The Importance of Communicating - little to big, big to litte

[Guest Deleteplease]

It is apparent the biggest problem I hear about between big and their littles (mainly from the littles) is the break down in communication between little and big and big and little.

 

After all, we are only human and we do all have our own thoughts and we can all be a little bit selfish which is natural and normal.

 

I ask this question,  If you do not express how you feel, how will the other person know.  (this works both ways)

 

As much as you know, understand and love someone, Neither of you are mind readers and as such things do need to be discussed even if you dont want to

 

 

What may seem like something small to a big i.e,  missing a phone call, can feel huge to a little, the impact can be vast, It can make them feel hurt, rejected, unwanted.

 

My advice, Good communication,  If you are unable to do something IE make a phone call, a dinner date, be home in time etc etc then explain to your little be honest,  dont just think it will be ok because the worst thing you can do is just leave it.  Even with the most understanding of littles, the more it happens the less understanding they can be.

 

I believe letting your little know means although they will be sad you can reassure them and this defuse any future problems.

 

Now - The Flip side

 

Littles, communicating with your daddies.  Try to understand daddies can get stressed and have a lot on.  If you feel you are being neglected, you need to communicate but not in a tantrum Daddy could be having a hard time and he hasnt told you because he doesnt want to burden his little with adult issues.

 

Again bring me back to, you are both not mind readers, if you dont tell each other you will not know and it will cause problems.

 

Daddies do need a break, they will need adult company, they will want to go and do adult things and as a well looked after little you should be happy daddy does these things because this makes him happy like your stuffy makes you happy.

 

I hope this helps and I am happy to discuss any further info or any further issues people may be having.

 

Just remember if your daddy is being distant, their is probably a reason, and if your little is acting up, again their will be a reason.  

 

Great communication is key to a long lasting healthy relationship.

 

Hope this helps

 

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Absolutely right, yes. A fault of mine in the past is to hold onto gripes and niggling issues. Instead of talking about them straight away, I keep them in my own head then in the end they come out in a tirade of fury, and the poor reciprocate is like "what on earth just happened?? " lol.

But now with my daddy I'm so open and so badly against that happening with him, I maybe go too far the other way. Going on and on immediately.

I need to find a happy medium.

Thank you for posting

[Guest Deleteplease]

Youre welcome,  And yes, maybe work on the happy medium.

 

I would suggest to scale your issue 1-10  how important is it,  of 10 being must talk now and 1 being it can wait a few days.  then this may help you know when to mention things at the right times.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Thank you. For one thing if he's busy and stressed already, piling on more stress won't help!

[Guest Deleteplease]

This is also true, but then it is down to him to manage is own stress levels,  you cant take all the responsibility, people with problems have to sort them theselves.  

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Yes that's true. He's a good man and handles my craziness really well so these little slip ups are worth it x

[daddyhugs]

This is certainly nothing to take too lightly and not only at the beginning of the Daddy/Little dynamic but throughout.  It was a failure on my part to not communicate to my little, and while I thought I was protecting her from something, I was actually hurting her more than I ever could have imagined and, what's more, it was hurting me just as bad (even though I didn't realize it until later).  I know now that while littles may be more emotionally fragile they are also the most forgiving, loving and understanding people on earth and there is not one good reason to be afraid to tell your little anything you need to.   Just my thoughts, i guess.

[Guest Deleteplease]

  On 9/19/2015 at 1:00 AM, daddyhugs said:

This is certainly nothing to take too lightly and not only at the beginning of the Daddy/Little dynamic but throughout.  It was a failure on my part to not communicate to my little, and while I thought I was protecting her from something, I was actually hurting her more than I ever could have imagined and, what's more, it was hurting me just as bad (even though I didn't realize it until later).  I know now that while littles may be more emotionally fragile they are also the most forgiving, loving and understanding people on earth and there is not one good reason to be afraid to tell your little anything you need to.   Just my thoughts, i guess.

 

Thank you for sharing DaddyHugs,  This was the reason for my post, Just to help people understand that these relationships we build do need nurturing and without communication problems can turn into monsters. I hope youre doing well and again thank you for sharing. 

[daddyhugs]

I am doing great! (And getting even better!)  Thanks Twitch!