgment about who is acting "good or bad" as you seem to be implying. I shared my perspective, without judgment, for MY relationship which is the fundamental basis of discussion.

 

My Daddy, Wife and I are in fact poly as anyone who has read any of my posts is well aware so I'm not sure of your exact point.

 

I also never said Caregivers or littles shouldn't be who they are but that being said, it doesn't give either one the right to engage another human being in a DDlg dynamic without consent. Just because someone is a caregiver doesnt confer consent to treat a little in a DDlg manner and the same goes for the opposite direction. DDlg, like any relationship dynamic, needs to be agreed to by ALL parties whether that's a couple or more.

 

I'm not sure what about my post caused you issues but,like any topic, I'm always open to discussion.

 

Little kaiya

Your post did not cause me any issues. I wanted to be clear. I totaly agree with your prespective.

Edited October 27, 2019 by Heartthrobgoof

[Chiby]

There are many that do use and or act in their "roles" without the others concent.

 

I can only say what I personally think of it.

 

It's never ok in my book to do this without the others concent. But it might be seen as more bad when a cg is doing it because a cg is the dominant part and IT may ve very intimidating to have someone trying to control you out of the blue.

( Please don't misunderstand it's wrong for a little to do the same.) But in my case a person that I just started to talk to can put me into littlespace and I act a bit more childish then. And Ironically I get more flirty. So for me personally ( because I want and need a cg that is also my lover and partner in life) when I get into little space I am interested in this person. But I would never act as he is my cg. Instead I would tell the person that I'm interested and then see were it goes from there.

 

But I guess not all littles want long term things. Just as in normal life there are those who likes to "play" around. A way to feel better about themselves.

 

Sorry if I got totally out of topic.

Edited December 4, 2019 by Chiby