how to tell bf that i'm little?..

[lil-kitten-kisses]

I have been a little girl for as long as I can remember. But I only just found the dd/lg community last year. Finding this community allowed me to shed my guilt and branch out. I really found myself during this past year and I am confident that the dd/lg dynamic is right for me. In fact, I think it's what I NEED.

 

Here is where things get stressful, I have a long distance seemingly vanilla bf. I told him about dd/lg.. But I never explained it in depth... I really want to sit him down and tell him that I am a little, and would like to try and pursue a dd/lg relationship with him. But this subject is a little controversial in the outside world, ya know? I

don't want to hide this side of me from him anymore, since it is such a huge part of me. But i'm scared..

 

How do I gently tell him this secret? How do I say this in a way that doesn't freak him out? I really care about him, but I feel unfulfilled. Please help me~

[Pablo Neruda]

What did you tell him exactly? Was he comfortable talking about? Do you think he would be open to it?

 

Just sit him down, tell him what being a little means to you, what you expect from such a relationship. If you want to pursue this dynamic with him, I guess you're comfortable with him and trust him a lot. Which is a great way to start.

 

It's never easy to talk about "controversial" things with an "outsider", but let me tell you a secret. If you don't act like it's a huge deal and are open about it, people will not treat it as such.

 

Be prepared for eventual questions he may ask and answer them with confidence. Provide some material he can read up on. If he feels the same way for you, than you feel for him, he will make an effort to understand you and the lifestyle.

 

All in all, you know best. Think about your relationship right now and you will know how to approach it and when.

 

Good luck to you

[forest fairy]

My husband actually liked being called Daddy in bed long before we ever learned about DD/lg, so I had a feeling he might be into it. The concept of a regular D/s relationship might be easier for some guys to understand. I would just ease him into it slowly. 

[Daddys__kitten]

My daddy has always referred to himself as "daddy" since he is one assume. So one night when we had sex I called (ok, maybe more of a scream) him daddy, I have no idea where that came from, but it really turned him on. So after that I started to call him daddy all the time, and with that I also started acting more childlike because.. it felt natural I guess? A couple of weeks later I found a post on tumblr about dd/lg, and everything just clicked "aha, so it's THIS we've been doing" hahaha.

So we never had a big discussion about it, it just kinda happend.

[Daddys__kitten]

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